CPTSD Isolating💔

#cptsd #isolation #hypervigilance

[carolynb]

Being alone + being in Nature=calm. For me.

[madisonnoblin]

Finally started working through these traumas with my boyfriend. It has been super scary but he’s so amazing every step of the way❤️ Which is bonkers for me to say considering my CPTSD was caused by the last man I chose to love. So shoutout my love Samuel for teaching me I can trust and let others again again

[andreabrentano]

only feel completely relaxed when you are alone. OR even better: when you are WITH safe and supporting people!!

[itsdune]

Legit. I thought I was an introvert, but it turns out that for me it’s actually trauma/sensory (and social anxiety disorder)! I gain energy from people if it’s with safe, non-triggering people. Which doesn’t happen that often...so I isolate. Cue the revenge bedtime procrastination (since I haven’t yet figured out much how to regulate my nervous system properly and return to the Window of Tolerance, when the internet is at my fingertips and I can so easily rely on my maladaptive escapism)

[LilOnAgain]

Just wanted to thank you for posting information for people with CPTSD. I don't know if other people also experienced this, but my biggest barrier to understanding myself was realizing I carried a lot of shame over my self isolating instinct. It felt selfish and something that indicated lack of empathy to people I care about but it just felt as if continuing to engage in certain relationships inflamed my brain and body too much to bear, so I started out self isolating only when the pain of being around others vastly overpowered the pain that came with isolating. Being alone I will say has helped me HEAR myself and allowed me space to FEEL myself (working through overwhelming pain to get to the roots) enough to process trauma and inflammation that I felt I could never get to addressing when I couldn't figure out how to stop the overload that came with continued and consistent engagement.

[MissiJade]

I used to be a social and quite outgoing person and when my partner passed away four years ago tragically in front of me it brought up all of the hardcore trauma I worked so hard to push way down and not deal with. I spent just over four years in complete isolation and I am just starting to come out into the world and communicate with people. Due to not having any family, I am so scared of getting close to anyone. I am so grateful for finding a great therapist who is hopefully going to help me with tackling this because there is a difference between isolation and solitude.
Thank you for your wonderful videos. They bring so much awareness and help to so many people including myself. ❤

[richardwalker]

This is me! I love my cats and dog. I can only tolerate people. I know God loves me, my pets love me, and I love me. I go no contact with toxic people. Honestly, I love being alone, with my pets.

[knitpurl]

Thank you for stating this. It's very true for me. I just want to be left alone after hears of being abused and harassed.

[TheForestgrl]

This is me but I had no idea. I've learned something just now. Thank you ❤️

[georgiaanderson]

This is definitely me.... but I'm learning.

[Hc]

Thank you for posting your knowledge and expertise on this subject, I've always been hypervigilant but never realized until recently and your videos helped me to make the connections necessary to seek help.

[lyciumchld]

Been that way on and off since I was a kid. For a while after I moved out I felt ok, but kept gravitating to people who recreated more trauma, most specifically people with cluster b traits who were volatile like my mom. It's been back to feeling most comfortable alone since maybe the mid oughts.

[eugenia-divinecasey]

Yep… and I’m a people person lol. Well, I was, now I avoid everyone I can. This explains exactly how I feel. I pray one day that I can get me back.

[rtj]

I work full-time as a Special Ed teacher. Being so "ON" is really exhausting. I mask less with my students but mask with staff and colleagues. At home I can relax more but I can only truly recharge when alone... when I belong TO ME again. But the older I get, the fewer social demands I can handle. I have very few friends at the moment, and I would not have it any other way. Even phone calls can be too much demand on my system. I was starting to think there was something wrong with me. Nope. Just autistic (my students helped me figure this out... and burning out).

[TheWheatHead]

That's 💯 right! That's why I isolate myself every single day and have for years!

[susanmcallister]

I’ve been like this since Covid. I couldn’t wear the mask and even though I had a valid drs note and carried it with me at ALL times, I was attacked and abused every time I had to go to a store to feed my children. Then my son was denied medical care for his heart condition so he took his own life to stop his suffering. I don’t know what is grief, what is trauma or both? I have been using EFT/tapping for years, and had amazing results but even that has not helped me lately. Ten seconds of small talk/pleasant with the mailman leaves me feeling drained and actually weak. However most times I just ignore the door completely to avoid how bad it makes me feel. Thank you for this video, it made me feel less alone❤️❤️❤️

[ChooseTruthAlways]

So true... I guess because everyone always seemed to demand some sort of attention or whatever.

[brenda]

I have always loved animals, the earth, and nature. I get lonely but most of the time it's much better than being with people.
I've always picked controlling friends which is disappointing, I'm trying to be more discriminating.

[sayedero]

Ive only left home twice this year - I just want to be alone

[firestarblue]

Something more helpful would be to discuss how to get along well with others so you can create the peaceful atmosphere you wish for. And how to choose stable-ish healthy-ish people to add to your life so you can cope with the others until they heal and learn how to be better. We are all works in progress and dealing with the memories of things we experienced.