Coparenting With A Narcissist Is Impossible

The job of parenting becomes a million times more difficult when you're co-parenting with someone that has a narcissistic personality disorder. The truth of the matter is if you're truly dealing with a narcissist, you are not coparenting... you are "parallel parenting" which means you are taking your own approach to parenting while minimizing contact with the narcissist parent. In this video, I provide 10 tips to survive parallel parenting with a narcissist.

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About Me
Hi! I'm Lise Leblanc. I am a therapist, life coach, and author of 9 self-healing guides. I have over 20 years of experience in therapeutic, educational, and leadership roles.

Introduction (0:00)
Dealing With a Narcissist (1:13)
Parallel Parenting (4:04)
Remember These 3 Things - No Simple Fix (5:48)
Strategies to Help You (10:22)

#narcissist, #NPD, #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder, #covertnarcissism, #femalenarcissist

[metricdeep]

The therapist that said my wife was the problem was the one we never had a second appointment with.

[j.seashell]

Probably the worse part of the gaslighting is when the narcissist manipulates you into thinking you are the narcissist and they are the victim. You start to believe it especially when there is that little bit of truth mixed in with lots of lies. I think you mentioned in another video where the person being victimized can act out like the narcissistic partner. This was absolutely nuclear and caused me to question my sanity and I was obsessed asking myself “what if I am the narcissist?”

[thisisalinemartins]

Co parent with a narcissist is literally a hell I pray God every day to help me. They literally want make you crazy 😭

[buddhastl]

Dealt with this for 18 years. Still wear the scars of depression to this day. Regardless, I endured and my daughter loves me so much for it. Anyone going thru this please understand your child needs you so much in this situation. It is hell on earth to be forced to accept abuse for many years but it’s a sacrifice we must make for our children. All I can say is in the end it’s worth it.

[wbblydinkbink]

I am a father of 2 sons, 6 and 8, thank you for taking the effort to make this and other videos, it is a life saver for anyone who is at the brink of mental collapse.

[changedahanddlessss]

dam its heartbreaking to hear this shit.. shout out to the men and women that deal with this..

[bellanfante]

I'm telling you from experience, everything that this lady is saying is razor sharp factual!!! I been doing this for years !! Years!! I was doing everything she is saying before this video. And I'm telling you, I'm listen to her like she is sent from Jesus!!

[RubensSSouza]

100% accurate!
My nex has explicitly said to me that we will "not co-parent". She wants total control of the situation. I ignore her now, but I reacted in the past. Big mistake. But in the end, I am happy to have be free from her abuse. 20 years of a failed marriage with 3 gorgeous children, a brand new big house just built 2 years ago, good jobs and comfort. But, nothing is enough for these vile creatures. So, I now live in a rented apartment, in a minimalistic life style, and my children enjoy visiting me. Our divorce was on June 2nd. One day after Narc Abuse Awareness day on June 1st.
And I have just subscribed to your channel.
I follow quite a few channels for about 3 years now. And I have found out about less than a week ago. You're absolutely amazingly accurate. Thank you very much.

[stephen]

As they yell at you to tell you how worthless you are, what you do is ask them not to do such things in the children’s presence, because you are trying to protect the children. They respond by blaming you for using the children as pawns! I’m not making this up! This is what they do! Disengage as thoroughly as possible!

[tballstaedt]

The system is set up to protect women from narcissistic males. Protecting men from narcissistic women is another matter. Listening to this brings up the panic and horror of my days as an ex husband with 2 small children. Man I sure needed you 15 years ago.

[Binny]

This hits so close to home it makes me sick to think about the situation and how it’s affecting my daughter.

[mitchconnor]

I know a woman who is a covert narcissist and she had to sign her rights away as a mother and the father has all the say, needless to say I have never met her ex husband but he is my hero for putting that soulless b**** in her place.

[michaelsmith]

Best video on co parenting with a covert narcissist.

[JoelSantirso]

How I wish I had seen this video when my then love of my life took our baby daughter, our beloved cat, and everything that we had built together, and left me with nothing but blame, hatred, guilt, debt, and deep, existential confusion.

I later understood that I had inadvertently fallen in an idealize/devalue/discard relationship with a female covert narcissist, everything made sense, and I started working on my own issues (my own codependent traits and need for external validation) that made me a good prey for such behaviors, but for years nothing made absolutely any sense.

Funnily enough, I had organically developed all the behaviors mentioned in your video, from the goofy name to separate myself from her judgements, crazy interpretations, and goalpost movings, to giving her no attention or sign of emotion, and most importantly, understanding that she's just a puppet of her ego and I should avoid any kinds of personalization, guilt, projection, or blame.

It led me to discover stoicism, and spirituality, and 7 years later I can say that what I am now is a stronger and more grounded version of what I was then, and I have, primarily, learned that there's no such a thing as guilt, or personal doership, and that life never puts an unsurmountable problem before us: just obstacles that help us know and develop ourselves.

I wish that this gives hope to anyone going through a similar cycle to mine: it gets better. And you'll be better, thanks to what you're going through.

If you need a pointer, search for Alain de Botton, Alan Watts, and Aaron Abke (particularly the mindscience playlist).

[motorcyclelad]

I had late stage colon cancer and had just finished six months of chemo when she left and took every penny of saving and took the kids, yet the gas lighting was SO INTENSE AND COMPLETE over all the years, I blamed myself! I begged for forgiveness and for her to come back (even though I’d don’t nothing wrong except get sick and not be able to work).

[beanames]

I gave my son a quick glossary of terms like gaslighting. He was horrified at 11 years old that this was even a thing. Golden knowledge. I wish someone told me this stuff when i was a child

[KatesTake]

Adjust your expectations, Big game changer, goes along with Radical acceptance.

[wayneschmidt]

Its hard to even limit the contact when they have your child

[Mumumama]

You are absolutely right, unfortunately. I strongly suggest to ONLY communicate via a parenting platform, like Talking Parents. All communication is definite, unchangeable and can be used in court as is. You can find any subject in the complete PDF file when searching for a word. It saves so much time and energy! They may even watch their words, but in my case, he doesn’t, which is perfect to show the constant personal attacks, inconsistency and what not.
Only respond to children’s logistics, all else “crickets”. Disengage from the personal stuff, discuss children only. My ex is actually retreating more and more, canceling timesharing, because he can’t get to me. And our children are becoming more and more aware of his toxic behavior, not wanting to see him anymore.
I wish everyone who is dealing with this strength and wisdom. Your tips on this video are priceless, very on point and helpful.

[thesingledadsclub]

I wish npd was recognized in a court of law. My kids don't want to talk to me anymore and they're two states away 😢
Thank you for these strategies as I'm trying to get to the healing phase.