CPTSD and CLINGING: Try Letting Things COME TO YOU

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Childhood PTSD has often left us unconsciously anxious, and one sign is that we tend to grasp at things we do want, and cling despite the fact that these people, situations or places make us unhappy. In this video I talk about testing reality by letting go and allowing things to come to you. You may be surprised at the happy results!
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[davidstone]

Your awesome Anna. You’ve definitely found your calling in life, and me and so many others are so thankful and great full for that 🌷💕

[christinegublermorrowes]

I tend to be both a clinger and isolator at times, the most challenging part is not defining my worth by others’ opinion of me or what “I think” their opinion of me is.

[evrimwiggles]

"notice all the wonderful things come to you, when you don't even try" 🙏

[pw]

I know that every time I leave a comment it’s all sappy and touchy-feely, but just hear me out.
I am 57 never married, I live alone and have struggled with everything from debt, the wrong relationships, the wrong jobs and everything else you can think of as It pertains to cptsd. I have felt so hopeless that I didn’t even see the point of trying anything.
Since I’ve been watching your videos I have been cleaning more frequently, working in my shop organizing, and preparing for other projects. That really isn’t the best part.
The best parts of my new out look is positive, hopeful and I am really starting to believe that good things are coming to me and I deserve them.
I clean the kitchen with pride rather then guilt.
I have more energy to stay busy because it’s not used up worrying or waiting for negativity.
I could go on for days about how much your videos have help me in ways I just didn’t know were possible.
One more thing and I’ll be quite.
I was helping my dad work on he’s truck over the last couple of weeks and I realized that he
Probably has a kind of cptsd himself. Even though he is the source of much of my difficulties in life, I can take the lead when he is around and help him, which in a strange way he is willing to listen because I’m different.
Anyway, someday I want to thank you in person for your videos. You really are awesome! Thank you for everything.

[brendancoughlan]

Yeah, as a CPTSD sufferer from my childhood upbringing I started noticing how messed up a lot of my friends were.
I had basically collected all these misfits over the years because of where I was mentally and emotionally pre my CPTSD awareness.
Bit by bit I’ve been letting them go which has been really tough because of the fear of loneliness. But all it does is make room for better more fulfilling and loving people to come into your life.

[KatjeSabin]

My latest challenge has been that when I recognize I am clinging, I immediately go into isolation mode, so as to not burden or annoy my family and friends. And they don't seem to notice or care that I have vanished, so when I am in the place of MOST needing connection and togetherness, I am alone and adrift. You say wait for them to come to you... but every fiber in my being says to not call attention to myself, to deflect anyone's attempt to be kind to me, to get out of sight and be silent. Nobody comes to you when you are in this space (understandably!), yet it is the time you need it the very most. How to dismantle this isolationist tendency when you are desperate for connection, how to allow others in when your very survival depended upon being unseen, how to harness that desire to cling as a sign that you need others and find healthy ways to invite them in instead of going into what I call "turtle" mode... these are the questions I desperately hope your isolation video covers!

[brendancoughlan]

Yep, this is me in a nutshell. Clinging to dysfunctional people and then stupidly getting frustrated and disappointed with them for not meeting my expectations.

[FrancisdeBriey]

Incredible description of me : I am a cptsd clinger...thank you for your light ! Let's learn to let go... to let life, to let God. This is probably what we clingers need to learn. Put back trust, accept to receive from the others, something we have forgotten how to do. We have lost faith and need to regain it. THANK YOU MY DEAR FAIRY

[CINRZ]

I find that I obsess over people a lot, like to an almost stalker extent and it freaks me out so I can't imagine how the people I obsess over feel. I really wish that I could stop this cycle realistically I know it's because i'm desperate to form a connection out of anything but it's landed me in a place that I can't get out of

[biondna]

I'm working to develop a balance of letting things come to me, and stepping out of my comfort zone, to make things happen. But only with people who demonstrate a mutual interest. Physical and emotional sobriety are a lot of work, but life is so much more vivid like this.

[blissfulbaboon]

Getting to know your own needs is essential in healing cptsd because in a traumatic childhood, the neglected child becomes a pawn to others needs and really doesn't understand they even have any, let alone how to finally meet them.. .I don't know how you can recover from an illness caused by no love in childhood without spending time with yourself as an adult. Learning to love you requires being with yourself, , discovering how you feel and what your needs are.I can see how cptsd would cause a person to want to isolate but I believe that reaction is motivated by this need, to connect with their core self and relearn how to truly nurture oneself.

[deewoods]

Hey all, I am really feeling like I shouldn't be alone right now yet I have no support system, no family members I'm close with and All the isolation that comes with this disorder. Thank goodness for things like this on the internet huh, lol, I'll just text this ugly feeling away... Sometimes strangers are all we got, so hi.

[joannesberkshirescenes]

I do all of what you talked about in this video. Now I know why I do it, I thought I was being helpful and a nice person.

[tdawg]

I’m just so tired of feeling like I’m clueless about everything. I’m so tired of being messed with and failing at everything that I WANT to be alone. I’ve read books on co-dependency and childhood emotional neglect. I follow Channels like this to try and help myself. Still I don’t know how to apply everything. My boundaries are terrible, despite having read books on this too. Therapy over many years has only scratched the surface. My life is poop. I feel like I need much more help than is available.

[staceywhite]

Desperation is the worlds worst cologne and it was my favorite brand😉

[matthewgarland]

I identify with clinging. I used to Isolate, but not so much now.
This is a new thing for me to watch for, thank you for posting the video Anna.

[etherealsoldier]

I use to be super guilty of this. I’d cling tightly to people that didn’t really value me and I would drive myself insane trying to make things work. It was incredibly toxic. With a lot of work I finally started to let those people go and this wonderful person came into my life and I was amazed at how absolutely effortless it was for us to connect and how they felt the same way I did for them.

[Catbooks]

Love this! Yes, so true, and I've done that before. Another bad thing about clinging is it makes you more likely to become vulnerable to a narcissist because the hole has become so deep.

[etherealtb]

I just started watching your videos and realizing I have C-PTSD and EVERY SINGLE TITLE feels like you've known me for years! Mind blown!

[OKCShiningOn]

Fixing everything goes so wrong. Acceptance helps. I accept things and still fight isolation.