Narcissistic Mothers

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[samanthabarron]

When people say “appreciate your mother because no one will love you like she does”, it makes me sick that people who have NO idea are shaming people who have difficult relationships with their mothers. I’m SO happy for people who are best friends with their mom, but we’re not all blessed with that connection.

[hikogaki]

I remember standing in my kitchen with my mother, she said to me " I don't know how you learned to be such a good mother" I whipped around staring her in the eyes and said " I treat my children like I always wanted to be treated as a child", she was finally speechless.

[eceozuduru]

If you were raised by a narcissistic and got out of there with your sanity intact then you deserve a Nobel prize, you’re a very strong and resilient human being. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise..

[SweetUniverse]

I can't even imagine what it's like to have a loving mother

[playfulcat]

all the females who have or had loving, present, caring and supportive mothers, you are very fortunate to have experienced this. don't take it for granted.

[seren]

Due to my mother I have no confidence and anxiety. Due to my mother I put other people's happiness over my own and I let everyone use me. The only thing I learnt from her is not to be like her

[jmewhatzername]

My mom is like this. She told me when I was 12 years old that she hated me, wished I was never born, and couldn’t believe I was her daughter. I have spent the rest of my life in therapy and became a teacher for the sole purpose of making sure that if any other kids were treated like me, at least they’d have one female role model in their lives who loved and respected them.

[cc]

My mother is 91 and has NEVER changed. This is one of the saddest qualities of narcissism.

[hannawilliams]

Does anyone else struggle with memory as a child? There are entire periods of my childhood that I have no memory of and I wonder how related to this abuse dynamic that might be.

[aleyasmith]

I am proud to say, I have broken the pattern and gifted my children a better example of motherhood.

[infjelphabasupporter]

I'm fourteen years old, and my mother is a malignant narcissist.(And I suspect also a sociopath). I'm the scapegoat. Finding this channel has helped me so much. She abuses me physically, verbally and emotionally, but I thought there was something wrong with me. I believed what she told me and thought I was crazy and feared myself. I'm finally finding that I'm not so alone in what I'm going through. Again, thank you so much. I will try to survive and thrive.

[gojiberry]

I just went no contact with my parents. I am so angry at my mother. All of my trauma is coming out, in nightmares, dreams. All I learned was that my life revolves around serving my mother's needs. She literally taught me that being authentic is unkind, and that you must be fake and look good to other people at the expense of your own well being. Specifically SHE must look good to everyone. I was just a tool to her.

[SilentTrip]

I feel better knowing that I'm not alone or overreacting to all of this

[bigapple]

I hate mother's day. where are the hallmark cards that say "thanks for being a selfish, emotionally nonexistent mother who never loved me"?

[elizabethsanford]

To everyone who has grown up with a narcissistic mother, I wish you the all the best on your healing journey ❤

[Becky_Atia]

I'm literally crying watching this video. It really hurts that some of us were deprived a normal kind of life. I hope everyone reading this gets to heal.

[lauraa]

Mother, you had me, but I never had you....

[wendyhallsworth]

The guilt of not being enough is the hardest to get over

[nelumbonucifera]

My Narc Mother taught me how NOT to parent. She’s responsible for my inability to establish healthy boundaries with others and accepting abuse silently. I grew up believing that everyone’s happiness is my responsibility. She was so toxic, when she figured out my husband was of the same ‘wavelength’ as her, she’d actually gang up with him to devalue me. I went no contact with her 10 years ago when she put my kids’ life in danger to enable and score points with another Narc. The damage she had done was enough for me to hold on to my resolve. A very happy Mother’s Day to you, Dr Ramani, and to all the mothers here 💐💕

[KingMark]

My entire life I always thought that my mom treated me worse than anyone else…but she claimed she loved me more than anyone else. This caused so much confusion and feelings I didn’t understand.