10 Signs Your Parent is a Narcissist

To people from the outside looking in, your parents may seem like the perfect parents. They seem affectionate, kind, considerate, and caring, but behind closed doors, the pretense drops. Sound familiar? Here are a few signs that you might have been raised by narcissist parents.

Disclaimer: This video is for educational purposes and is not designed to diagnose narcissistic personality disorder or to say anybody who has experienced this has narcissistic parents. These are simply signs that might suggest that you have experienced parents who have narcissistic traits. If you feel like you may have had narcissistic parents or have been affected by narcissistic behavior always remember that you can try and reach out to somebody you trust or a professional to discuss any concerns you may have.

Writer: Jade Hamilton
Script Editor: Morgan Franz
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Zuzia
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[Psychgo]

If you're brave, share this with your love ones ;)
Tell us what happens next.

[sofiathelast_]

Me: Giving a valid argument and has a point.

Parents: "Tastes like DISRESPECT"

[pixigirldust]

People with loving parents who raised them with just love and care are the luckiest people.

[galaxystar]

1- You may have low self-esteem
2- They have an intense reaction to any form of criticism
3- Your parents had a favourite child
4- You are a complete dormat
5- You are dealing with chronic shame
6- You struggle to set proper boundries
7- You engage in self-destruction behaviour
8- You may have been controlled throught co-dependency
9- You we're gaslit by your parents
10- You're experiencing depression and anxiety

[shaylarsen]

The worst part is trying to tell someone what life at home is like and all the terrible effects it's had on me, and their only response is "parenting is hard".

[AlexRiding]

One thing: do not attempt to change a narcissist, cut them lose. If you must keep the link because of family reasons, limit interaction to a minimum, don't share anything personnal and stick to small talks. Good luck if you are in this situation, it is possible to become a great person regardless what your parents are.

[icegeekwolf]

Worst part: They don't even think they're problematic when in fact they are and they just scream when you explain why 🙃

[thecoyote]

Growing up I always noticed how fake they seemed every time we had guest or they were on the phone with someone else. It’s like they hit a switch

[ccharles]

My mom is a narcissist and she constantly criticized and belittled us. My dad was silent and always took her side.

[SamElle]

I feel like everyone around me have had problematic parents so whenever I meet someone who has an emotionally available, caring, etc parent, Im always in shock

[tarabyaa]

In a Middle Eastern household these are very common things. I didn’t realize how much it affected me until I got older and found out that it’s not normal to do all that 😕

[timmitoz]

One thing about having a narcissist parent is they will always make you feel flawed and will never take criticism even if they are wrong. Looking back as a kid I realize how much of a good kid I was. I never caused trouble, i was a smart kid and my teachers really liked me. I felt like if I had the right support system at home I would have turned out to be more. I know that its too late for me to have that but I realise I can be that parent I wish I had when I was younger.

[anonymousforever]

yikes my dad is a narcissist.he always criticizes everyone but always gets mad when he gets criticized.

[raebaeferret]

My parents can go on and on about “you are so disrespectful”, even though they have never shown me any individual respect whatsoever. They do not support my lifestyle or my hobbies, as well as constantly belittle my achievements and my issues. Somehow, they see nothing wrong with what they do to me. They wonder why I do not like them and why I do not want to be around them, but they don’t even treat me with basic human decency. Respect is a two way street, you have to *give* it to *get* it.

[michaelbullen]

This video taught me that my parents weren’t meant to have kids

[livoceana]

My dad is a narcissist. He doesn’t want me to have any activities so he doesn’t have to drive me places. He tries to get s as much custody of me as he can and then just locks me up in his house. He makes me feel guilty for not loving him as much as he wants me to. I can’t question anything that he does or else he freaks out. You can’t convince him about anything either. I’m mentally exhausted after each time I’m forced to be with him and I don’t know what to do.

[burntherest]

I really don’t see my Mom as a full on narcissist but she does have tendencies, especially when I was younger. The “silent treatment” was a big thing in my household growing up. I always felt I couldn’t talk to her about certain things; the way I feel about this or that. It’s like it makes her uncomfortable and she would simply shut down, she does this still. Now, as an adult, I am not afraid to tell her how I’m feeling but it can be like talking to a wall sometimes. She never straight out said my older sister was the favorite but I always got the sense that this was the case. She got stellar grades and did a lot to help my mom take care of me, as my mom was a single parent. When I would tell on her for doing things I viewed as bad (ex:sneaking guys into the house) she always got a slap on the wrist. I think my family has always compared me to her while growing up, and the shoes were just much too big to fill. I’ve always been very blunt and outspoken which my family tends to not always like. “Don’t say things like that”, or “No, that’s not what happened” have been ongoing phrases said by my mother. It completely invalidates my own feelings and emotions. Another thing was being extremely passive aggressive with my sister and I. My dad was a chronic alcoholic/addict whom was in and out of my life. She used that against us A LOT, as if we were at fault for his actions. “If you don’t like it here, then you can go live with your dad in the gutter.” This was the most used one. It made me feel shameful and guilty when I was simply expressing normal childish displeasure toward something. I wasn’t allowed to get a toy I really wanted, well then I suppose I should go live with my addict father and see if I prefer that. (?) That is beyond harsh at any age, but especially to an elementary aged kid. She projected all of her own negative emotions onto others, especially myself, rather than talking it out. I now tell her that her actions were very much inappropriate and emotionally abusive, which she agrees with for the most part. She has calmed down over time, luckily. But the damage has already been done. No self esteem, depression/anxiety disorder, etc., etc. Many factors have played a part in these results but in the end having no relationship with my dad and a rollercoaster of a relationship with my mom was more than enough to bring me to this point. Be kind and respectful to your children or, frankly put, please don’t bother with having any.

[SweetUniverse]

I always felt like the scapegoat in my family. When I'd try to talk to my mother about it, she'd yell, "What about me?!! What about how hard MY childhood was, you ungrateful brat!" 😥😥😥

[CoolKid-zfii]

I just wanted to say that if you’re currently living with a narcissistic parent, you’re gonna have to learn to just bite your tongue a lot. Remember that a narcissist will never find themselves at fault, so even trying to argue is like talking to a brick wall. You aren’t going to get anywhere🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️

[nimbus]

I just can't wait to live on my own. It sucks to be alone but it's less lonely than I am with them. I finally found why I am always this way. I hope everyone's doing great and be kind to everyone and yourself.