CPTSD: How to STOP SABOTAGING Your Own Healing

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The biggest obstacle to healing from abuse and neglect in your childhood is NOT always what you think it is. Today, It’s not your parents. It’s not the health care system. It’s not politics or money or social media.

The reason you are getting stuck is most probably because you haven't stopped sabotaging yourself. We all do it sometimes. But the fact is, a lot of people with CPTSD are walking around NOT healing -- still feeling stuck, disconnected, angry and suppressed from becoming happy and fully themselves. In this video I'll talk about common forms of self-sabotage and how to stop it.
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[erikakdee]

Wow. This video was thousands of times more impactful than my 5 months in therapy. Thanks!

[Am-czqg]

1. Stop isolating
2. Stop being stuck in your sad story.
3. Stop angry outbursts of negative emotions.
4. Stop being in bad relationships
abusive, chaotic, disrespectful, non mutual, breadcrumb
5. Stop tendency to run away from challenges and opportunities because of fear cptsd symtoms will overwhelm you.

Anna your channel is so beautiful.
I really do feel like you're a healing fairy on the internet. Your words bring healing.
Thank you

[ohioladybug]

I never thought about being a bummer by talking about the past, really no matter how far back, and it seems to be my primary conversation - time to stop.

[marywolfe]

Even though you are not a therapist you make more sense than the ones with a degree. Why? Because you lived it! May God bless you big time!

[danielc]

In regards to isolation, I gave up on one-sided relationships. If someone isn't going to put in the effort to come see me, I don't go out of my way to go see them. Years of being a people pleaser, made me realize that most people are self-centered assholes. I've been longing for good quality people to show up in my life, but it hasn't happened yet.

[MssBunn]

Starting my healing at 43 and determined to stop self damaging and start working on being happy

[christa]

Omg Im so sick of talking about my story. Thank you for this info. Dont deny what happen but give up on focusing on it. 💕

[POLYLIVING]

Self sabotage is utterly exhausting. Great video

[joyalways]

What victory! A girl at tai chi class was mad I didn't take her advise. I set a boundary and just was calm and joyful. She was a mess, must have her own issues. I am so proud of myself, no anger, no fear, no disregulation. Just peace and love I gave to her. It was so impowering seeing myself healing from cptsd! Thks Anna, your work is awesome!

[smoozerish]

I'm in a catch 22 with this, because of my CPTSD the people I gathered around over the years are toxic and dysfunctional. So I have to cut them out of my life bit by bit. But now I am on my own and I feel isolated even though I had to make some tough choices of who I want to be around. Going out and meeting new people is so hard now that I am older.

[katiekane]

Still falling off & getting right back on! Healing takes perseverance but hey, we're survivors!

[sonjagarcia]

Children are not a reason to stay! They need You healthy.. not all stressed out! Make a safe plan to get free of the toxic relationship.

[happylindsay]

You called me out within the first minute- God I hope I can find the strength to heal. Cause right now it’s just not there. Isolation is awful.

[jentrees]

Thank you. I am 68 and I am 100 percent alone. During covid it is worse since I don’t go out.

[RosePetal]

Yes, yes, yes!! I am deeper and deeper in my stuckness. Omg, yes, I am ISOLATING, because I am so triggered by SO many people including my neighbour downstairs. Anna, you are right about keeping the sad stories alive! I have an appointment with my therapist tomorrow (via phone) and I've written a whole lot of stuff to share, that I've shared a thousand times already. Nothing is changing! "Thank you Anna, this video is a wake up call!"

[amycuaresma]

The aftermath of trauma is not just about surviving; it's about understanding and rebuilding.

[sweetds]

I used to hear my moms negative comments in my head. A couple years ago I replaced them with my fathers positive voice saying, ” you do great work baby!” And it worked. Im not longer saying negative things about myself and am loving the person I am. I do tend to isolate. Started when someone I love died.

[anns]

I don't rage or have outbursts. I just stuff all those feelings which I think is even worse.

[marywolfe]

Sometimes I told the story to be validated. Also, I now realize that I want to be around nice people. I have been on the receiving end of others telling me their story and going on and I'm sorry that I listened to it dumping! I am very affected by too much drama. I want reciprocal relationships.

[epicmage]

Becoming my real self. This is something I've been having problems with. I've always had to be someone else. I've always been super sensitive, and needy. I learned from a very early age that these are not traits a man is supposed to have. So I tend to act like the people around me. I just started doing it without realizing it by the time I was 10. I don't even really know who I am. I've been thinking about that a lot lately. It's really been bothering me lately. Ever since I listened to this song. The last lyrics hit me hard, and made me realize that I hide so much that I don't even know who I am. "In end I know I'll be buried in another man's grave."