CPTSD Behaviors That Traumatize You ALL OVER AGAIN

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Sometimes even WORSE than the things that were done TO you in childhood, are the harmful things that (even in adulthood) you do to yourself. These behaviors re-traumatize you (and sometimes can harm others) and they make healing more difficult. If they aren't healed, these behaviors can create more pain, more life problems and actually block your progress. Your recovery from CPTSD depends on learning to identify and CHANGE these self-defeating behaviors.
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[dankojd]

I isolate, have a dog and don't take care of myself through dentistry or medically. I abhor human contact. Crowds scare the hell out of me. And as for a relationship, I'm so tired of keeping on my toes, so that my past B.S. doesn't come out. But it always does. It's easier to live alone.

[earthmotherdragon]

1. Black and white thinking
2. Neglect of your body
3. Addictive use of food
4. Addictive use of media
5. Dishonesty
6. Work problems, (staying stuck in unfulfilling work, underpayment etc)
7. Blame (Victim, all your problems due to outside forces or people)
8. Numbing (substances, drugs, alcohol, smoking etc)
9. Irritability (arguments, ranting, comment sections, face to face etc)
10. Attraction to abusive destructive people
11. Unfulfilling or bad relationships
12. The abuse of our sexuality (seductive behaviour, abuse of our sexuality, no boundaries, no caution of protective self)
13. Fantasy (romantic, a successful future, we are not present)
14. Avoidance of people (social or sexual or emotional anorexia, avoiding participation)
15. Deading (when we are not caring for our earning or spending, living above our means, growing debt, gambling addictions)
16. Habit of repeating traumatic patterns (difficulty in recognise sick people or dangerous situations)

Think you skipped one but loved this list, so helpful for sure. Can relate to a lot on this list, sad really, all I ever wanted was to be 'normal' and not have all these ups and downs and emotional roller coasters. It is so draining. Will work on this. Never quite understood why I have behaved in certain ways and self sabotaged so many good things in my life. Loved this, so thank you, very helpful. x

[marshgirl]

I binge in the night with food, and forget until the next morning and can’t find foods for the day.
Sometimes I am very sick in the morning with Anxiety also through the day.
I stay a recluse as I don’t trust people.

[LMorganReynolds]

Oh oh. I have some work to do, and I'd rather do it here with y'all. I am in the process for the first time in my life, wish me courage. Love, Morgan.

[RoadRunnergarage]

I'm 50 and still deal with these things...

[keepmoving]

Lots of love for any of you feeling despair. It really DOES get better

[laureldell]

I am so grateful for your channel.
You are among the very few that help people like me. You help me recognize my part in my own problems. I just dont know how to deal with ongoing harmful family involvement in my life. Thank you.

[rachelrivera]

I still do this at nearly 40. I'm trying but I keep dealing with abusive men instead of decent ones and wondering if I'm actually mean enough to force their hands

[carlathedestructor]

Well I cleaned up the substance abuse (3 years sober from drugs) but I recognized several others in myself from that laundry list of self- defeating behaviors Wow.

[ladyvixion]

I cope with all of these. Though, I’ve made progress with many of them which makes me feel a bit better. Thank you. Every time I watch your videos I feel like I’m being read like a book which is spooky at times but makes me hungry for more (and to learn more about myself).

[ninezkernke]

I still hit 4 of your points. I‘m still healing. And its .. tiring but also a blessing. Sometimes I cant even believe my life is getting better. Just 2 or 3 yrs ago I‘d hit 10 of 15. So, I guess, my progression is clear to me with this video. Thank you lots and lots 🤍 hugs and love

[jamygarcia]

I've followed you for a couple years. I really admire how clearly you describe both symptoms and possible actions. You really do a great job!

[jannalee]

I am old and am struggling so badly right now..feels like more then ever .. And you are all i have at this time. I am lost and searching .. 😥

[wendieknight]

I love and appreciate that you don't have a 5 minute intro before you get to it. Thank you❤

[moirabijker]

I exhibit some of these self defeating behaviours. A couple of them I don't know how to or when I will stop. Maybe never. Maybe in a couple of years. Who knows. I am tired though of forever finding fault with the things I do or neglect to do. Ultimately, I understand clearly where my shortcomings are in terms of how I still prevent complete healing (if that is even a realistic goal). For now, I will be grateful for the changes I have been able to bring about.

[Lulupalooz]

number 3 i just talked to my therapist about how i feel like i can’t eat real food all i want is sugar :/ i used to also lie to my partner bc i was scared if i told the truth they would leave. i learned it’s sooo much better to tell the truth up front even if you feel like you can’t

[KittyPepperPhd]

Wow...well, I've done many of the lack of self care items. Because I was neglected as a child, one time when I was 8 years old I didn't bathe for like 2 or 3 weeks. Nobody in my family noticed.

[youaretheonecrazystar]

I'm the one who gets attacked, most of the time, I'm not perfect but I rather be in a peaceful mood 😌 ✨ ☺ I don't want anyone ever again, touching me, call it want happened in my past, but people like hurting me for some reason, and they do a good job in hiding, but that's another reason 🧐😇

[jean-mariemeyer]

I can see some of these across my life. I'm unemployed right now and it is incredibly frustrating. I hate the waiting.

[raiderlove]

I totally recognize myself in much of the things you are describing. With professional help I'm working on these things.