Anxious vs Avoidant attachment: key differences you need to know

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Complete transcript:
Avoidant attachment: I have avoidant attachment so if you need to talk I'm busy with work.
Anxious attachment: I have anxious attachment. So of course I'm going to ask if you're okay or what's wrong, every time you get quiet, I have avoidant attachment.
Avoidant attachment: So I keep everything bottled up inside. Anything to avoid conflict.
Anxious attachment: So I want to talk it out right then and there for as long as needed.
Avoidant attachment: So I pride myself on not meeting anyone and being independent really to make my deep fear of abandonment.
Anxious attachment: So I dissect everything you say to look for meaning that might not even be there.

[katfox]

I didnt come here to be called out like this

[KA-jwru]

I’m anxious attachment and my husband is avoidant. We got through the worst of it while dating and now inseparable because we both compliment each other and help each other out

[Aboguaboga]

“I pride myself on not needing anyone but fear abandonment” is so spot on. Being abandoned causes a level of pain within me that I would not wish on anyone so let me just distance myself before I get too attached and reach an unexplainable level of cognitive dissonance that forces me to create space to start thinking clearly again

[thefilersjourney]

I'm both and boy is it exhausting!

[SandungaLuna]

Me and my ex.. both traumatized as children and struggling as adults.😅

[katieandnick]

I’m not anxious, but I’ve always felt it is important to talk about problems when they arise. Sharing our feelings when they’re fresh is crucial for bonding.

[kimberlee]

I'm Anxious Avoidant! It's awful!

[Kil]

I’m both of these at the same time. I self sabotage to keep a distance from people but want to make sure there’s no issues between us and am direct in clearing the air immediately. If there are real issues then I keep them to myself.

[zaheenwahid]

What about secure? It’s nice to know what’s actually the healthy response so that people have a model to strive towards!

[janicegallegos]

This is so accurate! My bf is anxiously attached and I’m avoidant. He’s so patient with me and my tendency to keep everything in and everyone out.

[Najapdf]

This is me and my BFF. We've made it work 10 years by learning and developing off of each other.

[lisamagibiller]

Nothing has ever helped me understand my own disorganized attachment more than this! 😂💜💯

[wintrywinter]

Sourds like my partner and I.
He's the avoidant.
So is it logical that he is in complete denial of his issues, whilst me, as the anxious one am researching, doing therapy etc to death!
However, i also struggle to address issues to indeed avoid conflict.

[Danielledavis-hp]

All these attachment videos makes me feel like its best to just not be attached at all.

BINGO!

[SirenaK]

Funny thing is, when you see these two personalities enter a relationship ❤ The Runner & the Chaser

[GodsCallGirl]

They need to do more of these because this gets it through to me in seconds what I’ve taken years trying to work out and still not know what’s what. Thanks to the team at holistic shrinks ! For shrinking my probs
, yahoo! ❤❤❤

[cassjane]

Holy crap. I have anxious attachment, no doubt! 😳

[erinholleran]

I am so lucky, I have both. Disorganized attachment style. Yay! Relationships are so easy

[CAB]

Interesting. I just learned something about myself. I’m mostly avoidant, but I also over think and analyze like crazy, so I guess some anxiety, too? I’ll have to overthink this!

[erikamartinez]

I feel grateful for videos like this. They shine light into what sometimes we choose to ignore and hurt ourselves and does we love all because our ignorance. Knowing our programming helps as make better choices.
Thank you!