The various levels of INDIFFERENCE to narcissists

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[youngblood]

It's hard to be at peace when your heart and mind are at war.

[youngblood]

The narcissist doesn't love you. I repeat, the narcissist doesn't love you. Remember that! (I need to remind myself all the time.)

[npdsurvivorsmith]

I was married to a covert narc for 16 years. We had 2 kids together, oldest turning narc like his father. If you’ve ever been threatened and fear for your life you will always be in fear of them. I hadn’t seen, heard from him in 30+ years and we lived 1200 miles apart, I was remarried and he didn’t know where I was. Nevertheless when he passed from CovID in 2021 my body immediately felt safe - he would no longer to able to hurt me. I felt relief. I had let it go mentally (I thought) but my body held that stress for many years.

[goldilocks]

Indifference is a skill that most of us very much have to LEARN the hard way. Indifference is a narcissist’s kryptonite. When you learn this skill (not taking anything anyone else says or does personally) you become a hard target to manipulate. Narcissists are HIGHLY likely to move on to a softer target that has not yet mastered this ability to discern with detachment.

[christophermarcone]

Someone said, "abandon all sincere communication with the terminally insincere " Indiffence is a lifesaver

[angelakh]

For me personally, rather than indifference I would say clarity. I no longer hold any belief that they are, were, or ever could be other than who they are. My relationships with them were not what I thought they were. I was mistaken. I loved, they didn’t, and I have learned to be more discriminating. Those relationships could not have been otherwise. It is seeing the truth and accepting it: radical acceptance. And any feelings I still have are because I am a normal person capable of a full range of emotions. They are not. So sometimes I’m sad. Sometimes I’m angry. But I am not ignorant of their devices or delusional (any more!). They have proven who they are, and I finally believe them. But my feelings don’t go away completely. And I’m glad. I don’t want to be like them.

[sushmayen]

By educating ourselves about dealing with a narcissist we can be equipped to handle these people. It's hard....soul crushing

[Corpo_Recruiter]

I've been married to a narc for 18 years, and I recently got to the point where I don't care, and it is so freeing. Updating my passport and setting up a few things that need to be done, and I'm out. I wish her all the success in the world because I know my leaving is all the vindictiveness that is needed.

She can't touch me emotionally anymore. The last time she went on a screaming tirade, I said, "Oh, you are doing your greatest hits today." That set her off even more, but I'm not censoring what I say anymore because her words don't matter, and I love that.

[thetruth]

I have totally moved on and healed. I worked in public service and when he came through my area I served him like he was a regular customer. When people that we both know bring his name up I deny knowing him. When I see him I look through him. Every guy that I dated after him I found out they were a flying monkey. I didn’t date for eleven years. I am now engaged and am in the process of starting up a center for abuse survivors and their children. I wouldn’t wish what I went through on anyone but is made me wiser and stronger than battery acid.

[LoveDancingLoveSinging]

First I faked the indifference but now I think that I should live the indifference! ❤️

[erikavaleries]

I try to act indifferent to narcs who want a fight or attention. Ignoring can cause escalation, so it’s better to slowly drift apart.

I mostly don’t care bc I don’t want contact, have no control over them, and I can’t relate to their behavior. I stay away to protect myself.

I truly don’t care if they are doing well or not. I never felt vengeful or longing to reconcile. They were that bad; I was immediately repulsed & DONE. I still feel affected by the aftermath of abuse to my health, & that helps me stay no contact amid all the hoovers & baiting. I still feel afraid bc one continues to stalk me.

[lo]

Doc. Ramani I'm so so grateful, you've changed my life, understand who I am, after almost 20 years living in a narcissist family finally I could understand to isn't my fault being so sad, depressed person

[nothingrk]

You're willingness to be honest and vulnerable in this channel has helped save me Dr. Ramani.
You're sharing has so much validation for surviving narcissistic abuse. Thank you truly!!

[semmaville]

Something amazing has happened. Ever since I woke up because of Dr Ramani… I just noticed I’m not scared of my narcissist anymore! She told me not to let my cat out. Minutes later My narcissist asked where’s the cat? And without fear I said : I let her out. She simply turned around and went to her room. This may seem tiny to you but it is EVERYTHING to me… I’m not scared anymore ❤ I love you Dr Ramani ❤❤❤

[aaronwright]

Hey Dr Ramani,

I am an African American male who is single handedly trying to break my family's generational curses, which they are are unaware of. I am extremely aware of how rare it is for a person of my ethnicity and gender to pursue mental health therapy or spiritual healing. I know there are slim chances that you see this comment, but from the bottom of my heart, I just wanted to say thank you for returning a glimmer of hope to my life, and for giving an actual name to the life I've been experiencing for the past 29 years of having a narcissistic Father, who has slowly chipped away at my spirit and will power to continue forth on my journey. I can no longer afford therapy or moving out of my parent's house, so the next best thing for me momentarily would be to find a narcissistic abuse support group. (Hoping someone will recommend one in the comment section of your last video) You have no idea how much I appreciate you, and the work you have devoted your life to. Thank you so much !! Your videos literally have brought me to tears. YOU ARE LITERALLY SAVING LIVES !!!! As an empath full of unconditional love, I hope to one day return the favor to humanity 🖤 I just need to make it through this last tough chapter 🙏🏾

[CampaholicsTV]

In a lot of ways, indifference reminds me of the grief cycle, we move around the stages continuously but never really graduate from it or settle into the highest stage.

[let_me_be_me_]

I hate that after being with the narc for so long they really do take all sense if you away. Everyday is just living in Fight or Flight and you lose all sense of your self. If you still hold any part of yourself hold onto that like gold dust and when you are finally free it will be a frame work to build on. Mind yourself out there.❤

[HLBear]

The true opposite of love is indifference. It is the goal with recovery.

[AnnePerkins-pojo]

It's the sort of indifference you have towards a dangerous animal. You are always wary of them, and you want to avoid them - but you don't want to know about their life. These videos give you knowledge about how to cope.

[cyhwuqi]

🎯 level 2... because my body still remembers. As difficult as it is, I'm using those physiological responses to keep myself safe from getting back into another narcassistic relationship. I wish the anxiety wasn't so intense, but unlike before, now I see what they're for. I don't judge myself for having the reactions internally. When I'm triggered, I find exercise helps me. I run off any stress and self-care right away. It's how I respect myself versus judge myself for my feelings.

Thanks, Dr. Ramani, these videos can be a little triggering for me, but I've noticed they're helping me heal. I deeply hope everyone who listens to these videos can find a path of escape from these satanic relationships.