CPTSD: How to Heal Damaged Perception (Member Group Coaching Session)

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It's common for people who grew up with trauma to be confused during ordinary interactions: Is your friend angry with you? How can you tell if you're talking too much? Have you done something wrong? In this recording of one of my group coaching sessions for Crappy Childhood Fairy members, I coach a woman who is working to better read social signals and to express herself during conflicts -- two skills often damaged by Childhood PTSD.
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[celenanelson]

In my 30s I realized there was something wrong with me and not everyone else like I was thinking. I started going to a therapist who said I was codependent. I bought books studied it and could see that that was me. I also felt I had narcissistic tendencies. Now that I've found your you tube channel, I'm sure it was always CPTSD! Thank you so much for talking about this. I'm going to do everything I can to heal myself.

[abbie]

the first woman is describing my entire life story- I've always taken other people's perceptions of me as fact, because I was made to believe that my perception was damaged. words can't describe the feeling of hearing someone else detail the specifics of exactly what you're going through, but in their own life... you are doing an immeasurably valuable service to the world by providing people like us with that experience. thank you so much!!

[sugarfree]

Getting things out onto paper is invaluable.

[maggie]

Being told “You’re too sensitive” was just to deflect from being completely ignored except to take care of younger siblings or clean……

[veronikachilds]

Man I FEEL this. Being ignored is a huge trigger for me too. One of the things that I learned early on was not to ask questions (ironic that I am a podcast host now). Because I didn't want to ask them "uncomfortable" questions... it made people think I didn't care about them.

[katiekane]

The scariest question is: " are you angry with me?"
Only by finding out that anger doesn't always imply actual danger, could I change how others perceived me.

[rmcd]

The first woman who opened up about her mother and brother is completely understood by my own horrible experience. I was always told, by my mother, I was perceiving things wrong. Gas-lighting happens to me, as well. Thank you for sharing your trauma.

[RoadRunnergarage]

I can relate to how she feels... I also struggle with trusting my perceptions...( I sometimes feel that everyone and everything is out to get me..)

[polsondemott]

I'm only 2 minutes into the video, and she is talking about recognizing the idea that her perception could be correct... I 100% relate to this. It's my current assumption that my perspective will always be wrongs. That I am too sensitive, so if I ever feel something, play down my emotions so that they are at the appropriate level. Mind blown

[Cres]

Megan articulates herself and her experience very well. Very relatable.

[jennytaylor]

I think, at heart, aside from the odd knee-jerk, touchy reaction we may have, our perceptions are as reliable and finely tuned (and faulty) as anyone else's. It's just that we've learned to doubt them. Perhaps much of the distress we feel comes from that. I think we're afraid to be wrong because of how catastrophic it will feel in our minds. I get petrified if I think I've accidentally offended someone.

[justred]

That First Lady is so spot on!!!! It’s the same way for me…

[sheilagavin]

Thank you, you are a wonderfully intuitive, helpful and intelligent lady. I'm so grateful for you and your work. Sending blessings to you and your family!

[pudgethefish]

I can relate so much to this. and I have to say as a side note.. thank you for your videos and the valuable information you've been putting out there. I don't think I realized for a long time what I was going through and since discovering your channel I've learned so much about myself and have truly begun to heal. I just went back to work after being paralyzed with fear and anxiety for 11 years. Thank you for helping me move forward with my life. I can't express enough appreciation for that ❤

[BratCatsu]

Channels like yours have done more to help me than therapy. I still go to therapy bc it feels good to just tell someone what’s going on and get feedback. Your content is a godsend! ♥️

[BigTroubleD]

I definitely have this issue. I realized I should trust my intuition more. I actually can make great decisions that lead to wealth, security and safety.

[JustEnergyRadio]

Wow, was just talking about this yesterday although phased differently, my distress/confusion / lack of clarity regarding my feeling and having to have people validate that my feelings regarding something that happened are appropriate. I love the twist, that it is out perception of what is going on that is challenged.

Thanks for all you do. Love your channel. Thanks for being real.

[Lisa-cpxl]

Thank you so much for posting this! These group coaching sessions are so valuable! Thank to everyone who trusted all of us and gave permission to be on camera publicly-their authentic, open generosity is good medicine! Big hugs and gratitude<3

[GodiscomingBhappy]

"Gullible and difficulty trusting own "Prone to be gaslighted"... this lady explained my feelings exactly. I tend to ask my therapist to do "reality checks" to make sure I was not misreading things. "Being overlooked", "like a child that wants attention", "hyper vigilant of being ignored"... great video, great content. thank you.

[JusttRaquel]

So resonates.. I second guess constantly and terrible at decision making. It happens a lot w children of alcoholics.