5 Signs You're Unintentionally Manipulative

We have all experienced manipulation, such as emotional manipulation and gaslighting, from others. So it is highly possible that we have been manipulative to others at some point, even if we don’t realize we have. Unintentional manipulation is not uncommon and it probably happens more regularly than we are perhaps comfortable to know or admit. One study on non-Machiavellian manipulation suggests that in order for manipulation to occur, there needs to be a combination of intent and recklessness. It can be confusing to know what unintentional manipulation might look like or come across, so we made this video to help you out.

DISCLAIMER: This video is for educational purposes only and it's not made to attack anyone. These are just to give some examples to demonstrate how people can be manipulative without being aware of it.

Writer: Jade Hamilton
Script Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Lily Hu
Animator: Chantal Van Rensburg
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[Psychgo]

Comment below if you're guilty of this. Raises hand.

[suup]

Sign 1: Your friend sends you this video.

[izzatihassan]

"ugh, is NoOobody going to clean this living room? FINE, i'll do this myself" - Asian mom's 101 to make someone clean the room.

[sava]

I'd rather be silent than to say something that'll hurt the people that I'm talking to or something that I'll regret later.

[lleafos]

it’s hurts to admit that we are these things; my heart goes out to anyone who has to unlearn from doing this too

[hungoverpuppy]

everyone can be a little manipulative at times whether they like it or not.

[burlyfoil]

I get scared that I am manipulative, thanks for this, I need this!

[internettgrrrl]

my parents don’t rlly manipulate they just guilt trip me, like i’ll b chillin and they’ll say “remember when u used to love me and u listened to me” OUTTA NOWHERE

[robertshea]

Alternative Title: 5 behaviors I've learned from my parents and are trying to unlearn.

[asmolbean]

I always worry I'm manipulating people because my parents are controlling af, so I worry they're methods have rubbed off on me a bit. So I always do the complete opposite, and ironically I think that doing that in a way ends up manipulating people a little because they now shoulder the responsibility, so I try to just stay in the middle, I don't want anyone to feel what I felt, so I avoid people incase I'm making them feel that way accidentally.

[Ari-pfqn]

**sees mother about to do the laundry**

Me: hey mom I'll help!

Mom: oh no, it's ok it's ok

Also my mom: uGhH nOboDy eVEr OfFeRs tO hELp mE wiTh cHorEs iN tHiS hOuse, I dO eVerYtHinG bY mYseLf

Me: 👁👄👁

[nykole]

I use the silent treatment. However, when I get talked down to, snapped at, and told I'm an idiot for making a comment, you learn to be quiet at nearly all times. It really sucks, but when everyone breaks their promise of "you can talk to me, " there is no back and forth for understanding. So silence is the only road you have sometimes.

[ida]

I feel extremely sad that I was already aware of this, finding myself doing literally everything in this video reminded me again how manupilating I am, without actually noticing. I am trying real hard to overcome so this content helped a lot 🥺💖

[etamin]

0:46 1. Saying that you will do everything yourself
1:27 2. You make promises a lot
1:59 3. You give somebody the silent treatment
2:38 4. You have distinct patterns in your language
3:14 5. You find yourself embellishing or twisting the facts

[trevorsj]

Omg the outro is amazing when they’re dancing lol

[ScoopaCoop]

I love this. Taking time to be introspective about your actions and how it effects others is not practiced enough. These videos are a gentle way of calling us out on it 💚

[lillymcelhaney]

as someone who has constant anxiety about being a bad, manipulative and/or toxic person, this helps calm me down and helps me to insure I won't be manipulative :)

[AugustZephyr]

No I just like to clean 😅 I truly don't care if someone helps or not

[Mika]

thank you for covering this. I just realised I can be unintentionally manipulative. I got 4/5 of these behaviours. thank you for helping me see this so now I can be more aware of what I say and do so I can be less manipulative <3

[catguy]

I'm guilty of number 3. Whenever I have a row with a family member, I don't talk to them for several days and pretend they're invisible. I've always thought it was a better option than letting the argument escalate further