NARCISSISTIC MOMS: SIGNS OF NARCISSISM IN MOTHERS/WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE WHEN MOM IS NARCISSISTIC

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A narcissistic mother is particularly wounding toward a developing child's sense of self.

When we grow up with parents who have strong narcissism traits or Narcissistic Personality Disorder, especially a mom with Narcissistic tendencies, we can struggle with eating disorders, poor body image, chronic emptiness or worthlessness, relationship difficulties with ourselves and others, and feeling lonely in our souls or abandoned, given our lack of healthy mothering.

But because many men and women know their narcissistic parents to have "always been this way," they often miss the psychological connection between their own self and relational struggles, and their parent's narcissistic traits or disorder.

The first step is to identify if your parent may have NPD or related traits, so you can stop blaming and shaming yourself for existing, for needing more than you received, and for turning the parental self hatred of narcissism onto yourself, so you can be free, be healed and be whole.

RESOURCES ON NARCISSISM:

"Will I Ever Be Good Enough?" K. McBride
"Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents" Gibson
"Don't You Know Who I Am?" Dr. Ramani (also on Youtube!)
"The Narcissistic Family". Donaldson-Pressman
"Stop Caretaking the Narcissist or Borderline" Fjelstad

[jewlzn]

I always thought it was trauma. But I now see that it is my narcissistic mother. Feeling unlovable, ugly and stupid. Being constantly criticized and never having developed a health sense of self.

[Winterlandzzz]

No longer celebrate mother's day or any day that put toxic ppl on a pedestal.
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[vectorx]

I am a narcissist because of my narcissistic mother. On the other hand though, I recognize that I am one and do NOT want to be one. Now that I am in my 30's I have chilled out a lot. I put God first and everything falls into place. I hope everyone is well. Peace be with you.

[ollie]

“She’s a fake bitch” I think that at least once a day about my mom🙂

[shukriaapso]

The worse part is we attract narcissistic partners due to them. We wonder why, but the reason is as kid we relate love to mothers, because naturally we love our mother, so we keep falling in love with people like - her 😢

[michaelOB]

your comments about the buying cards for them hit home. I literally spend 20 minutes every mothers day and birthday trying to find the right card because most of them when I read them feels like a lie.

[lourdezmunoz]

I grew up with narcissistic parents. They're marriage was extremely toxic. Being the oldest child I was always put in the middle of their fights. They would tell me about the sexual affairs of the other parent to appear as the victim when I was literally 11 years old. My mother and father were promiscuous people, had issues with alcohol and violence. Although my father passed away, I couldn't cry for him, I was relieved because the drama would be over. But my mother who is still alive, manages to keep the drama going. Honestly at my core, I carry a deep resentment for my parents, and because of my mother I have contemplated suicide many times. She has literally ruined my life.

[jamlunar]

I am a daughter of a mother with many of these traits. I did not marry a narcissist but I have discovered over the years that most of my close friends are narcissist.

[antoinettecollins]

Thank you.
I moved 1000 miles away because I was surrounded by narcissists. (My mom, brother, sister and ex boyfriend)
I felt like I was going crazy. Thank you for putting it in perspective.

[jbb]

My mom was naked around me until I moved out in my twenties despite me begging her not to do that. I have children of my own now. My son is TWO and I give him the respect of not being naked around him

[cakepudding]

My “mother” used to accuse me of being jealous of her and her body after 5 children, diabetes and weight issues. She used to think she looked like Jennifer Lopez and get angry at me being slim. And tried to get me scales to weigh myself when I never had weight issues

[brnrik]

I am 56 & i have been in the dark & feeling like everything was my bad all my life!!! Thank God & this family here!!!

[claireerodriguez]

My mom is now 78 years old and both my sister and I are now really starting to come to the very difficult realization of just how much a narcissist my mom is:/

[heathere]

Oh my god. The card thing. I thought I was the only one. Totally relate to this. 😢😮

[elisabethzosaustin]

LOL the Mother’s Day card thing 😂😭 me to a T, just standing in the isle feeling guilty like “well I can’t be rude and get a card that just says happy Mother’s Day, there has to be SOMETHING nice on it” then reading all of the cards with all the nice things written in them like “yeah I’m not getting that, none of that is true to her, she is never that nice and has never done these things.”

[CW]

I've always just been realizing this with my mother. I never wanted to admit it because it feels wrong to complain about my mother, especially since she was a single mother. It feels like a crime to talk badly about her. I feel like I'm betraying my mother just by talking about all of it. I used to talk about it when I was younger about my mother's treatment of me, and people would think I was lying, and I couldn't figure out why. I was just talking about it because I thought it was normal when it came to how people parent their kids. It was always about her, and how I should be grateful because she was a single mother and my mother was forced to have me because she got pregnant from a one night stand. She's blamed me for it my whole life. She'd shame me for him being my dad.

[bradbradford]

I think it's important to bring up how narcissists can be very good at appearing as if they care, but it's always for their own reasons. It's to be perceived as a good parent or some other selfish endeavor. They can even do genuinely nice things to establish how nice they are. Don't confuse it with them genuinely caring for you. They either want your admiration, someone else's admiration for being so giving, or there's some expectation they'll benefit from attached to it.

[tzukhi]

Yup. Mothr thinks she’s perfect, and the center of the universe. She never acted like a mother, acted more like a really envious “frienemy”
And to top it off i’m her only child and she was a single Mothr . Who btw also said she wanted to have a boy not a girl. She didn’t even had a bame for me, she was 100% sure i was going to be a boy.
My whole life did everything and anything she asked. She ruined my childhood, she ruined my life, she ruined Me .

[HoosierMama]

Yep...me standing in the card aisle, trying to find an appropriate mother's day card 😬You nailed it!!!

[KingMark]

I popped a pimple on my face and it left an bad blemish. In front of everyone, my mom loudly says to me “what’s wrong with your face, did somebody beat you up?”Then she stared at it with a disgusting look on her face. I was so upset and thinking to myself, why is she being so mean and why did she say that so loud in front of everyone.