Anxious vs. secure (how they react/respond to avoidant partner)

How the anxious reacts to the avoidant versus how the secure responds to the avoidant.

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[markitoxi]

Seen thousands of your videos and I had a really good cry with this one. Painful to watch how I’m such an anxious person. I guess I have to swallow this hard pill to lean secure

[Nonfiction.Reader]

"I'm looking to heal this pain not prolong it." Yes! Exactly!

Thanks Coach Ryan.

[LoveLynn-kv]

Fantastic video I ended a five-year relationship one month ago. Something that truly bothers me is the decision to end a relationship with someone I love. I've done everything I can to win him back, even if it's all for nothing, and I can't picture my life without him. Even though I've made every effort to stop thinking about him, I still find myself missing him and thinking about him frequently. I have no idea why I am saying this.

[elizabeth_likemercury]

I think over the course of my life, I've gone from being a dismissive avoidant to having an anxious attachment style...I think this year I've actually worked on myself so much that I'm slowly starting to sound like and think like I finally have a secure attachment style. Took 50 years but it feels nice to finally have a sense of true self-love, self-worth and self-respect. Still and will always be a work in progress 😊

[cspacenz]

...outstanding examples of how it actually works. Whilst I started to feel anxious with my ex when things started to get difficult for her (because it was too damned good !) I am clearly very secure because I kicked her sorry arse to the curb and didn't look back. I have zero tolerance for emotionally stunted avoidants but man, can they put on a good act for a few months. I like the boundaries I set in my life.

[FlygirlA]

I love that you are doing secure attachment videos too

[BM]

Your content is free gold. You help me so much working on my anxious attachment style.

[peggy__]

Thank you so much coach Ryan! 😍❤️
As a securely attached person, I won't let any DA ruin my life and mental health again! Not anymore!

[melissa]

I’m more anxious but I talk like I’m secure 😂

[Polly]

These videos about secure attachment and how they react are so so helpful and it made me realize that I'm already secure myself.

Love the calm music too, since I like to watch your videos in the evening as kind of affirmations before sleep.

[lwiliams]

This was AMAZING and very eye opening. THANK YOU!!!

[Polly]

It's so frustrating, we have a lot in common, even want both a relationship but his need for space is not aligning with my need of feeling connected throughout the day. I cut it of twice, he came back twice, telling me he misses me and want to work things out just to tell me the next day he is unsure again. Wtf ... avoidants don't know what they want, need and/or are capable of.

[RainbowBright]

Never stay in something that is confusing or where your needs aren't getting met. Relationships should be a happy and calm place. A retreat. We can't leave it up to someone else to make these decisions for us. We want different things? That's okay, but it's time to move on..

[thesuncomes]

The video that I needed to watch! Ryan, could you please make a vid about avoidant, secure and anxious about jealousy (3rd parties involved). Thank you❤

[REDN]

I’ve gravitated more towards a secure attachment style with a touch of anxious. However, I noticed in my most recent relationship, there were moments where my anxious side began to surface due to certain situations that significantly impacted me.

[KD-hybi]

Thanks for your videos. I let him back in 3 times. Each time was more significant and each time we breached a new level and he ran. Again and again. I never left. He did. I’m so over it. I want true love. So heartbreaking. How dumb of me to believe in the love. Each time.

[YcarinChannel]

Most of the time i'm Anxious and sometimes Secure. My 12 years with an Avoidant gone instantly, ghosted with no explanation and left me the problem to find out and force myself to blame myself.

[milanmilanovic]

My Thanks Ryan, a brilliant illustration of what it is like. My avoidant ex demonstrates the same distancing strategies in relationship with friends. What are DA like when it comes to friendships?

[HP_love]

Thank you coach Ryan. Such great advice. I always thought I was secure but since watching yr channel I think I'm an avoidant and so is he. Hmmmm 😮 2 avoidants = what? Can you please do a video on avoidant and avoidant? Thank you all the way from Australia 🇦🇺 🙏

[Cat-Meowwzz]

The problem when I'm the anxious one. 🙈 And he was the Dismissive Avoidant. Guess what? He asked us to stay friends.. and I reacted exactly like the anxious one 🙈