Narcissistic mothers will absolutely ruin you and take a lifetime to recover from . Thanks for the video ❤
kcee
A narcissistic woman needs a passive man - sums up my parents in that one statement. A very special kind of hell.
stephenstuart
My mother admitted I was neglected but she herself takes no accountability or responsibility. She's says she's the best mother in the world. Cruelty, emotionally unavailable, ignored, dissed, gaslight, lies, baited, not allowed to have a self, mind games, pretend to have empathy. Thinks its funny!
Sadistic father.... added to the mix.
Thinks daughter is there to serve men.
I felt compassion, empathy for them both, but I am learning to let myself off the hook.
To give myself kindness.
I didn't abuse them.
I didn't cause their wounds.
Let go, let God.
Theowlhawk
My heart goes out to all of those who had a narcissistic mother or father. This was and still is by far the most difficult trauma I’ve found to heal from (and I’ve gone through a lot)… BUT GOD! 🙌🏽 Having to learn to be okay knowing my mother may never see or understand the pain I’ve once carried, is a lot to process. Thankful to God that He sent His One and only Son Jesus that whoever believes in Him shall not die but have every lasting life. He didn’t come to condemn the world but that the world through Him might be saved (John 3:16-17 paraphrased). I can’t get back time, but the love of the Father is teaching me how to live going forward and that He will never leave me or forsake me. He is for me and not against me, everything I’ve wanted and never had. It’s all in Him and I’m grateful to experience it! I tried to deal with the pain every wrong way, I finally found the right way, Jesus. I truly feel and know I am loved by Him. His love is healing me.
It’s a journey, and I can testify, His love changed me ❤🙏🏽
jessicalove
I think my mother is a narcissist, but she thinks herself a saint. And sometimes she can do sweet things… and that’s the hook, I’ve come to see. I’m 54, and only now realizing how healthy distance and zero expectation that you’d hope from a mother is the only option in order for me to finally just let go and heal. Good luck to all who have been raised by or have endured the behaviour or a narcissist. ❤
vonniemichelle
Sex has always been an issue for me. I'm glad you mentioned a link from a narc parent and issues with sexuality. Been in and out of counseling since 19 wasnt until recently a trusted counselor mentioned covert narcissism my trusted counselor is also a sex therapist and tells me that my mother thrived on power and control. When i was a child she would threaten to take me to a doctor to make sure Everything was "intact" and that I was a virgin. I didn't even know what she meant by that till I got a little older. She never wanted me to date and would tell me sex was bad. Now as a married woman I have alot of compulsive rituals I have to do before even considering sex. It's very difficult to be flexible vulnerable and enjoyable but I'm getting there slowly with proper help. Thank you for validating this. I needed that.
khaleesidelrey
I love how you correlate narcissistic abuse with mood disorders. I'm in a family where our mother is a overt narc and is truly neglectful. And I have 2 siblings who have developed OCD and one became a paranoid schizophrenic. This was due to years of gaslighting and neglect. Your insight is totally on point. ❤ and I'm hoping we break free soon. Moving out is the only way
birthinfluenceembrace
Thank you so much. I’m 42 and it took me having a NDE and starting a spiritual awakening in 2020 for me to finally see the truth and to start healing . I’m very intelligent, and always wanted more out of life and no matter what I always carried my self in good a way and a genuine smile who strangers would tell me they love my spirit. But I couldn’t understand why my life never progressed. I would get good office computer job, nice new car and apartments then would love all three in less the month. I kept having to get helped financially by mother who used it to control me. My entire felt like i was living someone else life cause things just didn’t make sense. I did drugs but it was always alone getting high cause I don’t like clubs or parties and I was never a drinker at all. I’m just now getting on track after I walked away and moved to another state away from family
LiftingUrVeil-LUV
