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[monicarai]

Story of my life. People literally shame you for calling your mom's bad behavior out

[sparkygump]

The biggest pain for me was when I realized my mother didn't care about me.

[JenPurple]

To all the narcissistic victims:
You won’t be heartbroken or depressed when they gone. That’s a good thing.

[Jen-X]

I stopped expressing to people how horrible my covert narcissist mom is because people with ‘normal’ mothers always look at me like I’m some ungrateful little brat. They don’t understand that not all moms love their kids unconditionally. Ive actually heard, “She’s your mom, come on. You know she just wants what’s best for you.” Im paraphrasing but ive heard stuff like that a few times after trying to explain how my mom is not like that. Lucky them that they probably aren’t capable of understanding, lol.

Once I had my own child, I came to realize my mom’s true nature. So many things I would, I could NEVER do to my daughter or say to her. It’s so hard to understand HOW she can treat me the way she does. I just can’t even imagine doing those things to my daughter.

Thank you for this video. It helped ☺️

[princessak]

The only mother I know is myself and that’s the only person that mothered me

[butterfly]

Love & hugs to all my fellow "orphans by narcissism" ❤

[cinjm]

As my mother gets older her drama is getting worse. I'm so heartbroken that she's gonna spend her last years playing childish head games with her adult kids because she lost her control over us and she's not getting her way like she always has. I didn't know how spiteful she could be. I feel bad that she's so frustrated and scared and I really tried to help her but she refused to accept or recognize my help and then belittled and dismissed it trying to guilt me and muniplate me. I'm tired of beating my head against the wall.

[septemberdawnluketz]

Realizing my mother wasn’t even capable of giving me unconditional love is so disheartening. This has been the harshest lesson I’ve ever had to learn.

[ytyytjw]

Saddest part is some children dont even realize their mom is a narcissist they continue to be manipulated gasslighed and still they think their mom is an angel but problem starts when the spouse enters. Spouse suffers the most coz the son / daughter dont find anything wrong in their mother.

[mrscrofford]

Both parents are narcs 😒
It’s true it’s almost embarrassing when ppl ask me what my plans are for these holidays and I say absolutely nothing.

[trishanoel]

Not only does my Mother not care about me.
She seems to gain pleasure from hurting me.
I've had a lot of therapy.
But I'm realizing that going no contact is the only way for me to truly heal.

[desikepner]

As I’ve become a Mother, I could never imagine saying or being the way my mother was with me to my baby. NEVER. I love him so much. We got this guys!!! ❤❤

[BJ-szvb]

My mom is a covert narcissist and i went no contact 2 months ago. Never felt more free in my life. people still shame me into talking to her but i remain calm and non reactive.

[LIVdaBrand]

If they don’t like you for you, then they aren’t for you—family or not

[AnjaliKathuria.]

My mother and my sister both are narcissists and emotional vultures! They are so cruel and selfish that they can stoop to any level to harm the other person. Finally after years of struggle, I have moved out. It’s been 3 months now and I am trying to heal..

[MD-vbhq]

This is my 5th Mother's Day since going no contact. It just keeps getting better. I bought myself some chocolate creme pie to celebrate me tonight. I've been a better mother to me than she ever was.

[BigHeartNoBS]

Mother's Day is bittersweet for me. My father sexually assaulted me and trafficked me to his friends. Rather than hold my father responsible, my mother hated me for it. He did the same thing to my older sister. What did my mother do? She manipulatively called my big sister a "homewrecker." Big Sis ran away when I was 4, and I don't blame her at all. My parents are dead now, thank God. The good news is, I am the mother of a great son who respects women and is a total sweetheart. I learned from my parents how not to raise a child, and being a mother has been a very healing experience. I'm really proud of my son.

[laisdellacqua]

Thank you for validating the survivors of narcissistic mothers!

[EvaVelarde]

I remember third grade, I told my mom about some girl bullying me and calling me ugly, and she told me that I couldn’t do much, because that girl was pretty looking and that I was in fact, a “little bit” ugly. At the moment I was young and took in her words like she is being honest but I think its monstrous nowadays.

[Redrumy]

I had gone no contact with my mother for 5 months. Today I called because I thought she would appreciate me calling on mother's day. The conversation quickly turned into how bad of a son I am because I decided to take space, and how all of her friends couldn't believe my actions. At that moment I realized that what she really cares is how she is perceived by the outside world, nothing else. And although I tried to explain to her that the reason behind me taking space is heal the relationship, nothing was getting through.... The story was the same, look how you're making me look in front of my friends! How dare you do such a thing to the mother that sacrificed everything for you.

I have now decided to block her and move on with my life. As difficult as it is, I have to admit that I have no control over her behavior or whether she chooses to get help or not. But I do have control over healing these wounds and standing up for myself. Time will only tell what will happen. I will always wish her the best and will always love her no matter what, but I will do so at a distance.

But for today forward I will celebrate mother day as the day I decided to care for myself in the most loving way possible. The day I decided to re-mother myself. ❤️