anxiety is stopping you from having friends

Scott Ste Marie is a Mindfulness Practitioner, Coach and Mentor. Through his lived experience with depression and anxiety he has seen what is truly possible in recovery, healing, and living authentically. If you feel at ease and comfortable with the videos on this channel and Scott's approach to emotional and mental well-being, the resources below may be helpful to you.

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Scott speaks across North America about emotional wellbeing, mental health and our innate need for connection. His history with mental health challenges have allowed him to develop a strong sense of empathy and compassion with his audiences and those he works with personally. Music is his true obsession as he plays the guitar, drums and sings.

[ArtGardenFoodExpressions]

I am okay with being along; I am not okay with being lonely and depressed.

[pizzaparty]

After I hang out with a person who is a potential friend I analyze everything I said and find the dumbest stuff and obsess thinking I blew it and they think I'm an idiot. It even wakes me up that night.

[latinvibes]

These videos are so useful and anxiety reducing! Please keep posting videos like these! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[amberh]

Do you feel like anxiety can also contribute to a sense of un-belonging, i.e "i'm different than everyone else" or "I don't fit in"...we tell ourselves things like that, but remove the anxiety and open up opportunity for real connection with other people. We can start to realize that we are unique, sure, but we are also all connected and have something in common with nearly everyone on some level.

[alishagupta]

I am so proud of myself for not giving in to that voice of anxiety. That i don't even like people, that, maybe I just like the idea of speaking in public and influencing people, but I am not really made for that. Can't thank you enough for acknowledging this✨

[feelingsmashuplofiromantic]

Starting line nailed yes it is the same which I feel

[windekresstadrd]

One of the best things I've found for myself has been when my anxiety is the worst, finding a buddy to go to a social event with. It's so hard to do, I don't want to be out, I don't want to spend the night thinking about how I don't fit in or feel awkward or not good at talking. But if I have a friend and I force myself out on the days it's the hardest, it rarely turns out bad. I usually come around to thinking well I was able to talk to my buddy, and I talked to a couple people and I didn't feel too stressed. That was better than I thought it would be.
Obviously I can't do that right now, but even like virtual game nights have helped. My anxiety always tries to convince me to find an excuse not to socialize. But I try to remind myself that if I let it keep convincing me not to socialize then I'll never talk to anyone. I have to defy it sometimes and the times it's hardest are usually the most rewarding times to socialize.

[josephvlogsdon]

My social anxiety has definitely contributed to my isolation, but honestly, I just don’t have a lot of opportunities to make friends. How are adults supposed to make friends? I had a falling out with my friends from high school. A lot of people make friends at work, but I do most of my work from home. Some people suggest meet-up groups, but when you live in a rural area like I do, the options are quite limited. Nowadays, it’s harder than ever to meet people, especially because of the pandemic. I don’t want to have friends just for the sake of having friends, mind you, but rather I would like to have friends who share at least some of my interests and values, which is easier said than done.

[moonlove]

I feel very identified with this... i thought it was okay. Many times i have said " i like to be alone, i don't want to go to parties or meetings..." and lately i don't even want to chat with anybody. The curious thing about it is that i like it. I don't feel bad, or lonely. I enjoy being with myself. Sometimes I feel that the people is overwhelming and I don't want that. But listening to this... you're so right. Maybe it's just a defense mechanism. Once I thought that I have anxiety. Maybe it's true. Thanks Scott. You made me think a lot!

[dyannepauline]

Such inspiring & informative words, Scott! Anxiety does literally limit you one way or another, it is important more than ever to keep mental health in check!

[johnpole]

your videos really help a lot... I was feeling anxiety all day every single minute but you know what I didn't know I was experiencing anxiety until I watched your videos it's really imp for people to know what they are experiencing and be knowledgeable about how to deal with it....when I think of meeting new people my mind would say that they would judge you and you will lose them you are not made for being friends with anyone but I thought it was enough and started thinking positive and stop caring what people think about me and slowly I was able to control my thinking and stopped my brain to control my thoughts and yes now I can concentrate on things I want to do in my life now that I think of those days I think how stupid I was but I take it as an experience in life...the main thing i would say for people suffering with anxiety is believe in yourself try to love yourself and know your worth you are not alone and think about people who care for you...there were even days when i left playing guitar which i loved for years whenever i pickup the guitar the thoughts would take control and i couldn't concentrate and my mind would lose control and stressed and i left all my hobbies and was living in pain all the time...these videos really helped me.i just want to give a big hug to you you are amazing and an inspiration to me and many others

[Sofia-blcb]

i can relate to anything you say it's crazy.. i'm so glad i found your channel! thank you so much.

[Celestialsaurora]

wow right when i am going through social anxiety with people i wanna be closer with ... i have so much trouble with conversations d:

[kristymarie]

I’m having social anxiety I can’t even talk to any of my neighbors it’s horrible

[naomitoro]

Let me send You a huge amount of gratitude and love. This video is just the right thing i needed to hear
You're doing a great job changing people's lives ❤️

[alishagupta]

Oh my god..I have always been in dilemma to whether I should push myself to make friends(because I was not anti social before) or should I accept that maybe I am an introvert or i don't like people..But, i knew there is something off. Thankyou for hitting the spot.♥️

[Vanyx]

How do I turn a superficial friendship into something deeper and more meaningful?

[Anayy]

Ur words of realisation hitting me like racking ball breaking my thought of staying alone is the only way I left

[josiahf]

i hope ill get over my anxiety. your videos help me so much. thank you

[sharmaxx]

I love your way of connecting so quick .... I feel it instantly Lots of love from india .... It is very useful video for my kind of person.
Please do share your experiences of overcoming anxiety, it will be helpful for us .