Can you make a narcissist happy for a long time? | The Narcissists' Code Ep 702

can you make a narcissist happy for a long time? Is it possible to make a narcissist happy

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[eyram]

I’m not interested in making the narc happy when they clearly don’t have any intention of making me happy .

[dragon]

I don't care how happy the narcissist is I keep my distance, mental illness don't go away.

[jessluck]

In an argument they can’t remember that you’re a good person. That object constancy falls away. And brittle arguments, not easy to repair or problem solve. Reactions are extreme and threaten the end of the relationship rather than a curiosity or any attempt at further non-threatening insight. You also get blamed for however they feel and that you are doing it on purpose! If a solution happens that seems in your favor it’s a half hearted attempt without any real follow through like just going through the broad strokes pretending that they’ve tried something for 2 days, and then gives up easily after some baby steps. It’s almost like you have to ignore conflicts all together or get some needs met elsewhere, but then the relationship can kind of stagnate or slowly form resentments. And they don’t always tell you the real thing that’s going on with them if there’s too much shame. So information omission. They also may not want to change or solve something bc it gives up some kind of control or creates anxiety and you just never know what’s going to trigger that bc they won’t say. The lack of ability to repair and grow through issues was mind boggling. Conflicts aren’t always bad, they can grow a relationship and help you get to know your partner better and vice versa. But I think sometimes they don’t want to be known. If they’re not mirroring you, what’s there to know? They don’t want you to know there’s a void inside or that they were acting, or to see their inconsistencies. A normal relationship can solve problems. A toxic one, one person (or both!) wants to solve and the other pretends to but makes it all murky and confusing and defensive. Helps if at least one person is pretty secure. But yeah that constant omission and am throwing off the scent is exhausting. It makes little things become much bigger and more drawn out than they need to be.

[bigchase]

My husband is a narcissist and the better I treat him, the worse he treats me. He mistakes kindness as weakness. I am not going anywhere but I don’t put up with his shit either.

[writer]

From my own experiences, the narcissist is happy when you notice their bids for attention and praise them. But when you don't notice that bid (or ignore it) they flip out and the mood in the room suddenly changes from warm to cold. And then they're stomping around the house, giving you the silent treatment.... Coming from someone who loves herself from the inside out, I don't get it.

[norcal]

So true, "emotional terrorist" and playing the victim (gaslighting), a very unfruitful combination. Yes, there's a lot of control in one way streets.

[terryellis]

Let's be clear and honest. YOU can't make another person happy. It's not your job or anyone else's. It's up to that person and narcissists are never happy

[ClassicOpinion]

It’s my opinion: “NO”
~I’ve observed in life for us all Happiness comes and goes and no one can buy it~

[kirsikka]

I think I made the narcissist happy when he succeeded with his schemings and hurt me. But is it possible to be happy together at the same time of the same things, I really think no. So making a narcissist happy is when you let him abuse you and forget your own happiness.

[jacquelineakimana]

My narc once told me that I made him happy but then reality hit, when I tried to ask him what he meant by reality hit... It ended with Him gaslighting and calling me insecure 🤷🏿😭

[Kellyfelsted]

Nope. You will never make a narcissist happy, no matter how hard you try.

[His.Heart.]

This is so true. if you do what they say you nave no arguments... sad when you realize this.

[danigurl]

They can't even make themselves feel happy

[msbg]

You stay if you want to be miserable....who wants that but a codependent person

[deeanthony]

Short answer: NO. The Narcissist is NEVER happy, even IF you do and say everything and anything they tell you to do and say. They may SEEM HAPPY, sometimes, but really, they are NEVER happy. After almost 16 yrs of my relationship with my Narc., I have decided that no matter what I say or do, will NEVER be enough to make the Narc happy. The Narc, I was with, was a bottomless pit that nothing or no one could fill. A person is either happy or they are NOT....I have learned that happiness is something you have to give to your self...no one can give it to you because life does not work that way.

[mvandenberg]

Does anybody feel the vibe of noooo, don't even think about it?

[sweetluvgurl]

Nah, they’re never satisfied. They just want more and more.

[chandelle_glee]

Everyone has a different situation so everyone should do. It’s best for them but with that being said yesterday I moved out of my exes after 11 years. If he didn’t break up with me, I would’ve continued taking less than the bare minimum I convinced myself I didn’t even need him to like me that I could work hard to earn back his trust in love, so honestly when you’re in the situation is you can always trust your own judgment that’s what my point is so maybe finding someone unbiased at cares about you helping you see your point out whether or not this is healthy or toxic might be a good idea but you probably won’t listen. Anyway, I didn’t.

[dawnmccarthy]

Narcissistic person expects an open relationship. (One way -them). Pray you don’t catch something. They don’t like boundaries.

[theosaka]

They can’t even make their damn selves happy! How in the hell can you make someone happy who is SO miserable and raggedy inside, or doesn’t even want to try to be a better human being? 😒🤷🏽‍♀️