Jordan Peterson - Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

Psychology Professor Dr. Jordan B. Peterson talks about Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and antisocial behavior.

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[meowkki]

The best way to describe BPD, its like half your brain is logical, half your brain is emotional, and there's a glass wall between them both. They can see each other, but can't communicate at all.

[perfumaphilia]

I was diagnosed with BPD twelve years ago and I can relate to this so hard. The worst part is being intelligent, rational, and logical, and being able to clearly see how you're destroying your own life, with little ability to stop the inevitable crash.

[selfsabotagingbanana]

Having BPD and being conscious of it and trying your best to not cause any problems is like having to constantly watch over a baby that lives in your head. You often have these sudden mood shifts and impulses and you constantly have to force yourself to not act on them and to remind yourself that they are just current emotional states and not who you are as a person and that they will not last forever. It`s sometimes so exhausing that you would rather live under a rock than ever having to interact with another human being again - family and friends included.

[CristiandlfDeval]

I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with BPD. Spent my whole life fighting BPD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

[markskippy]

the harshest thing ive ever heard about having bpd is ''its like watching someone else destroy youre life'' I think that sums it up for me

[UnDefinedLegacy]

"You want to feel alive but you also want to die because you can't handle the pain." EDIT: I was diagnosed with BPD and I have gone through enough self work and therapy to be officially in “remission.” My therapist refers to me being emotionally stable like this and I no longer cycle through the extremes of emotions. Now it’s not like I’m completely cured but it would take a lot to knock me off from my stable self. But there is hope. It’s a process you work hard at creating and practicing. Edit2: I no longer can be diagnosed with BPD. As in my symptoms no longer correlate with the diagnosis.

[cosmic-creepers]

People with BPD treat people they care for like bars of soap. They try to hold on so hard because they fear losing them that they actually force them away.

[AugustAdvice]

I grew up with a BPD mom. My siblings and I would always say she reminded us of a 5 year old throwing a temper tantrum. She was stuck at a very immature age emotionally but her adult intelligence made her so dangerous because when she would get into a rage, she would become evil, do things maliciously and manipulatively at any cost to get her way. It IS terrifying.

[empresslabs]

Having BPD is like being in the back seat and driving at the same time.

[duderanch]

My ex girlfriend has BPD. I would never wish this disorder on anyone. It was heartbreaking watching her self sabotage and destroy relationships with those that loved her most, myself included.

She's such a special, vibrant, beautiful woman. I pray for her everyday. I'll always love her. The damage this disorder can do to the host as well as their loved ones is awful.

[kevoiscreepy]

Having bpd is like having 2 people live inside you, one half is your regular logically thinking self and the other half is this wild rebelious risk taker

[Don_speedmx]

Personally diagnosed with BPD, in relationships is where most recognizable, you always express love and need constant love reminders, and when your partner does not give you a love expression, you feel like you’re no longer important or loved, and you start self sabotaging, and at the same time you know it’s not true and you’re just overthinking, but you have no control and it’s a continuous cycle. Like someone in the other comments said, it’s like being in the passenger seat, and driving at the same time.

[_Cato_]

Dated a girl with BPD for 3 years. It was difficult at times but she fought it tooth and nail. Underneath it all she was a good person, brilliant and witty and beautiful and incredibly gentle and kind. Last October, when we were just weeks away from moving across the country, she abruptly broke things off and never gave an explanation for it. It cratered me.

She idolized me in the way that BPD sufferers do, and then I believe she switched to utter disdain for me. It tore me apart and I'm still recovering from it all. I truly loved her.

Anyways, don't know where I'm going with this. Just that this hits home and that I've been lit aflame by the brilliance of a woman with BPD and later burned alive by the same woman. It's a terrible disease.

[Drewsel]

The DSM-5 actually mentions cases of people in rehabilitation spending up to 10 years in therapy dealing with the disorder and afterwards showing such significant reduction in symptoms that doctors claim they're no longer able to distinguish enough traces of the disorder to label it present anymore. Spend those 10, 000 hours on the journey and you can master yourself. If anyone reads this you should know there's hope for you.

[realitymentalhealthrmh]

This has got to be one of the toughest disorders to deal with. It is even tougher with all of the stigma surrounding it.

[urbanfairy]

It's even terrifying living with BPD because once that tantrum starts you are basically just watching without being able to stop it. It's very frustrating to experience this and I am glad I haven't had an episode like that in a very long time.

[ashleymelo]

“The waste or the squandering of tremendous potential.” I’ve had numerous people tell me something similar to this

[hamida]

"They seem capable of thinking through the nature of their problems and analyzing them and discussing it, but not capable whatsoever of implementing any solutions"
I can confirm ☹️

[HospitalForSouls.X]

I have had BPD for my whole life and because of it, I don't want a "whole life." I want it to end. This is one of the loneliest existences you could ever imagine. You're literally just a burden on everyone and you have to spend your life watching others get what you wanted.

Update 04/2024: I just found this comment and OMG PLEASE do not think I’m saying you ARE a burden! No one took it that way but I wanted to clarify it. I meant to say “you feel like you’re just a burden”.

[TM-]

My ex has BPD and our relationship lasted about a year. Half the time he built me up so high, making me feel on top of the world and the other half of the time he tore me down and made me feel like he saw me as the worst person on the planet. Boundaries were frequently crossed during times of instability, and a lot of emotional abuse took place. He would expect me to stick around while I was being mistreated but when I couldn’t take it anymore, I was the person at fault in his eyes. He would say I never loved him when I had to remove myself from situations, or the relationship as a whole, to protect myself. My mental health suffered tremendously. I was always confused, traumatized, etc. Yet I continued to give him several chances because he had a side of him that was so gentle and kind, witty, intelligent, and just simply amazing in many ways. He knew what he had to do to change but when it came down to doing it, it never happened. It’s so sad. I wish he got help. I had to let him go because the rollercoaster that was our relationship was just so unhealthy. The cycles of instability never ended. I loved him so much. I wish him well and I truly hope he gets the help he needs.