8 Signs Your Mom is a Narcissist

We've talked a lot on this channel about childhood emotional neglect or unhealthy relationships with your parents or family. The truth is that growing up in dysfunctional homes can have lasting effects on our mental health. One of the comments I get a lot about is about having a narcissistic mom or dad or parent - and growing up with parents who may be a narcissist can be something that can deeply impact our relationship with self and the world around us. Narcissist parents or moms specifically begins to impact our self esteem, our ability to set healthy boundaries and we can adopt some of the same unhealthy patterns of our narcissistic mom (or dad). Did you grow up with a narcissistic mother or do you think your mom may be narcissist and not sure? Let's dive into the 8 signs that your mom or mother is a narcissist - and then make sure you stay tuned until the end of the video where I offer 5 tips to increase your relationship with your mom or 5 tips to help you deal with a mom who is a narcissist - so stay tuned until the end of the video. Did you find that you grew up where both parents were narcissistic or perhaps a guardian that was a narcissist - I can make more videos on the subject of narcissism if this is of interest to you!

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[tinkerpinkerton]

My mother stopped me having a future. She "put her foot down" and demanded I stop college, forgo uni and work in a factory so I could pay her the rent I owed her for bringing me up for 16 years. I'm 50 now, she's still evil.

[JoselynR]

For those dealing with toxic parents… sending love hugs and support you are amazing and don’t forget it

[_Renee]

My mother has never apologized. Even when she attempted to ‘apologize’ it ended with her cursing me and blaming shifting.

[natalie]

Imagine living with a family full of narcissists.

That's my life and family

[Elizarge]

My mother said to me one day " you owe me your life" and I responded..." I didn't ask to be born". I set boundaries and went no contact and I hear she is trashing me to all my relatives. No one sees it and you feel crazy and bad for setting boundaries. Be strong...it's worth it.

[johnthorp]

My mother was a Narcissist. She passed away a few years ago, and it was such a relief not having to deal with her bullshit any longer.

[vdw]

Don't forget #9: She will constantly pit her children (siblings) against each other. My sisters and I were always fighting and we could never understand why until we figured that it was mom! It's crazy, but true.

[Kristel]

I am so sick of having this kind of people in my life. So sick of it.

[TheMelamia]

My mother has given me the silence treatment for 8 years, over a minor misunderstanding. It was painful to accept that she doesn’t love me, but it also set me free.

[anastasiahortines]

My mother made me hate myself. The way she speaks down on me always criticizing everything I do

[danieljohnson]

I want *justice* for the victims of narcissism ! The lowest form of life there is is a narc who hates & tries to sabotage/destroy their own children 😠

[dianamiftakhova]

When I brought up something my mother once said, she answered “I could never said that nonsense”. I didn’t know it’s gaslighting. Thanks for the vid!

[personanongrata]

The biggest slap of all is when you have kids of your own, have natural affection and care for them, and are forced to ask yourself, “what was wrong with me? Why didn’t she care about me like this?” Her narcissism is it’s own punishment, though because, sadly, she will never feel the joy that I feel sharing life with my own daughter and watching what she makes of herself.

[yumbunny]

It’s even harder when you’re the only one who can see they’re a narcissist. My mum is perfectly nice to everyone else but narcissistic towards me, and whenever I tell anyone who knows her they think I’m overreacting.



EDIT: To everyone replying “same for me” or “that’s just like my mom/dad” or something like that, I just want to say I’m so sorry for all the BS you went through/continue to go through, and how much it must hurt knowing no one else seems to be on your side. I know exactly how that feels. Everyone seems to worship my mum (for her intelligence, her generosity, her sense of humour, her ability to handle her so called “retarded kids” that she always rants about to her friends…) and there’s times where I just wanna scream everything she’s done from the rooftops and just break down crying, (but that would be no use anyway. Knowing my mum, she’d probably just get away with telling everyone I’m deranged or some shit).

It got to the point where I thought there was no point in trying anymore. What’s the use? No one would believe me, not my teachers, not my family, and even my siblings who have also been at the receiving end of her abuse always find a way to forgive her (she’s very manipulative). I started think that maybe they were right, maybe _I’m_ the crazy one, and even if I’m not, what’s the use?

I won’t get into any triggering details, but it got so bad that I started having some very dark thoughts.

*WARNING: THE FOLLOWING PARAGRAPH CONTAINS A VERY MUSHY, CORNY MESSAGE FOR YOU SO IF YOU’RE NOT THE KIND OF PERSON WHO LOVES SOPPY AFFECTION PLEASE DO NOT READ ON* (this is just a joke. Honestly please DO read on. Peace ✌️)

It hurts reading these replies and realising so many people are going through what I go through, but in a weird way, it’s also comforting to know I’m not the only one. I just wanna wrap you all in a big hug. Just know I’m fighting for all of you from the corner 🙌. *I REALLY HATE to get all mushy and corny, and this is going to sound corny as hell*, but know that _I’m_ on your side. _I’m_ that one person that’s standing by you, even when no one else believes you. _I’m_ the one person rooting for you to get through this, even when no one else will. Even if I don’t know you guys, I hope that’s enough for you to stay strong.

Sending you all a big hug ⊂(・﹏・⊂)

Xoxo

Jumi

[nathalieolsson]

My mum's favorite phrase was ''You're living under my roof! this is my home not yours! I pay the bills!'' It always made me feel so unwelcome..

She'd say it during the smallest arguments. Like one time when I asked her to stop talking on phone while we were watching TV. And sometimes she'd add "If you don't like it then you can move out." And "But if you do then I never want to see you again."

[ashukandala]

I can't tell enough how painful it is to have a narcissistic mother..my heart is breaking 😢

[PotentialofHydrogenClean]

I'm guilty of #4 and #5 with my kids. I am so glad I saw this video, so I can correct those things now. Thanks!

[michelleheegaard]

My relationship with my mother was fine as long as I kept people pleasing and doing everything for her. When I stopped and started setting boundaries, the claws and delusions came out. The biggest joke ever was when she used the "after all I've done for you". Please... I've been carrying your ass since I was 16 years old and finally mustered enough self-respect to say no a decade later. I'm only 26 years old but I can already see the effects this relationship and the extreme emotional neglect has had on my body and mental health. I can't even imagine where I would be in another 10 years, if I hadn't 'woken up'.

[TheSaltySiren]

The best compliment I have ever received from my mother was when she said, “I always thought you were my “Mini-Me”. Come to find out that it isn’t you, it’s your brother. You’re nothing like me, no matter how hard I tried.” Thanks Mom! I appreciate that more than I can ever say! ❤

[ECHO-echo-e.c.h.o..]

I remember reading about fight or flight responses in children, It said a child that knows they are important and loved and not at fault for everything in the world are 100% more likely to scream, fight, escape a kidnapping than a child of a narcissist. That hit me like a brick, I knew in my heart if someone pulled up to me and grabbed me or simply said “Get in the car” I would have gone. My immediate thought would be to not make a sound, do whatever a GROWN UP says or I would be blamed, shamed and grounded for months for making a scene! I swear to God, I would never have thought I was important enough to run from danger because I would have somehow brought it upon myself!!!! That was my thinking as a child and teen.
The article said to make sure your children know how important they are! I was never important to her, I was a stupid, ugly, worthless person that no one would miss. I was told that. I could hear the words, “No one is going to want you, look at yourself.” Then the hearty laugh came after and always in front of someone. Well, I did get some satisfaction when I became the Mother she could never be. I think it confused and enraged her at the same time. Let your children know just how important, loved, handsome or beautiful they are to you. No matter what. Thank you. ✌️🙏❤️