6 Signs A Break Up Might Be Good For You

Are you questioning the future of your relationship? In this video, we explore six powerful signs that indicate a breakup might be the right decision for you. By the end of this video, this video is able to help you gain clarity and find the courage to make the best decision for your emotional well-being and personal growth. Do you resonate with these signs?

DISCLAIMER: We are not telling or encouraging anyone to break up. If you are thinking about breaking up with a partner, talk to a trusted friend or mental health professional about your specific situation.

Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Editor: Brie Villanueva
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animator: Sunbiscuit
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[cory]

The worst part is knowing I need too but not wanting to

[sabrinab]

I just ended my relationship of almost 5 years and all of this is true. It hurts so much, but it’s for the best.
If you’re having doubts, listen to your instincts and your feelings. Don’t force yourself to be with someone because they’re all you’ve known. Life will move on.
It’s going to be okay.

[koljava]

My thought that keeps sticking to me is ‚But can’t we fix this together?‘. It keeps me in the relationship together with loneliness and feeling like I lose everything, even myself.

[Shiryd]

We broke up yesterday. Today was our anniversary and I feel a deep, somehow burning void in my chest. It all happened so fast. I feel like I did something wrong, even though we broke up in good terms and knowing it was the best decision we could make... I still feel like I "played the game wrong", like I wanna restart this level and try again...

[lazybe]

It’s been almost a month since my ex broke up with me and for a while I felt like I lost a piece of myself. Although I know it was for the best and we ended in friendly terms it still hurts… however this experience has taught me that pain is all a part of growing up and I can either hide from it or embrace it

[sunburstshredder]

I think that if you're ever on the fence, follow your heart and your gut feeling. It may be possible to salvage things, but if you feel like you're forcing yourself to continue for the sake of it, it's best to go your separate ways, as hard as it may be.

[artisticalex]

I didn’t deal with a breakup but I ended a friendship a few days ago and I needed to watch a video like this.

[wovenwar]

I’ve been trying to justify a breakup for 3 years. I didn’t want to split with her. Very painful. But this video finally put it into words. Thank you.

[Momo.]

It is hard to leave an on- off relationship. I never thought I would experience it myself. It is so easy to say it to friends to break up until you are caught in your own drama. Both want each other, but both know it will be unhealthy. Breaking up because of cheating or loss of feeling is way easier. But being told to have feelings for you but can not have a relationship due to avoidant tendencies is hard, man. Always these push and pull situations. I now understand these people more. You have to experience it to feel the inner conflict that tears you apart.

Update: After more contact and a sleepover, I thought this was a turning point. But I was wrong, I have been ghosted after telling her that this can not continue. She either says yes or no bc this shit is exhausting. I was really polite, and her reaction no to answer to my simple request of a yes or no, just showed me her true nature. She always played games and this was just a test if she could still have me. Sucks to fall for a narcissist person. I should have seen it coming. Now I will try to be cautious as hell. Sadly, I have attracted borderline and narcissist partners. They are related in their nature and have one thing in common, they use you to make them feel good, and then they toss you away with little regard for your feelings. Why? Because there is always someone new to fulfill their insatiable need of validation and self-love. Be aware if you are an empath and want to help people. A lot of people take but little return your goodness.

[legionevo]

Been constantly thinking about breaking up with my partner, holding out on the thought of things getting better. There have been times when I have double thoughts of staying and leaving.

[victoriamcelearney]

Just ended a relationship with an incompatible partner. It was so fuelled with tension and anger, it was the only time I felt anything so I couldn’t leave and deal with the loneliness. I know it’s better for us to be apart but losing someone you’ve made a routine with is so difficult.

[TheMissloverbabe]

I broke up with my fiancé weeks ago. It was a painful decision but I’m sure it’s good for me. I wasn’t happy in the relationship for a while but I couldn’t be honest to myself. Whenever he said he loves me, I would get back to him. You actually don’t need signs to tell yourself if a breakup is good for you. A simple question can do - are you happy? If the answer is hell no, there is no reason to stay in the relationship anymore.

[OliPop_Official]

I dated someone for only 2 months and we broke up 2 days ago and they already started seeing someone they mentioned they liked before. I am shattered.

[aishatheashal]

✨Timestamps✨
Here we go again 01:12
That's not what i want 01:59
I'm "fine" 02:44
Emotional distance 03:17
The light switch relationship 04:13
Are you better with or without? 05:09

[jamessmith-dsww]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

[butteredshrimp]

i can't believe my first relationship had every one of these factors. just proves that we both weren't the right person for each other.

[nicole_g]

It’s extremely hard to see that most of these points apply to your relationship……. We’re long distance with the furthest distance possible and it isn’t even the distance that’s killing us but the bad communication, not feeling loved anymore etc. when we actually wanted to get married……especially the topic of “here we go again” hit hard

[lokeyz]

I found this video 3 weeks after I ended a 3 year relationship. I had been debating with myself if I made the right decision, constantly considering his feelings and everyone’s feelings but my own (I’m close with his family).

I’m proud to say that I made the right decision.

[Danielle-dwgh]

This one hit really hard...
I'm 38 and I've been in a toxic relationship for almost 15 years.
And just 4 years were decent.

Turns out he is a narcisist that gaslighted me horribly. His family has been the worst influence in his life since they consider corruption and questionable businesses a normal thing to do.

I've been so miserable...I had just broken up with the love of my life (who sadly cheated on me) when he presented himself like a knight in shining armor.

I fell in love with him but he became such a greedy, offensive, secretive and lying person.

When he was at his worst time I helped him but now that I'm at my worst because of health issues and depression he has shown his real dark side.

I think he is bipolar like his mother was. I can't stand him anymore.

The only reason I'm with him is because of our beautiful dog. I love him so much that I can't leave him behind.

And because I don't want to be alone...but I am ready to leave. I just need to figure out how to force him to let me be with my little boy.
I've endured so much. May God help me.