CPTSD and ISOLATION

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[No.BlennyLover]

I think shame is a huge driver in cptsd towards isolation. If we feel less than, alien and negative we tend to fear social interaction due to the potential of rejection

[sadie]

The Coronavirus lockdown has barely altered my life. I isolate always. I want to change.

[pdelaprimm]

Nuts.

I isolated from age 18-38, and missed much of the life ‘rite of passage’ pieces, ‘benchmarks’, friendships, professional development and matriculation and more.

I stumbled upon childhood materials at 38 which provided significant context and answers, and now, 14 years later, I do this work all time.

And I am progressing.

What an odd, surreal and truly absurd experience.

Oof.

[lisawanderess]

I’ve gone from being a successful outgoing, Positive person to living as a total recluse. Weeks can go by with no human contact at all. I used to feel lonely but now the safety I get alone feels so much better than the crap I dealt with from my family that I’ve come to get used to it. I realize it’s not 100% “healthy” but after 50 years of accumulated Narcissistic abuse and neglect and rejection from childhood to more recent years struggling with a crippling auto immune disease as a result, I feel safer and calmer living this way so I’ve come to convince myself that I’m “happy” this way.

[sws]

This is a huge problem for me too. I force myself to be friendly to people so I don’t seem extremely weird but it’s hard. I’d love to have friends but I can’t open up to people.

[loveoftruth]

I isolate myself too. It was a pattern of behavior from my mother's side and I want to be the generation to stop it. Shame and blame and unnecessary anxiety, worry, panic, low self esteem. Gaslighting, blame shifting. All started at a young age.

[DaniSan]

I was abused by a family member and other's growing up and then in adulthood I have attracted narcissists and sociopaths when I just want non abusive relationships but just don't trust myself to love another abusive person but have intentionally isolated to heal but it has been 3 years now and the isolation is hard because of my fear of attracting another toxic person. Thank you so much for this video!

[Sunset]

These days, I like to think of it as insulating rather than isolating. The world has lost it's mind (this is early 2022) and it's really just better for my mental health to not be around anyone. Until I can get other aspects of my life and mental health under control, being with people, being in the world, trying to form relationships will only bring more pain and further set back. I think I will be able to go back into the world someday, just not right now, and I'm perfectly content with that. Enjoying time with my kitties, working on my business, learning yoga, doing lots of reading and creative things.. life is stable & uplifting right now and that's what I need.

[nullinvoid]

I often feel like a small animal who has been kicked every time they've left their hole. now they're sitting by the hole, looking out, afraid to leave.

[truth]

I was a slow talker..learned thru having my own child that you need to be chatting with your parents to learn how to talk..my mum especially had no time for me

[CherishedbyGod]

I'm currently in an isolation state. Except for immediate family and a few friends I'm kind of scared to interact. The last major outburst caused by disregulation led my closest friend to cut me off from her life. Then to gossip about my shameful emotional outburst to our mutual friends. Overnight my whole support system mostly disappeared because I overshared my feelings when I was upset. They concluded I was just being emotionally manipulative when in reality I was desperately trying to communicate hurt and keep bitterness from growing.

It takes everything in me to make myself try and connect with people again. I'm so scared of losing relationships and what happened this summer has really made me feel like no one is safe. It is a daily struggle for sure. But praise God, the one close Christian friend who stood beside me and helped to stabilize me in God's truth is closer to me than ever. I just fear so deeply repeating the past.

[yourenough]

<--- 20 years of isolation. I cannot connect to anyone because I have isolated for so long I am very awkward. Ive gotten so used to isolating its normal to me now. Thank you for your lovely channel. I was very neglected as a child and scapegoat and lost child and ontop of my home life I was also bullied throughout school years, I've had a hand full of friends in my 45 years of life and I just cannot connect.

[lynkent]

WOW...ThIs is an eye opener!....my isolation makes sense now!

[yvonne]

I think I alienate everyone with my neediness & always having problems!!!!

[cht]

I was a POW when I was born. The uncivil war drove me into a fox-hole that I never really left. I'm just now trying to raise my head enough to see and not be seen.

[Ursaminor]

I live in near solitude. It’s been a choice for many reasons. I do interact with others but I must save my energies in order to do so. I was locked in my room and isolated as a child. I don’t recall authentic love, but constant punishment and shame. I think I was left alone a lot, and it became safe and known.

[EmmaGodLovesTruth]

This is my biggest issue... I have such bad agoraphobia after remembering recent memories of sexual abuse at a very young age. I was also constantly put in time outs (more like solitary) whenever I did anything mildly innapropriate so I think I was trained to isolate lol. Thanks so much! God bless~

[mattsmokes]

My name is matt I’m a 23 year old recovering heroin addict and I take care of my grandparents and it’s just really hard and it’s already hard not having a normal job I’m around people my own age I just want to say thank you for making this video series and reminding me that my symptoms are from my illness and I’m normal and I’m working on it and just thank you so much Iis needed this so much today

[amandarecoveryjones]

What sucks is, so many people had that ongoing childhood trauma and some of us are still being put through trauma with family, etc. How can someone even take the first steps when loneliness is the one of the first symptoms of no contact. I hope everyone gets my love. Love this channel.

[Mauteaches]

I always had friends but would self-isolate from them a lot! Once, I went on a trip with friends to Orlando. Feeling like the odd person out, I just drove home. I am definitely a runner!