Can We Not Let Our Breakups Break Us | Tasha Jackson | TEDxCSULB

[ChrisWhite-twft]

The part where one day your so close and the next day your strangers hurts man… it’s almost like did the love ever really exist?

[nadiab.]

This relationship has not failed, it was completed. I like this. Thanks a lot!! <3

[chumbuckettt]

what pains the most is one minute they’re your bestest friends in the world, and the next they’re strangers. even though he hurt me so much, brought me so much pain, i know the love i have for him will always be superior than the negative emotions I feel towards him. that’s what sucks the most.

[jazz]

I'm one week fresh out of a breakup after 8 years together. It's the hardest thing I've had to go through. This video is comforting right now...

[alicemccree]

2 days fresh out of a break-up. It hurts so much because I'd thought he was my forever person. I hate that I'm crying so much... this was comforting and has given me strength. Thank you!

[mosesobongi]

It hasn't been too easy for me to admit the end of my relationship with the woman I consider as everything in my life. But therapy and Tedtalk have made me realize myself to move forward

[Kathrynlove]

Loneliness is a part of being human. We all need to learn to be alone.

[gracehoney]

If I could pick one video to show anyone going through a breakup it would be this. Everything was just what I needed to hear.

[ikrarfahmi]

For anyone who's feeling unworthy



you are not, and i love you..

[scottpearson]

Everything I've read says rebound relationships are a horrible idea. And statistically they do not work. You want to take the time the LEARN from your suffering And grow yourself and that takes time. You will be comparing your rebound relationships to the one you just got out of and that's not fair to either of you. Take some time off, learn from your suffering, take the time to grow from the loss, build on you first and foremost before taking on another. Whoring yourself out is a distraction not a fix. And leads to regret and remorse. Rebound relationships are a bad idea unless you're a codependent insecure human being.

[JosephUrban]

Thanks Tasha! I credit my breakups with giving me the clarity and maturity to choose to marry my wife after dating for only a year. Those breakups became assets!

[raymondjerardaquino]

I’m one week in, and it’s been so rough. After five years it was just thrown away. Movies I found comfort in doesn’t make me laugh the same anymore
Songs don’t have much meaning anymore
Food doesn’t taste the same anymore
Sleep isn’t as restful and desired anymore
And the world isn’t as colorful anymore
I’m praying for myself and whoever else is going through this rn 💔

[Natalieeee]

I so needed to hear this; heartache is the only pain a doctor cannot heal…

[anam]

Here after my boyfriend of 13 years broke up with me this week because he simply wanted to date other women. I also lost my job 5 months ago, which compounds my anxiety. I have never been at such a low point and so filled with pain, not even when I broke my elbow.

This talk was certainly incredibly reassuring. I now feel 10 times better, knowing I have some guidelines on how to mend my shattered heart.

[lilyrye]

Every one of my breakups taught me a lot! They made me aware of warning signs and red flags, it made me take a good hard look in the mirror to, what was I doing wrong, I was the one allowing this treatment, I never set up boundaries for myself and others so I told myself I will set up boundaries and if anyone ever crosses those boundaries I will walk away and let go and grow! Every one of my breaks up after leaving my daughters abusive father has lead me to the healthy relationship I am in today!
I stoped allowing men to treat me with disrespect! When they showed me bits of their true colours I left and didn’t look back! I gave no leniency with mistreatment!
The man I am with was never given the opportunity to disrespect me!
Yes we have disagreements but that’s exactly what they are and they end minutes later when one of us admits we were wrong! We never fight!
I stoped allowing anyone to disrespect me, belittle me and invalid my feelings and it’s the best thing I’ve ever done for myself!
Set boundaries and follow them!

[ronsegura]

Thank you Tasha. I'm just 2 weeks fresh from a heartbreak. Your encouraging words helped me feel better.

[thomasbelmont]

I am 65 and have to get over a breakup. The YouTube bots served this up, and I was skeptical that I would find Tasha relatable because of our age difference. I’m happy to say that nothing could be further from the truth. She has great insights and her vulnerability makes her really compelling. Thanks for a great talk, it really helped me:)

[sabrinashaulis]

why hasn't this gone viral? I did a search on how to let go as I am struggling with a breakup..even though I know it is the right thing to do..and this TedTalk hit the spot! Thank you so much for your words of wisdom Ms. Tasha Jackson!!

[kristenavalos]

I loved this talk. I watched it twice in a row. Fresh out of a break up. I think you are an amazing speaker and made me feel better today! Thank you!

[cayk]

One week after losing the man that I thought would be my life partner. We were so compatible and I thought things were going well. He ended it with me. Looking back, I wish I could change a few things and have shown him my interest more in the way he wanted (even though I was into him). It started out so strong, I don’t know what happened. He said we lost our connection and that hurts so much, because I still wanted to be with him and thought we were a good match. The heartache is horrible. Replaying everything in my head, feeling alone, and wondering about the what ifs. I know they say you will be someone else, but it took me 8 years since my first relationship to find this feeling again. Im 30 now and I see everyone else finding love around me. I really miss him and thought we would have a life together, I can’t get out of bed.