Lessons from people who are 'immune' to narcissists

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[torycook]

As someone here has already stated...
"Being Financially Independent is KEY to being Emotionally Independent..."
Much easier to distance yourself!

[mariebowman]

My husband is literally immune to narcissism, this is a big reason I fell inlove with him. I knew he could handle my family, and help me in my healing journey. He is total opposite of gaslighty, he is calm, peaceful, never yells, never takes things personally, he is the sweetest and has given me so much security

[JewellAmber]

I had a friend who would say ‘that’s a whole lot of not-my-problem. Lol I loved this phrase.

[justsaying]

1. Don't take it personally
2. Don't try to change the narcissus
3. Engage in self preservation - set & maintain boundaries
4. Not afraid of narcissus
5. Know when to cut losses - step away, shrug it off
6. Dnt derived their self worth from the narcissus - have strong self esteem & confidence
7. Dnt get affected/overwhelmed by those who enable the narcissus
Great tips, thank u!

[stefal]

The moment you accept that they are emotionally crippled, you become immune. Low expectations from a narc is a lifesaver

[NarcSurvivor]

People who are immune to narcissists will have high self esteem and be self validated.

[nealgrey]

Eleanor Rosevelt said, “What others think of me is none of my business”.

[genevieveaniko]

The secret to becoming narc immune.. Is to NOT take them seriously. These are people who are self involved and committed to insanity... There is no need to participate and lose yourself/life to the madness. Leave them to it. 🤷‍♀️

[wishingonthemoon]

Remember, just because you “can” take it, doesnt mean you should. A relationship where I haven’t to be constantly resilient and suffering is not one I want.

[_bluephoenix_]

My current mantra;
Your actions are a reflection of you,
My reactions are an awareness of me.

[luisacordero]

The more I have learned to love myself, the less that narcissists are attracted to me. I think I repel them now.

[terryhutchings]

My late husband was so good at this. The last time my mother came to visit my daughter was giving birth. I was becoming a grandmother for the first time and she a great-grandmother. It should have been a wonderful time. She was so awful and belittling to me, that by the time I took her to the airport we were barely speaking. I never saw her again and she never saw her great-grandaughter again. I was extremely upset and asked my husband why did she even come. He said 'Darlin, it was all for show. Just let her go!' So, that's exactly what I did. God I miss that man!!

Unfortunately, after his passing I managed to get into a relationship with a very narcissistic man. I don't know how I lost my way, but I did. Probably trauma bonding due to my mother. Anyhow, in therapy now and trying to find my way back.

[tamivega]

The one thing she left off... a sense of humor. The damage TOXIC people do is NOT funny. But everyone knows that a person with a sense of humor about their pain/troubles is far more likely to HEAL and stay healthy. Instead of just shrugging... give yourself the permission to laugh at the absurdity every chance you get. Good humor is medicine.

[truthserum]

Nothing is more intimidating to a narcissist than an educated empath.

[desertangelfish]

The one who cares the least carries the most power.

[aznsugarg]

Hearing this, I realized my husband is immune. He can completely ignore someone or grey rock. He’s quiet and narcissists think he is stand- offish and unfriendly because he doesn’t engage with them. He can completely “check out” at those types of meetings at work. If it’s family, he’ll either avoid all together by hiding in a room “working” or say the most minimal thing possible when spoken to. He just doesn’t take it personally and can filter the BS. Used to annoy me, but after hearing this, it’s truly a gift.

[madleneidam]

I've quit my job an hour ago. Enough is enough.

[Pheonix]

When I stopped responding to my narcissistic mother's "games", I felt so empowered. I allowed her to rage and scream at me all she wanted, and I simply smiled and did not respond. My silence drove her completely crazy. In hindsight, I wish I started doing this at the beginning of my life.

[magicunicorn]

The phrase "Not my circus, not my monkeys" is my go-to when it comes to dealing with narcissists and their drama. I'm also not a person who has to "belong". So being a bit of a loner can be a real superpower when it comes to dealing with the self-absorbed among us.

[Emefur]

“The day you stop caring about what they think” – yes, that is the day