How narcissists feel when you enable their behavior

Why do you need to stop enabling narcissists? Because when you overlook their behaviors or try to see their perspective, then they see it as permission to keep treating you horribly.

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[mjeff]

I kept forgiving time and time again. I starting feeling like he was "dense" because he continued to do the same things just a different day, week, month, and year. The abuse, lies, deception, and forgiveness became a reckless cycle that I got lost in. I didn't realize the fullness of the damage until I already was emotionally traumatized. The flying monkeys, family, friends, and anyone with toxic energy made it so easy for him. Keep growing, healing, and taking care of everything YOU. Never return as that cycle will destroy your ability to thrive...it costs way too much.

[spruce]

Narcissits actually see your love and care for them as a weakness in you that maybe they can exploit to their It's very important to understand how simple and savage the narcissistic mentality really is.

[Sheisme]

Being a ride or die is not a badge of honor.

[Sheisme]

This actually explains one of my best friends so much! She kept lashing out at me recently and then apologizing, so I was always really nice about it. After about the 15th time, I realized I was allowing myself to be her punching bag, so I distanced myself.

[MikeJackson]

It now makes sense why my ex kept telling me to stop trying to understand everything. She didn't want me to understand her. Now I do and I want nothing to do with her.

[PS-qnoz]

I realized he enjoyed hurting me even though he seemed like such a nice, caring guy. I never understood...what is so fun about deliberately setting people up for disappointment and betrayal? I can't imagine how messed up I would have to be in order to get a buzz from something like that.

[nappyfries]

I have a lot of empathy for narcissists in general but the ones I personally know I’ll have empathy for from a distance. I understand why a lot of them are the way they are but that doesn’t mean they are able to be in my life.

[chasesidora]

This is absolute facts! I was ‘understanding’ and ‘forgiving’ and it just kept getting worse and worse. Literally slept with my ‘friend’ since middle school behind my back for like 3 years, had a whole female co-worker he would introduce people at his job to as his ‘girlfriend’, had other women around the same friend group that knew we were together/married. On top of verbal and financial abuse…I mean I was looking like a whole clown trying to be “understanding/forgiving”. When I finally called it quits he acted like he was just a patron saint and oblivious to why I wanted out. Whew chile

[paradiseacres]

He actually said that to me! "So much for being my ride or die, huh!?" 21 years of this bu!!$#it to hear that? I felt like I was in one of those after school specials on tv for a second! iykyk No, it only cemented my resolve to get as far away as possible!!

[andreakeener]

Our silence about their behaviors is enabling. Challenging them only backfires for us. It caused me many stressful one way “discussions” and not even close to a challenge. I just kept my self in my own morals ethics and boundaries.

[Stephanie.]

I think I finally opened my eyes and stop turning a blind eye/ enabling once I fell out of love with the narcissistic ex.

[dumpmail-xzqp]

You don't really have to even be the enabler.
They just get their own darn fool enabling their toxic behavior towards you.

That is what happened to me, her boyfriend was more than happy to encourage her to be lame towards me and because I told her my boundaries, all it did was have her know where exactly to double down to get a reaction out of me

[hestervanrooy]

This is THE most informative video which I can 100% relate to. THANK you Lee, for putting in SO much of your time and energy! By applying your first-hand, professional KNOWLEDGE, and producing these u-tube videos, you help me SO much! Of course also, you provide informative, topic-related info on many other social media platforms! Thank you for your hard work, dedication and true care, to teach us, help us understand and thereby empowering us to finally live the free and happy lives we deserve.🦋

[dorotakrzeszewska]

I only forgive myself for letting such a person into my life. He doesn't matter to me anymore.ane he knows it.

[seameology]

Ugh! My sisters got rid of their narc exes. But they enable narc kids.

[IsabellaPiesch]

I didn´t. That´s not my cup of tea because I always call people out if they behave bad. If you enable their bad behavior they do more and more shit. (That´s just it). But in fact they do shit behind your back no matter what. You can´t trust such people. Distance is the key!

[Zensjo]

I needed to hear this. Thank you🙏🏼

Are you actually recovering from NPD? If so, that gives hope for humanity. 🙏🏼

[meloneymoore]

Thank you sooo much for pointing this out and explaining this 💡💡💡-Xclusyph Icon

[Analysis_Paralysis]

What about a new source of supply enabling their behavior towards society or towards people who try to hold the abuser accountable for old/present behavior that doesn't affect the new supply?

[Toshineko]

It’s like enabling a spoiled brat. It never goes well.