How to parent with a narcissist. Why Co Parenting with a toxic ex is difficult if they're narcissist

How to parent with a narcissist. Why Co Parenting with a toxic ex is difficult if they're narcissist

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware #narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( #NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the #Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

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Click the BEACON up top for direct links. Thank you so much and lets HEAL together

[bobiijae]

I just have to say how amazed I am by this man. It is not easy admitting your faults, especially when those faults or characteristics are actually mental health diagnosis. I have actually directed about 10 people to this channel to help people that have a Narcissist in the family, friend group or relationship, to help them better help that person or multiple people. You are amazing my good sir, if only more folks with Narcissistic personality Disorder could do what you are doing, it help them better understand 5hemselves and how others around them feel. Keep up the amazing progress and work! You are a true inspiration my friend! So much love to you and your beautiful family!

[temeikawatts]

Yep!! I had to go to court and get visitations in writing. It was tiring before that… he made everything difficult.

[MrsSomma]

I call my ex "Uncle Dad” 😂 because he’s the fun adventurous one and I don’t get a choice in being the responsible "mean mommy". But I’m okay with it now because I know at the end of the day, my children have a stable, loving and comfortable home to go to with me.

[Gthesecondpower]

When we first really separated I got jacked around like this a lot. I was going crazy until I finally told him this:

if I don't hear confirmation from you within (X_ days) of when you're coming down here (he splits his time in another location), I'll assume you're not coming and will make other plans. If you're hours late for pickup and I had plans (this will only work if your kids are old enough to be legally left alone) I guess that means your son's going to be here by himself and you'll either have to come and get him, or you'll have to call your mom to ask her to pick him up.

Basically I made it extremely clear that I was not going to let my life be inconvenienced by his lack of consideration for my time.

[ASE_Avenue]

My ex narc is in some trouble she violated the custody order 11 times. I have documentation since March of her and her family. Gate keeping/ alienating my kids from being home with me. My lawyer gave me word that her own lawyer wants to drop her as a client she was not truthful nor listened to her lawyer. Judge finna get her ass now. Not to speak the state will most likely press charges on her for fake abuse claims with a whole other court case she made based off the fact I made a court case for custody first. She never let my kids talk with me use my kids as a weapon along with her fam. With a narc go straight to court. I missed my sons 3rd bday cus of her.

[TheRealCee]

The level of self awareness is amazing. Thank u for posting to allow me to see this from a different angle.

[mimimyers]

Thank you so much for this video. I had an extra hard day with dealing with crazy behavior at exchange yesterday. There’s not much out there talking about different parenting strategies since courts often promote co parenting which does NOT work when dealing with this type of personality. Thank you for pointing me in a better direction 🙏

[beccamartin]

He ghosts us for weeks at a time n expects me to be available when he comes back on the scene to play daddy for a day or two! He doesnt parent he plays with her for 10 mins when I have attended to all her needs I e fed her changed her etc has a cheek to find fault in all I do, I'm sick of it!! 😔 I hate the guy with a passion.

[honeiir]

Does a person ever survive coparenting with a narcissist? And waiting for them I start to hate them honestly

[grantwillings]

This is gold! My ex does this to the T and the irony is her and her mother have posted your videos and memes by the dozens on their social media platforms!

[abrielshell]

Now I see why my abusive husband's child's mother always spiraled out on him. She felt like he was saying things to trigger her which he probably did because he does it to me. I would never know because he would always keep their conversations very secretive. This is crazy. I have 3 by this man and I've been trying to figure out my parenting plan because i did file separation papers. I know he'll try to take our children around people who are not safe to have around them. I'm terrified at this point, not for me but my children. Im going to look up the parallel parenting though.

Thank you.

[ADORABEL]

This is soooo accurate omgg exactly what you say! That is what he is doing

[ElainaDowns-hr]

I’m in a situation to where not only does he have narcissistic traits but he’s also a criminal. And I’m so tired of the whole “oh so you’re just not gonna let me have a relationship with my child” the answer is no. I genuinely feel that the best thing you can do is stay no contact, accept who that person is and leave it be. I’ve said it to him multiple times that he will never use his son as an excuse to keep a relationship with me. Right now I’m in a child support battle. I’m serving it and until he’s made real life changes he will not be in and out my son’s life. Especially because that relationship with me is gone. I just think in situations like this if that person is showing they aren’t fit nor truly care about the child’s well being, go ahead and gain full custody, put them on child support and move on with your life. Cause 9/10 people like this never change and it gets worse with time. I don’t have to deal with anything I don’t want too. I would rather my son’s father not be around then in and out of his life when he chooses. That does nothing but hurt the child at the end of the day

[_luckicharms]

Currently stuck in a hoover cycle. technically were separated but living together because finances and location. im an ocean away from my family. coming to your channel helps keep me grounded.

[chuckiedavidson]

Sometimes even having stuff in writing doesn’t help.

[AnandaLaVita]

Unfortunately some people feel too vulnerable in the legal system to go to court. What are some other options out there besides court?

[TheFaro]

Hate tiktok. Stopped shorts. I appreciate this. My ex is s prick narc. I know it's going to end up being parallel parent and I'm going to enjoy it

[deep]

Still going thru it now co-parenting is a f***ing struggle… We slept together we were on good terms she went on a trip with siblings came back an told me not to contact her anymore just email… let me get our child once this year! Don’t answer my calls if she does hangs up in my face! Our child is almost 18! She only came to stay with me 8x in her whole life💯

[KimberlyJohnson-pszq]

I am constantly told how I am a bad parent, that I am doing more harm than good to the kids. I am also told that I need to leave my spouse and the kids are better off with me.

[bobhope]

My narc ex withheld our daughter and smeared my name like crazy for a very long time. So the court gave her primary custody even though the child custody evaluator said she was abusing me. But as they say "It's more difficult to change custody than force visitation. So basically if your ex beats up your child for 3 years and you can provide a safe home, it's more traumatizing to change custody than forcing more visitation time". It's mind boggling that any politician thinks that this makes sense. The family court is designed for narcissists and abusers. That's why they love going there. It's like their 2nd home.

Now she's abusing our daughter and hurting me, tries to control my time and it's really tiring to go through.