How Narcissistic Mother's Put You Down!

Does your mother never give you validation?

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[stBorn]

Narc mothers treat you no different than a jealous & insecure girlfriend sibling or coworker...

[ParteraQuisqueyana]

I stopped calling my mom because she turns absolutely everything into something negative. Now she complains I don’t call her.

[teegmanning]

While on the phone with my mom, I broke down and told her I was struggling and felt suicidal. Immediately she said a call was coming in and she had to take the call. There was no call. She always dismissed my traumas and mental health but spoke about it to everyone else behind my back. I let it slide for years. I finally cut her off this year. I had enough. Didn't realize she was a narcissist.

[PattyMayo]

I'm just now realizing why I have so many issues when it comes to perfectionism or looking at my accomplishments and talents as nothing special. My best friend was proud of me for getting my degree in accounting. She asked if I was happy about it, and I shrugged. It didn't feel like an accomplishment. I also found out why I don't like compliments on anything I do. I tear myself down because I'm used to it. So many things make more sense now that I understand who I have been dealing with this entire time.

[goldenmattew]

I turned 50yrs old on June 15, 2024 and I can positively write that the struggle carries itself well into adulthood life, a neurological wound for which not only we are not responsible for whatever wrong teaching, emotional mental and physical abuse was perpetrated upon us and engrained now into our skulls, we also need to deal with the aftermath and whatever obstacle this trauma has generated. They robbed us of a lot of things not just childhood . Ironically we can only heal by overcoming all this bucket of shit thrown at us and become anything and everything they so skilfully tried to prevent us to be: HAPPY HUMAN BEINGS, something this pathetic narc parents were not.

[LizH-sw]

Thank you for this. I dont remember a single hug or i love you even as a small child., makes you thing whats wrong with me. This helps me realize so much...

[ShradhaDash-xn]

It's so relatable...the pain was immese and growing up i dint know what I did wrong..walking on egg shells...and now she questions y don't i call her... whenever u call or talk to her ..
It's so draining...leaves me feeling hurt for atleast the whole day.

[Princethegerman]

Bought my first home and mom said my closets were too small....thanks mom glad your proud of me.🎉

[arcturianoracle]

lol yes like coming over to your house talking about “huh, it’s actually clean for once” 😂 when she is literally a hoarder etc and you have never had that attitude with her or anyone else. Oh, but it was a “compliment” so “why are you just so difficult” lmfao

[desertfox]

My harp teacher wanted to hear from my parents on my success as a harpist, because both of them wouldn't say squat. So, I asked my mom, about how I was doing on the harp? Here's what she said, "What do you want accolades?" Boy, did that sting. I found peace of mind after she passed. No more stomach

[rart]

I hate how toxic my mom is. It’s very disturbing and hard to deal with. I just want to focus on my own life

[Loomac]

Or dad's who brought you up. Being told you owe them because they brought you up.

[clevergrl]

Went no contact 12 years ago, the ongoing problem is their flying monkeys.

[gonegirl]

Never knew a mother’s love. Only
Knew a lady that left me in foster care and when I became an adult be jealous and compete with me. She tried to rewrite my childhood to leave out her piss poor parenting like putting drugs and men before her kids. She has this one story of my sister and I running in the house when she pulled up after work because we weren’t supposed to be outside. She never had a job and that never happened. Conveniently leaving out her crack use, revolving door of men, and us never having food. My sister and I wrapped old toys in newspaper to have gifts on Christmas.
She fought with my aunt who got custody of us because she wouldn’t give my mom half the foster care check she thought she deserved because we were HER kids😢. She’s blocked from my life because I refuse to live in her false reality while she constantly puts me down while asking for money.

[bonnieromick]

As a child I wanted to go into counseling to help my family. Ironically my family laughed at me. Back then I had no idea why my mom seemed at odds with me so much. Now I have a specific language, she was a narcissist and met the criteria. It helps to understand why

[judyholland]

Here's one for ya: I was a teenager, worked very hard to lose 30 lbs before starting back to school, got down to 110 lbs. THEN>>mom just HAD to say "well yeah, but you still got thunder thighs!"

[Dontknowanymore]

I don’t like wearing makeup or how it feels. If we were going somewhere, she would ask me to put on makeup. When I refused, she would say, “Every old barn could use a coat of paint.”

I was in my 20s when she would say this.

[reddieunknown]

I'm a senior in highschool and I really want to go to this certain university that's a couple hours away. And I'm really excited at first she was supportive and hyped me up about it but now all she has to say is negative, talking about all the things she thinks I cant handle trying to bring me down like living on campus (without her where she can't boss me around) and finances. And I feel like I have no one to turn to for advice because she herself never went to collage and knowing her she will purposely try not to help to make me feel like I'm making a horrible decision. All I want is for her to support and validate me approaching this milestone.
I noticed the past 2 years how much of a narcissist she is, and I try not to let it get me down.

[mosaicowlstudios]

I sent my mom a copy of my latest album (7 songs that I spent over 15 months of really hard work on). I also sent a copy to my aunts and uncles. I heard very nice feedback and congrats from every single one of her siblings, before she even bothered to listen to it.

[cau]

Yes my own mother tries to put me down all the time. Somehow everything is my fault and she would deny any wrongdoing. When I confronted her she would blow up like a nuclear bomb, never taking any responsibility. She is the most heartless cold and ill temper person I ever known. I suspect she is under demonic control because it’s like there isn’t a soul inside of her.