Do Narcissists hurt when you leave them or break up with them? Do Narcissistic people have feelings?

Do Narcissists hurt when you leave them or break up with them? Do Narcissistic people have feelings?

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[JM-ipes]

Short answer no. They just miss the ego boost and supply you give them. You’er an object.. nothing more. Once you’re no longer a resource of narcissistic supply, you’re replace.. the only time you’re “missed “, if when the narc is low on supply and is bored with new supply..

[Followmybliss]

My ex tried to get me back a long time - I don’t take it as a compliment - anyone a narcissist dates they just consider a good victim. If a narc wants you back jump into the arms of your therapist!

[richieroof]

My ex was a man I forgave so many times. Last time he reached out, he told me to “be a f—king adult” and to “leave him alone.” Then, he reached out to “politely” give me job suggestions out of nowhere. Long story short, I told him that I had NO love for him whatsoever, that I know he doesn’t care about me, that I won’t be manipulated again, and lastly to “f—k off.” Joy is in my life, and he is NOT!

[sunnyday]

My narc cried when I broke up with him and begged me to take him back because he had made a mistake (cheating) but was now a changed man. Unfortunately I took him back and we got married. I think back now to his “crying” and realize it was only an act; no actual tears were shed. Now we’re getting divorced because he’s cheated again (duh).

[tranquility]

I admit I temporarily lost myself with him. But I take solace in knowing I dumped him by text in the end and blocked him immediately.

[mdriggins]

So far he hasn't reached back to out to me in almost a year. I wish him well and his complete healing. I am good.

[finetrue]

This explains a lot of the past relationships of the narcs, hopping onto a new relationship, hurting the new one, and blaming the person who left them on everything, without any accountability for the new replacement. To be honest this is a relief for empaths like us. One main reason for staying is because of the guilt, because the narc victim play. Knowing this helps us to break free, since they will be “fine” 😅

[kirsikka]

Yes, he has had many women after me. I'm still so broken that I do not want anybody, just be alone and no one manipulating me and getting my power and myself back.

[NoName-njmw]

My ex was in a whole relationship right after me and never stopped trying to get me back. I didn't even know he was in a relationship because he was so persistent at trying to get me back. Like a dummy, gave him another chance just to discover that he still hadn't changed.

[annettemoorshead]

Very good point to not let my empathy get weaponized against me. Very profound, and true.

[cherrybacon]

When I secretly left and ghosted him his first instinctive response was to say "Don't bother coming back'. Then he said "Please come back where you belong and we'll forget about me leaving". That went on for two days then nothing since. That's how hard he tried to get ne back. That shows just how much he was bothered about me. I could be laying dead somewhere and he wouldn't be bothered. Probably with a new supply as you said Lee. Feck em. 🍒

[ladiebugs]

I had to end my 19 year marriage with my husband. I've always wondered if he misses me. Then I realized, he's with his new supply (he's been seeing behind my back for 3 years) and he could careless. I'm taking time for myself and learning who I am after my marriage. Thank you for sharing your story.

[alicianolantillman]

So true Lee! He moved on quickly with the new supply and still was obsessed with getting me back. 1.) Promised to change 2.) Promises to go to rehab…

But, definitely he was hurt and begged me not to say we were not together. Asked me to let him still call me his wife and show me off in front of people.

I was asking Why can’t you just walk away? He Went through great measures to contact me by using other people phone…

Sigh ……. Yeah you’re definitely right Lee

[tam_to_evolve]

Highlights of this video for me: 1. They’ll promise change and even therapy - but its just a tactic to get you back and their temporary way for a temporary fix - the “bandaid to a gunshot wound.” 2. They don’t want to look down anymore (look at their pain)… leaking blood all over the floor and don’t want to deal with it. 3. “When should I know to take them back… CONSISTENT CHANGED BEHAVIOR is the ONLY acceptable apology! 👏👏👏🗣🗣👌thank you Lee! 🙏🙏

[priscillaaddison-crosby]

The ironic thing is you can’t use somebody else for healing. There is no healing

[blen]

If they're smart enough to hurt when you leave 'em then they're smart enough to know not to do things to make you leave! Mind games... It's all about the power and control they want to have over you.

[shwonbrooks]

I’m sorry Lee. I have so much respect ✊🏽 for you. I just find it hard to believe he is hurt that I walked away. He was so cold towards my feelings and said that I am just sensitive. I just don’t think he felt anything lol 😂 However if you say he felt something then so be it. It has been almost 😅 5 months no contact. I’m staying on my healing ❤️‍🩹 journey. I’ve gained so much strength that I refuse to give that back to him.

[nikkioh]

Yea they can inflict the BS on you
But, HE/SHE can’t deal with it !
🤷🏽‍♀️
They can shame u, discard you etc BUT GOD forbid you do that to them 😂😂😂😂😂

[JenJen-sbaby]

"It's not even your favorite, it's their favorite" ....every of the time 😂

[theemslee]

That's a good question. 🤔 I'm still married to a narc, but we're been living separately for almost 3 years. He seems hurt to me and seems to want the family (me and 2 young daughters), but can't shut up the narc in him enough to say or do the right things for us to attempt to rebuild. 🤷🏾‍♀️