The Crazy Thing About Healing After Narcissistic Abuse #narcissist

[upa_]

Narcissistic personality disorder, where the narcissist thinks that they are the victim and the victims thinks that they are the narcissist

[HonestyIsAVirtue]

The hardest part of the healing process for me has been accepting the fact that the narcissist was intentionally plotting, and scheming behind my back the whole entire 32 years of marriage. He was on a determined mission to completely destroy me. And, I was clueless about that. He had me in a trance. I was in a total brain fog. That just blows my mind still to this day. Its CRAZY! He's been out of my life for 5 years now, and I've done a lot of healing. But, I don't believe that I will ever be able to trust another creature like I once did him. He killed my trust. And, that part of me has been damaged forever. I'm just saying that there's some things that I won't ever do again. I won't ever give anyone else all of my heart on this earth again. God is the only one that I trust with my heart....

[crankiemanx]

They dont care about the consequences of their actions towards anyone else unless it directly effects them.they will tell you that whatever happened was your own doing & choice.& That they were merely a victim in the whole situation & that it was your actions that caused problems. when realistically you were onky reacting trying to fix & balance out all the damage they were causing by their selfish behaviour.

[winnieamar]

Yes! I totally resonate with this. The dichotomy of the emotional states is driving me crazy. I continue to struggle every single darn day! I just want this to be over, it's draining me of my energy.

[SpiritualSparkle]

They don’t even deserve my anger or resentment anymore. They’re nothing but empty vessels and should be disregarded just like an intrusive thought. They’re just thoughts and feelings, they can’t hurt me and don’t stick around

[elenhil]

Yes. Agree. Am also weirded out when I go through stints of feeling SORRY for him. Very treacherous territory.

[izawaniek]

Yes. I totally resonate with this. Spot on! It is an emotional rollercoaster but it is such a blessed place to finally arrive at. Healing takes time and we are getting better one step at a time and it is progressing. Thank you

[jacquelinefroehle]

Yes, exactly Danish. Thinking about the Narcissist will give a sick disgusting feeling and to have peace means everything

[happyist]

All of that, but also the feeling of confusion for the love that you have of had for the person you thought they were. The feeling of being robbed of something so strong and good, even though majority of it was probably just lies.

[leviwhite]

It comes in waves when you least expect it. Setting a boundary and enforcing it to normal people. Something as simple as saying no to others. It brings back all the anger. Anger at yourself for allowing this to happen.

[RKX_Errant]

This is very important to understand when healing. Great analogy and insight.

[JoeL-ndyl]

Exactly what im going through right now breaking free. I also feel betrayal

[mvaug]

The only time I feel unsettled and depressed is when narcs gaslight and boast about their popularity. I keep out of sight and show no reaction. I leave them guessing while I rest and heal. Narcs want to see us suffer. It's crazy behaviour and proves how sad they really are. Of course it's not wise to rise up against them because you end up in the game feeling a fool. Leave them guessing. Our life is none of their business any more. Our boundaries matter. Thank you so much for your videos. .
❤😂

[whispersofwillowpixi]

Yes yes yes to all.

Im 38, autistic, and am having a hard time because its my parents that im trying to detach from.

I am feeling a since of freedo. And ease. Yet sometimes i feel like i gaild them or like i need to yell them how what they are saying and doing are mean and abusive. But in my heart i know they do not care to see any thing any body elses way.
My father is the narcissist, but my mother has gone along so long that she is allowing herself to act and be just like her husband. She is to try to set him straight but now she just goes along. Money over morals i guess.

I'm mad, sad, broken, and tired.
I'm ready to just let go and feel some peace, but it's hard. I still obviously have love for them. 😢

[marbiemarbie]

Yes i felt that way...too difficult to overcome. Trauma is like permanent as well as hatred...

[courtneyburk]

Goodness I resonated with everything he said. I’m beginning my healing journey and my emotions are everywhere.

[proverbs]

I actually just want him to leave me and my children alone for the rest of his life. He won’t do that. I don’t want him to suffer, that is insanity and I’ve finally grown past that feeling. I just want him to go away.

[DidiyogasalsastudioTM]

I totally resonate with this. It is exactly what happened today ❤

[Richard-vqud]

🎯 It amazes me how Danish puts what we are feeling into words. Let the healing begin.

[brendalentsch]

Yes sir, i call it trying to recover from the emotional gymnastics.. and or, the emotional jungle that you are running through, and just trying to survive!😂 Thank you Danish for all your videos. Greatly appreciate all the effort you put into them. They are very helpful and so relateable!