Don't mistake your narcissistic parent's empathy for genuine concern.

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[monikagin]

& they'll mimic the "empathy phase" only to get something

[yvonnes]

In my experience, it comes off very odd if they make any attempt to appear empathetic… their mind can’t shift out of the transactional thought patterns… so they may say something robotic like “I hope you feel better” but in the back of their mind, they’re taking notes to see how they can manipulate you or use this against you in the future… and then they usually change the topic to themselves and start a pity party about how they have things so much worse (like it’s a competition to them)

[christinav]

So true, they even put on crocodile tears in an instant then turn their heads or leave the room and laugh. Such actors. I was born into a narcissist family, married a narcissist with a super narc family. I was their target as I was a harmless empath so I was abused and trap set for decades. 5 years ago I had enough and wiped out the whole narcissist pack by NO CONTACT FOR LIFE! Now I’m born again. Now I love me and nurture me.

[aking]

My MIL. She was a devout Catholic widow that manipulated others with the skill of a Ninja...

[FreedomAboveAll]

"They mimic empathy", they are so creepy and fake.

[malwads]

Yep all they can do is just be a cheap imitation... They're like those really gross low quality sickeningly sweet artificial 🍓 flavored hard candies in the wrappers that 👀 like strawberrys🤢...but do everything possible to try to gaslight you into believing they're a big fresh ripe strawberry.

[theresechauvin]

Whats really weird is the odd joy they get from grandstanding in funerals, as though they were so close to the person who passed on. Even if they haven't had a relationship in decades. They feign grief and get the sympathy and attention they want. My mother is like this and goes to every funeral she hears about, even if she only knew the person a couple weeks. She loves making everything about her for the attention. I just find it bizzar.

[jacquelineglitter]

My family doesn't even try to act like they have a ounce of empathy.

[susieclayton]

One of the weirdest things my CN mom accused me of was having no empathy (because I moved to another state for my husband's job). I'm pretty sure she was projecting, as I'm a recovering people pleaser.

[berenicehickey]

My mother is interested in having people around who can do stuff for her. Otherwise beligerent and not able to form close trusting friendships.

[tabithab]

This is why and how they study us. And it’s all about intention not integrity ( fawning vs feigning). It is debilitating for fawners because it seems relatively relatable and also use against us.💜😥😮‍💨
Intentions are everything and the truth always comes. Hardest part of experiencing this particular manipulation, I feel.😮‍💨

[ILoveAstronomy]

I like looking at neuro-mapped mri's. The one thing I've come to understand as a lay-person is that for a lot of folks who fall into the Class B category, the frontal cortex and the temporal lobes are of little to no function.

From what I think I am learning, those lobes break us out of our "me" cycles and be considerate of the "we" cycles. The factors that are triggering this from before our infancies seems to be something a lot of professionals in the field of psychology can't seem to agree on fully. But trauma, neglect and abuse sure exacerbates it.

Now how these individuals choose their targets of their own venting, that is where I lose my empathy.

[stephaniepiazzese]

They DO NOT MIMIC IT VERY WELL. ITS NOT BELIEVABLE. THEY JUST DO NOT HAVE CAPABILITY TO FEEL SYMPATHY/ empathy/ compassion/ feeing for others. They ARE HOLLOW. SO DO NOT EXPECT SOMETHING TO COME FROM HOLLOW. GET IT?? It isn’t there to give. They can only think of them. Selves. And it goes on for a lifetime. They have MORE STAYING POWER THAN YOU DO, , so hang on, , , or get out.

[havestrength]

One parent feels irritated if i am unwell, the other parent acts like im faking it. Luckily me and my siblings real empathy for others.

[winner]

This is a Good One, I have seen this in two Different people, They Also Like a Public Platform, for Family members to See

[marinabliznac]

Once, I started to cry and my father started to laugh till he has realised that I'm crying then he started to cry also. At that time I didn't realised he's mimicing me. Now that I know that, I think to myself how nonsensical their behaviour is. Emphaty is not crying when the other cries, but trying to speak with them about why they are crying. They can't even pretend emphaty🤦‍♀️

[Am-jsue]

the only thing they concern about is my defects, & showed worry as if he's showing contempt, how to make his loathed job done & get rid of, he's bound to fulfill .

[daffodil]

My dad's a covert narc and he's a master at this, he has genuinely empathetic family members and his mask is flawless

[amberfuchs]

Even when they fake it, they get it wrong, so it comes across as disingenuous.

[MsThe]

That's my mother for ya... and father too