CPTSD & Relationships #drkimsage #cptsd #trauma

[dancingnthedge]

It feels selfish for me to voice my dreams, my hopes, my vulnerabilities... Because "even though you tell me that I'm not a burden, I don't think you truly mean it."

[WeareallonewithCreator]

I express my needs over and over and people just abandoned me because it's easier than giving their time. I've had to learn to not express them anymore and stay quiet so as to not be let down.

[BookWorm]

my shoulders dropped at those first two things.
its so hard to navigate this world and other people all by yourself 😢

[blossomx]

I was vulnerable, and they let me down despite knowing my trauma...just packed on the trauma.

[csc]

I've opened up to people, not even the whole story.
Usually they leave.

[cheryldailing]

The balance, the ability to discern if I'm being overly emotional and /or overthinking vs. simply making my needs known., ...

[hshfyugaewfjkKS]

Your videos are so helpful. I would be so grateful if you could do a video on what is normal sharing versus oversharing. On top of trauma I moved every year so my social skills were awful and I was bullied at school. I feel awkward socially even when I do try to interact with people cuz I never know if I'm being appropriate in what I share (iver sharing too mamy feely things) hogging the conversation, or not being vulnerable enough and asking them too many questions. Hope that makes sense.

[emilysmith]

Not me crying in my apartment… earned my sub though, thank you for doing what you’re doing

[Apachemiwokmexican]

Yea, I'm definitely those two. I trust people who I think I can trust which turn out I can't. I fear anyone could betray me at any moment. I hate it and sometimes it makes me really sad. It's not fair to the other person. I rulled out romatic relationships for myself as I see it as just a strategy to manipulate me.

[stangreen]

My Trauma is so complex that I still obviously love my mom, step pop and dad but I like them and treat them well when I see them but it’s a super dysfunctional family all 3 sides.

My remember around 6 of 7 years old I started praying for God to erase me from existence.

It’s still really hard but My Son and I are about 3 weeks from High school. I won custody of my son when he was 6, unfortunately his mother installed some terrible behavior of not respecting me, not to believe anything I say because I am an idiot and just genuinely treated my like trash herself etc, etc.

It’s been really tough but we’re here.

Sorry for the rant

[aestheticpoet]

my gf is suffering through the same but she refused to teach me how to love her tho i really love her sm

[mendingmandy]

You're so beautiful. Also thank you so much. This describes me to a T. Relationships are so up and down and I hate how intense my emotions are. I don't share these emotions but I've been trying to with my husband without getting too dysregulated. I just wish in the midst of this intense emotion (usually anger) I could see grey and not black and white. Example: that person hurt me and this anger is too intense. Maybe I should distance myself for a while.

What I want to think: that person hurt me. It hurt. They were stressed and didn't mean to. I should put down this boundary next time.

The anger just is all consuming :(

[Jess-wqnr]

In my case my parents were overprotective and my mom especially instilled in me the idea that I cannot trust strangers. I could only do so much without family involvement. So I had difficulty making and keeping friends. When I finally started to be vulnerable with someone I really cared for, and wanted to be intimate with, he turned out to be a covert narcissist using several women at the same time. I kept that relationship private so my family wouldn’t be disappointed in me. A year and a half later and I still have emotional flashbacks and I have to keep my guard up all the time now. I’m scared to trust anyone on an intimate level again.

[GOD.WINS.]

You are right. Its hard though because every time you are finally vulnerable with someone, they almost always betray you so then you suspect the next will betray you too, and it ruins what might have been a great relationship. Then u next move onto the next person and cycle happens all over again

[elysegambino]

Keep this content coming, you’re describing me exactly.

[Muchaspass]

Wishing You A Beautiful Day Beautiful as your spirit

[kyleemeg]

I use to think my cPTSD developed from a 2 year long abusive relationship for when I was 16….. little did I know the actual root cause of my cPTSD was my emotionally and verbally abusive father.

[lonjemariesfashions]

To anyone reading this, I’m sorry you were traumatized as a child or whenever, there’s Hope healing and recovery please don’t lose. Hope there are people out there who genuinely do care and of course you cannot be vulnerable and open with everyone. Choose wisely not everyone will run or reject you get into therapy and do your own healing.

[devonspeaks]

She has such a calming voice.That’s why when I need to understand something from a psychological perspective, I come straight to her channel.

[aussiemom]

Thank you for truly understanding. Had a therapist do major damage by dx me with BPD and actually treated me as my parents had- I believe she had countertransference going on… I finally found someone else who was trauma based from the beginning. Identified my CPTSD and ADHD then helped get grounded. Still a long way to go…