How To Deal With Toxic People - 10 Ways

The 10 Ways to Deal with Toxic People

It’s tempting to want to live your life completely alone when there’s too much happening in this world. It never exactly came with an “off” switch. And you entered it just as fast and messily, like the flooding of a stream with no warning —no how-to manual —nothing. Unfortunately, you don’t have much control over who you cross paths with. Sometimes, these people, whether they’re your co-workers, family members, friends, or lovers, can be the worst things to happen to you. They are disguised and masked by titles that are supposed to add color and liveliness to your life, but in fact, only do the opposite by bringing you down with their difficult, harmful behavior.
So, if are suffering from an environment of toxic people, and want to know how to deal with them, then stay with me till the end of the video, because we will reveal the 10 ways to deal with toxic people in your life.
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Number 10: Know who you are — inside and out.
The more you develop a strong sense of who you are, the less power someone has to bring you down. If you find yourself often uncertain of what your strengths and weaknesses are, it gives someone else a chance to define who you are through their lenses. And when that person is toxic, what they see in you will only prevent you from growing into who you are meant to be. To prevent losing yourself completely, delve into hobbies that bring meaning to your life.
Join clubs and meet like-minded people who share the same passions as you. Your interests, dreams, and goals are what will help anchor you when a toxic person decides to call you out on your flaws. When you are sure of what excites you and what you’re talented at, it makes it easier to block out their toxic opinions, because you realize at the end of the day, all that really matters is what you think of yourself and how you will drive yourself to live and establish the life you are striving for.

Number 9. Be aware of the destructive patterns and cycle.
Toxic people are good at getting what they want, and they do that through clever, calculated behavior. The only way to break free from their destructive patterns is by recognizing them. Initially, toxic people are charming. They’ll be attentive and try to impress you, making you feel loved and respected. But, once they gain your trust, that’s when things take a turn for the worse. They’ll begin to demand a lot from you and pull your emotional strings.
When you feel like you’ve been doing all of the work, only to reach a wall instead of getting anything in return, and you’re ready to leave, they’ll do something to get your attention, making you think that they’re coming around, only to have the cycle repeat itself. But that’s how they get you —when they occasionally give you what you want, only to keep you coming back for more. Don’t be fooled by their tactics. Most importantly, know that you deserve more than just games from someone.

Number 8. Forgive, but never forget.
You can’t undo the past and the hurt that they’ve caused you, but you can still work on moving forward and letting go. Forgiving someone doesn’t mean accepting their toxic behavior.

Number 7. Find support in positive people who respect you.
This is especially important if the toxic people are those whom you call your parents or coworkers that you can’t easily stray from.

Number 6. Don’t expect change.
Don’t let your optimism blind you. While it’s great that despite all the wrongdoings, you can still see the goodness in people, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re going to change for the better anytime soon. Toxic people know that you have a big, open heart, and they will take advantage of it every chance they get.

Number 5. Learn what not to become; be the bigger person.
This is something I can strongly resonate with. Take note of the kind of behavior and actions toxic people in your life have expressed and allow them to make you a better person.

Number 4. Limit your time and interactions with them.
If possible, try to minimize contact with them as much as possible. If your coworker is toxic, ask for desk rearrangements if they’re in close proximity to you.

Number 3. Say no. Say it loud, proud, and clear!
You can help them out during times of trouble, but you don’t have to help them out every step of the way.

Number 2. Don’t feel obligated to explain yourself all the time.
The thing about toxic people is that they constantly demand things from you, explanations being no exception.

Number 1. Focus on problem-solving, rather than the problem itself.
It might be tempting to ruminate over what is upsetting you, playing the bad actions over and over again in your head.