Emotional maturity comes from understanding THIS | ​⁠@ShadeZahrai

[ShadeZahrai]

One of the biggest challenges we face is letting go of other people’s opinions.

Why is it so hard?

Because we’re wired for connection, and that can make us overly sensitive to others’ expectations & assumptions.

Psychologists call this the "spotlight effect" — we overestimate how much people are focused on us.

But the truth is that people will always project their own beliefs and biases onto you.

It’s human nature.

The more you chase their validation, the more you give away your power.

True freedom comes when you understand this – and stop wasting energy trying to change their narratives.

Redirect that energy into what matters:
– your growth,
– your goals,
– your impact.

When you focus on what moves you forward, their opinions lose their weight.

Your actions will ALWAYS speak louder than their assumptions.

Understanding this is the key to setting yourself free. 🙌

[mohammedwassim]

True freedom begins when we realize that people's opinions often reflect their own insecurities, not our reality.

Instead of chasing validation, imagine channeling that energy into becoming someone you'd admire—someone unshaken by fleeting judgments.

This perspective turns external noise into fuel for inner growth.

Thank you for shedding light on such a profound topic, Shade ❤

[yvonneneal]

Right on time! I needed this message today! Thank you!

[mariamatt]

LORD! I really needed this. It’s true 🙏

[theleadershipproject]

For many people, this statement is true “I am what I think you think I am”. The sooner we let go of that the sooner we find true freedom and contentment.

[alinicky]

I experienced it, it's the same, you convert my experience in words, that's so nice of you.

[christopherherrera]

Yes, let them burn in their own lies. Their misinterpretation or intentional misinterpretation is not your problem and a distraction. You have your own responsibilities and goals to accomplish.

[asimsoherwardi]

This is so true, when we are listening to people, they always distract us from our goals, the moment we do that, the people even our dear ones, blame us that we are being ignorant and careless and no focus in life, blame us to be confused and the one who always changes mind

[AbuYakubu-iwrm]

Amen 🙏✝️ thank you Jesus my lord❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🙏🙏✝️✝️✝️

[pongsakornonnim]

Thanks, I often seek validations from others. This short comes at the right time.

[nettyb]

It's like you were in my house this week...this was a fantastic reminder for me. Thank you💜

[alinicky]

Your English fluency is perfect, I am trying to adopt.

[letsworkprince]

The same I believe and do... Instead of wasting my energy to change other's opinion... I must focus on myself what really matters most

[Ahmed-stz]

Really needed to hear this, Thank you.😊

[nadz]

Yes true, plus when the outcome is success

[theking-elgf]

Don't speak negatively about yourself, even as a joke. Your body doesn't know the difference. Words are energy and they cast spells, that's why it's called spelling. Change the way you speak about yourself, and you can change your life. Words by legendary Bruce Lee

[ramsyrama]

Thanks I needed this my boss has been a bully lately

[-AkhilTej-]

💎🏆 Great insightful & fruitful video 🏆💎

लोकः समस्ताः सुखिनो भवन्तु
( May all beings lead prosperous life across Globe 🌍 )

[ArpanjotkaurKahlon]

HER VIDEO IS INCOMPLETE WITHOUT THE WORD "VALIDATION"...ANYWAYS I LOVE LISTENING HER!