Your video is absolutely a blessing. Thank you for your content. The things you said resonated with me deeply. 3 years ago, through therapy, I discovered my mother (likely) suffers from BPD, which manifests in narcissistic behaviors. Of course, my therapist can't diagnose someone they haven't met, but they diagnosed me as being raised by someone with BPD. While trying to untangle that unhealthy relationship, my inlaws moved in with us and my husband of 30 years began to revert to his emotional state of childhood, which was not good. 8 years ago we went through couples counseling to break the habits of what we now know were two individuals who found each other after both having been raised by narcissistic mothers. You can imagine how unhealthy our patterns were. Never physical abuse, but certainly mental on both our parts. We went from being trauma bonded to our mothers, to trauma bonding with each other. But without understanding where our behavior stemmed from it was hard to break the patterns. Now that my inlaws live with us, his own mother's unpredictable behavior had us scratching our heads until a month ago. While I was continuing the work I do on my own healthy boundaries and whatnot, I came across some videos regarding Narcistic behavior patterns. I showed them to my husband because they described his mother to a tee. And he is now looking back on his entire childhood with the eyes of an adult. We both are. You used the word awareness. Awareness is the key to setting you free from the past. Unfortunately, we did not learn this until we had already raised our own children. They have seen our unhealthy patterns and called us on them, so I have hope they will not wait until they are 53 to break the patterns. But we can look at his mother's screaming fits, manipulation, telling us we are making things up, the whole nine yards when we don't succumb to her will, we can look at it all in an unattached way now. We can avoid the hooks. And stop trying to plead our case why her behavior in our home is unacceptable. We've asked her to find other arrangements and leave this week. Then the real work begins in asking our children for forgiveness. And forgiving ourselves for the mistakes we learned and repeated without harboring anger in our hearts for our mothers who only repeated what they learned but are not interested in change because in their eyes all their behavior is justified or our fault. It will be a journey but we already feel lighter in understanding what is and has happened to bring us to this point.
brendalittau
I stumbled upon your channel when I searched for "narcissistic mother". I really appreciate you having a perspective from both modern psychology and incorporating a Christian perspective. This video was incredibly helpful. Please keep posting for all Christians who have faith in our Lord but are also seeing to make practical changes in our day to day life!
lisaphalange
You are WONDERFUL and so wise! Good work, man 👏👏
KiraCefai-ebww
Cut the mother off. My husband did after 40 years of being a doormat. I couldn't take the garbage anymore
It was her or me. And we haven't looked back. But it is sad it gets to that point.
mellissabest
Mark, just wanted to say thank you so much for covering these topics. They bring a tremendous amount of help!
ethanplacella
Oh boy...what a week it's already been. So grateful for this ministry.
karissaetheridge
I know this is old, but that shark sound when you where at the "however" part got me laughing to the point of crying. Thank you thank you!!
gabrielpastor
My childhood was one of never being certain how long a peace would last because I could never be certain when would be the next time she would come down on us with "I have something to say/I have a point to make/By golly you will hear me out!" She would barge rooms, interrupt movies, interrupt listening to music. And to her, anything worth saying once was worth saying dozens of times over, and not necessarily back to back. It wasn't out of the ordinary for her to say her nonsense, go away, come back minutes later and say the exact same thing but maybe phrased differently. Numerous times. But better be quick if she asks you a question because she might interrupt with "Huh?! What?!" before you even had a chance to open your mouth. I honestly think she just loved the sound of her own voice. Sometimes she would sprinkle in "My sacrifice/I raised you/I do so much" for good measure. Now that I am an adult, I struggle to excise the sound of her voice from my thoughts.
pmcollectorboy
I was in choir and my healing often came through worshipping the Lord.
marianmears
It’s unbelievable how accurate & Absolutely spot on describing this living hell. Love the humor and God ❤
thomaswilkinson
Thank you so much. You have described me and my "Christian" mother's ( only God knows), life to a tee. I have finally been redeemed after 30 years of rebellion and promiscuity. My mother told everyone how horrible I was from the time I first walked. She still won't admit how her lack of nurturing and scapegoating hurt me. I'm finally being awakened to the spell I've been under by the grace of God. It is so difficult to understand forgiveness because she would never forgive me. You helped me to know that I'm not alone and that Jesus Christ is healing me.
