CPTSD Triggers Isolation

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Loneliness is the most common symptom of past trauma. Everyone experiences it sometimes, but for people traumatized in childhood, the effect is magnified. The urge to isolate is normal, and it can be healed!
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[happy_bubble]

Im convinced the part of my brain that lets me recognize love and feel loved never even developed. I love people and they say they love me... but I literally dont see it.

[kerrytaggart]

That comes from family. We are supposed to have love and support firstly from family. We are love starved beggars that we get from others. We over give to try to get their love. Pathetic.

[noremac]

Amazingly I just mentioned this in therapy. I’m just not great in relationships (any relationship). When I’m single, I’m thinner, eat better, work out more, take better care of myself. It’s only when I get into a relationship that all of that goes out the window and I develop huge resentments, gain weight, stop working out, let myself go. All of my energy goes into the other person and the relationship. Oddly enough, I’ll stay and do whatever to keep it from ending because the fear of rejection, abandonment looming large in my head and heart. I literally become terrified of being alone but actually thrive when I’m alone. My parents were both alcoholics and I spent a lot of my childhood alone. Sometimes I look at my childhood and feel like I was almost feral, as most things, I just had to figure out on my own. No loving, guiding mother was there to help, teach, soothe me as stumbled through life and to this day I’m still trying to navigate simply understanding people and how to relate to them.

[a.k.]

Thank you, i feel a wall coming up when i try to connect. A wall that protected me from connecting with manipulative people in my childhood. When no others have been around. I guess i had to become fake/reactive autonomic early on. Some day i will find a door in this wall. I keep holding it with love until that day. A door. To let the safe people in. The people my values match with.

[teresalavigne]

Thanks I needed to hear this I have hard time connecting ❤

[bbcarbo]

I enjoy my might be wrong....but I'm at peace

[Tass]

Effin thieves. Yep, I’m angry. And these thieves aren’t punished

[Hammondchris]

I ALWAYS WONDERED "WHY" WHY, WHY" it helps so much to unferstand

[lianav]

For the longest time I could not connect with anyone. Always felt a sense of detachment from friends, Co workers, bfs…
The only people who I felt drawn to were all narcissistic…took me so long to realize my parents were this way and how I was at the mercy of their egos.
I had to learn how to live in a healthy way, am still struggling with valuing myself, feeling strong enough to remove the toxic people in my life. The struggle is real but it’s much better now

[notsay]

Thank you. I'm 70 years old and lived in abusive relationships for over 30 years. I've been diagnosed with C-PTSD and I escaped from the terrifying, psychological, mental, emotional, sexual, and spiritual abusers almost 6 years ago. I've grown so much spiritually and I was led to an esoteric and metaphysical belief that has helped me tremendously. For the last five years I've been completely alone and different City where I isolated myself because I still can't trust anyone. I still struggle in social situations and prefer to stay home.
I listen and have educated myself, researched everything and I can see solutions but just can't seem to be at peace.
I will listen to you now. This little clip was very informative. With love and gratitude. 💞🌠☮️🌻

[michellealbrecht]

I want to respond to this intelligently but right now I can't stop crying for the truth and honesty in the words. I never heard anybody actually talked about how I feel and how I have felt oh my life. Now I'm 70. I'm scared I'm just appointed I'm frustrated what I'm allowed to be I know I'm trying to recover at 70.

[panigoodmind]

How beautifully said. I've just realized Anna that listening to your voice has become a method of reregulating myself in moments of distress. I seek your videos intuitively when I need to remind myself that truth and compassion do exist in this world. Thank you for who you are for all of us here.

[Itzyhani]

On a long car ride with my mom and I tried to explain how her treatment of me as a kid molded me into the person I am.
She only sees the mistakes I made as an adult. She is completely unaware and unwilling to see the connection between her parents, the way she parented, and the adult I am.
It’s like talking to a brick wall.
Once I poured out my heart and explained how traumatic it was for me, she discredited me. She believes if a person makes choices as an adult than that’s on them.
She’s right! Because as an adult. I will no longer look for reconciliation, understanding, forgiveness, and closure in other people. I can find those things deep inside me.
What I’m looking for, NO ONE has, not even her!
I have all the answers in my
Heart. I am the solution!
I am a survivor.

[kathleendonson]

PTSD can also be from the death of a parent at a young age. Not always neglect or abuse. As the surviving parent of a child who struggles with trauma from losing his dad at 12 from cancer when his dad was only 36. It has effected him deeply.

[kiahwalton]

This hit me so hard. It is sooo true. What’s worse, is that as a teenager, I had no words to describe this. Then when I was ostracized due to a mental health break- my abuser died and I could finally feel EVERYTHING, I thought that I was being rejected bc of who I was and not the pain and the resulting isolation. Thank you!

[DeborahMaxemow]

You are a guiding light for those with CPTSD. Thank you for your honestly, insight, and guidance.

[rgwhiteywins]

However, I have noticed that there a lot more unkind people exponentially, so I find that I don't meet people to connect with very often. At 63, I notice a totally different world than when I was in my 30s.

[pavla]

My covert narc mother bad mouthed and lied about all the relatives and neighbours to the point that I became wary and untrusting of everyone . I'm sure her hatefulness and jealousy of everyone greatly coloured my thinking on socializing .

[Tiger-Heart]

Wow! I’ve just found out that I needed to hear that all my life!!? I was told I’ve had PTSD my whole life from— 4 years old until my mid 50’s and I am now near 65. Now I’ve been so physically sick that I can’t even enjoy my golden years. I WAS ROBBED! I have had to forgive without anyone saying they’re sorry— that’s hard!

[kvietimas]

Fairy, that sums it up. As always, you said things that resonate with daily reality of so many of us.