How to co parent with a Narcissist

Are you co-parenting or parallel parenting?

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[amandawright]

I wish I knew what to do when they refuse to communicate with you at all concerning the children or use them as messengers. Getting really really old.🙄 And we all know court is a joke unless you can afford an attorney. Once my babies are grown, I'm throwing a party like never before celebrating never having to deal with him again!

[rodrickgriffin]

I can't think of anything that could be better said!💯

[laurapennings]

I would love to hear some examples of what you are talking about😊

[corrieannfletcher]

I do exactly that, zero expectations do it all myself. Only input from ex is to complicate things. No contact is the best way with 1 email address he thinks is monitored IF there’s any info I should know and as he does absolutely nothing there rarely is. I have to say it’s very stressful

[ma.r]

How to prevent my daughter from being manipulated by her Father?

[nellethejumperguy]

I'm just gonna be there for my kids and show them happiness. So they keep happy energy and not sad energy that there mom and me won't be together. Best thing I can do and I practice this now, got good results. 😌

[parandpourakbarian]

What to do as a child of an narcissistic abuse marriage? What do you teach your children to be able to cope with the narc parent? Because I have siblings and they’re underaged and they have to spend time with the narc parent

[studiomacleod]

My narcissistic coparent is on the warpath and using family law court to accuse me of all sorts of terrible things and financially abuse me. Any advice? I’m desperate.

[chasemarkham]

After a solid year of successfully grey rocking, I lost it on him this week. We got into it over the summer schedule and I mean, I lost it. Reactive abuse if you will. I am having a really hard time forgiving myself and moving on. I made so much progress and now I feel I am back to square one. He told me our marriage meant nothing to him and he completely forgot it. It actually hurt. Advice for moving on from this would be great.

[Zoglizzy]

How can I parent my child when I can’t see her the mother threw a false order protection on me

[Sam-sqgq]

Hi I need some advice I understand that parenting with a narc is counter parenting, how do you deal with the manipulation of them trying to go so much against everything your doing contradicting everything, purposely trying to bring a reaction to make you look like the crazy one trying to copy things you do that work and trying to shame you and belittle you to create an unlivable environment that makes you feel not welcome, things have gone so down so quickly I don’t want competitive parenting but it seems like it’s being brought like this and I don’t want to play this game, the narc has no self control and wants to be free and be cherished but doesn’t see to put others needs also, the narc has gotten so good at manipulating everyone around and using them against me. Anyone had or has this experience? And solutions for the madness?

[Iamstephaniesamuels]

What if the narcissist father was abusive? And the best thing for child and self seems like complete separation?

[jennifercook]

My narcissistic co parent wants visitation. I have bent over backwards to make sure that our boys have time with their dad. The issue is that our visitation plan is out of date. I have sent emails and texts to my ex asking to set aside time to talk about a new visitation with no response. Instead, my ex filed a motion to re establish visitation stating that I am denying him time with our boys. He also believes that Friend of the Court is actively trying to take my side. Although it has been spelled out to him that Friend of the Court does not get anything out of taking one side over another. He makes things so difficult. What can I do? Why is he acting like this?

[stickyandsweetie]

I just met his ex! She told me about serious violence..sleeping with prostitutes, lots of abuse..what do I do now? Get a solicitor? She shouldn't go and stay there she's only 2. Worried he will so something crazy when she's there

[sarahrettell]

Yes I think the BIGGEST thing is helping our children learn Who they are. Not just the poster the abuser paints.
We were never allowed to feel Any feelings while we were in the toxic family setting. And without true feeling we just became this washed out canvas.
Now that we have been free for almost 8 months we have all been able to choose our color and our ‘medium’ to reflect who we are and really Always redirecting a conflict for an opportunity to ‘hit up the canvas’ has done Wonders for us ❤️‍🩹💞
Stay strong out there folks 💚

[shayalexander]

I’ve decided to just do it on my own. He can go about business.

[katiestuart]

I have been dealing with a abusive, and idk if it's narcissistic behavior, but I can't in good faith give my kid(4yo) to his father My kid comes back mute and explosive when he comes back, my ex doesn't take the medical advice of doctors who have been more present then him, not to mention doesn't think about his well being in overall. I told him take me to court... he keeps trying to renegotiate... I've tried to do it his way and each time my kid just comes back and I have to calm him down. I have told my ex I don't think our child is "able" to handle the back and forth and he's like stop making excuses, I have gave him good reasons each time I have pulled myself and kid away from his dad and he says I am just keeping him away from him for no reason I am at a loss

[Iamstephaniesamuels]

What if the narcissist father was abusive? And the best thing for child and self seems like complete separation?

[tinamontoya]

Thank you. I needed to hear this today.

[lasanchaadventures]

What am I supposed to say to our 15 year old son about the reason why I can no longer be in the relationship with his mother?