What is going to Change a Narcissist? How do you get them to change?

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Tune in to hear the perspective of a self aware narcissist. That’s me - Ben Taylor a narcissist in recovery trying to promote awareness, healing, growth and change. I do that by these videos on here, TikTok, Instagram and Facebook.

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[chriscole]

From what I've learned most narcissist are lazy they wouldn't want to put in any work that will change their bad behavior. I'm sure their quite comfortable the way they are. Their so use to manipulation the gaslighting, future faking, triangulating and so on and these things work for them. They probably look at it like if it's not broke don't fix it. But I do hope more narcissist will be willing to change their behavior and change for the better 🙏

[teluguviraal]

I am a narcissist, I want to change. I want to change good, my relationship. Throughout all my life, i never had meaningful relationships with anyone. All the relationships are superficial for me.
The content in the quora and everywhere is heartbreaking. Everyone is saying that there's is no place fonarcissistsst on this earth, i didn't know hadve this disorder, I lost beautiful relations in my life because of this. I dont want to lose anyone further. I need a change.

[PassionateFlower]

Nothing will change a Narcissist. A narcissist will change tactics each time they hit a different "bottom" personally or professionally, and switch gears to maintain or salvage supply. But at least some are on here trying to spare victims a similar fate at their hands by cracking the narc code. But it's still supply. But I still support as I'm gratefully benefiting from the knowledge from a safe distance🦋🌼

[elesaknowles]

Most will not unless until they hit rock bottom and drive everyone off and they have nothing and no one and become suicidal.

[emmamonroe]

You can’t lead a horse to water and make him drink. Life doesn’t work like that. Live in the reality you are in. Things will get better once you know what this is and keep learning. OMG, you just said the horse comment. THAT IS SO TRUE!👍🏻

[beautyshines]

nobody can change a person except themselves unless they are willing to change to be a better person.

[Spark-Hole]

They can change but may be 10%. When they realised their tactic is failure.

[raydurka]

Light & Love to you...
You give me hope.

[josievaccaro]

It makes sense. I'm finding it hard to change without the traits. But, I would rather admit that I'm wrong and move forward and grow than be stuck in a loop forever. It's still so painful. If future me had to look back and will have toughened up by then, that would be one massive change in itself.

[april-motj]

So lazy!! I’m going to say “you’re too lazy to change” my next discard lol. Sad but true. Riding out this next cycle. It’s the 1500th one so I get kinda numb to it. But I’m saying that this time

[harmonyvaneaton]

When you think about it, their behaviors get them their way. They don't care if it hurts other people. They don't even care if they lose people. They can go get new people. They care about getting their way, all the time. You can ask them to give that up, but you can't make them.

[andydruck]

I am a 41 year old male. Destroyed my marriage and relationship with the 1 person who actually wanted best for me. I don't really know how I got this way. But it's terrible. Subscribed, help.

[jaimematus]

The Narcissist will never change! Why? because it's a curse!

Genesis 4:10-14
10 And he said, What hast thou done? the voice of thy brother's blood crieth unto me from the ground.

11 And now art thou cursed from the earth, which hath opened her mouth to receive thy brother's blood from thy hand;

12 When thou tillest the ground, it shall not henceforth yield unto thee her strength; a fugitive and a vagabond shalt thou be in the earth.

13 And Cain said unto the Lord, My punishment is greater than I can bear.

14 Behold, thou hast driven me out this day from the face of the earth; and from thy face shall I be hid; and I shall be a fugitive and a vagabond in the earth; and it shall come to pass, that every one that findeth me shall slay me.

[nappyfries]

You’re doing the work just like other narcissists that are self aware & in therapy & trying but it has to be what they want bc they see a problem with themselves. I hope the ones that really want it will get the help they need.

[Primitiveinstinct]

Man thanks. This got me thinking maybe I am a narcissist.

[Mjones]

Not my cov narcissist. She didn't think or admit she was at fault for anything. Told me I needed the therapy and communicated poorly.

[marcrochat]

Wow took the words out mouth. Inspiring. If I can't tell my wife she is one then I hope sending this video to her will help and get her to realize she needs to change or I want out. Narcissism it's hatred. Why am I with her, kids or not ???

[ly]

Hope you don't mind more questions. Were you a narcissist who also did that to your parents and other family members? Ie living off your parents but seeing nothing except bad nasty things about them? I actually always loved my parents for what they did for me, of course there were times when I felt they weren't right, I got punished, often I felt were unfair punishments, but I could feel gratitude for what they did, and with that appreciation and gratitude came love, and wanting to do something nice for them back. I remember small moments, like buying food, clothes, drawing me a bath, asking me if I would like them to talk to a bully in school, etc. even though they were small everyday acts and words. I felt nothing abnormal when helping with housework, felt it was only right for me to work harder in school for better results. I didn't feel entitled, the attitude that I did something right so I should be "rewarded" by my parents. "Do the right thing" was simply something I felt inclined to do. With a narcissist it's like pouring love, care, generosity into a Black Hole. None of it ever registered or mattered. Not anything you bought for them, did for them registered. It's as if none of that happened. They only look at you with a critical disgusted eye, never "thanks" or an appreciative word, only finding faults, until even the food I spent time buying, cooking to them is just a disgusting mess, and they felt no qualms telling you how disgusting they find you. It's not "too lazy" to change, it's as if that normal Golden Rule social behavior thoughts and feelings don't exist at all. They know these cognitively, but because they don't feel them, these don't apply. How did you cross that threshold and Change? Just Changing isn't about only behaviors, it's about Changing in a fundamental way until you see clearly every truths. It's like a miracle that you are able to normalize. I actually don't want to have any narcissists in my life, not even family.

[KellyMartin]

Yep. I'm fighting for my life but afraid I'll have to let go. I've lost myself before and will not do it again

[Robocop-qele]

I don't buy this narcissist change; it is impossible. it works wonders for them to manipulate people; its nice to be a king, I cannot imagine how it is to feel like god itself. my narc wanted to change me, of course.
I know they suffer and they will suffer until death and possibly beyond; but i think until healing the codependent suffer much more intensity wise. I had immense pity for them when they were in hate, rage and all the demonic shows they generate. The fact that you just cannot help them it makes the feelings of the co-dependent a mess very difficult to cope: grief for yourself, frustration, betrayal, hopelessness, nothingness, vacuum, absence, death, etc. fcking hell. and the horror to know you lived with an entity masquerading as a human being when in fact they were eating you alive 24/7.
If there is a hell the narcissist must be the CEO.