Why The Dismissive Avoidant Avoids Expressing Empathy (Clip from Webinar)

Why the Dismissive Avoidant Avoids Expressing Empathy (Clip From Webinar)
- Why the Dismissive Avoidant Avoids Expressing Empathy
- What the Shadow of the Dismissive Avoidant Is
- Subconscious Associations with Empathy for a Dismissive Avoidant

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[mer-ced-es]

The fun part about dating a DA is that you never know if they're just deactivating because they do feel for Or if they actually don't care about you 😂👍🏻

[thegirlwiththatface]

I finally had to end things for real with my DA ex today because of this reason. He crossed many of my boundaries and wouldn’t budge at all about accommodating them

[nietzschesmuse]

Wow this is so painful I remember been a kid and that is how it felt no one cared about my despair. Thank you for the shorter video.

[abva]

Empathy is the ability to understand and put yourself in someone's shoes. If you cannot do this, you have no real empathy.

[mgn]

How about when you share a situation and the DA tries to justify/defend the other side of the story without even knowing the other side of the story/person.
Or…sharing a terrifying experience and they say…well, hasn’t everyone experienced terror ?!? Wth

[taniafox]

Thank you for putting words to my feelings and behaviours...awareness is the start of my journey....

[evas]

im sorry but these people are ALOT of work....its almost reparenting in a relatiionship

[nicolabrittain]

It hasn't been my experience that DAs are empathetic...

[tammyalexander]

What's really helpful about these videos is the articulation of feelings thatt sometimes can be such a struggle to articulate, not to mention, understanding these feelings and how they even come about. You deserve so much for being such a gem, for helping and doing it wholeheartedly. Thank you!! You've helped me heal and everyday I watch your videos I improve my sense of self even more! ❤️❤️ Sending you lots of Love and kindness from South Africa. 🇿🇦

[ME-xhzq]

I have co-workers just walk up to me and tell me they’re hungry or their legs are hurting and then just walk away. In my mind, I’m like why are you telling me this, do you expect me to do something about it?? What is the purpose behind me knowing? It’s really awkward.

[rahmasamir]

They dont have empathy they are the one who ghost without any feeling

[hilostateofmind]

Not my DA. It’s very very clear that he has a very hard time putting himself into someone else’s shoes and is totally clueless about how to be supportive when someone is having a hard time especially in a crisis. In fact somehow he usually does the opposite of what you’d want him to do in those moments and he does not understand my perspective and tries to tell me that I shouldn’t feel the way I do. I love him so much but it’s a nightmare. I’m now a secure former FA after about a month of hard work with PDS but I still don’t want to be with a DA ever again. His negative pessimistic mind set, his complete emotional repression (he even represses joy) his lack of empathy, his 12 year old level of emotional maturity & lack of emotional intelligence… no thanks.

[roshalllambert]

Great explanation! When I was young I was very empathetic but this trait was not very much valued in the environmental conditions I was in and I was discouraged from having those traits. Shadow of the DA part was my question in the webinar.

[motjon]

Somehow after a year and some change of dealing with a DA ive found that I've adopted his attachment style. Here I was thinking I'd reached security but I just sought from anxious to dismissive. Its really wild being on the other side. I can understand, how excited I am to see a loved one and then being overwhelmed and uncomfortable when I finally am in their presence because of the emotions being shared. So overwhelmed I end up leaving just as quickly as I'd arrived and feeling guilty afterwards. Its really strange.

[agent_exodus]

Your videos have been incredibly helpful to me. They came up at the perfect time and continue to do so.

Good ol synchronicities.

[CristianaCatólica]

What does it require?? The video stopped there :(

We love long videos too! :)

[soulfulspec]

Thais, do dismissive avoidants ever break up because they were afraid they were falling for someone too hard and didn't want to give up "control"?

[ziggypip]

Superb. Explains so much! Really helped me w my DA.

[gabyr]

Hi Thais! Could you please do a video on why anxiously preoccupied style shuts down in serious conversations/confrontations, and tips to help?!!

[chloej]

Dear Thais, my partner is dismissive avoidant and I think fearful avoidant too and I am anxious/preoccupied and fearful avoidant...
We are going through a very tough time and he is maybe not allowed to stay here in Europe.
I loved him throughout our relationship very deep and had on the other hand fighting with myself because he doesn't understand why I am needing physical touch.He is withdrawning emotionally after we had a very intense time and its getting worse now because he is doing everything to stay.He said a few days ago that it is an issue how we communicate...
My English is not perfect but I always thought its ok, but I think I have this problems to articulate my feelings and thoughts and if I would tell him, he might leave. ..
I am so incredibly scared of losing him...