Healing from a Narcissist When It is All About Them

Of the toxic ingredients that make up a narcissist, one of them is the pattern where they make everything in life about themselves. They direct conversations and attention to themselves in all things. It goes beyond selfishness, which we all have battles with and even self-centeredness. Narcissism is even more intense than that. They have an orbit they have created where all of life points back to them being the center of attention, to bring attention to their finely constructed image they have created about themselves.

They will present themselves as either the chief hero in all things or the chief victim, depending on the situation. They can easily move back and forth, as long as attention is brought back to the story they have crafted.

With this dysfunctional pattern, a narcissist will leave you in a wake of toxicity you may need to work through. When the narcissist is your parent, you will struggle with being deeply neglected, ignored and dismissed. When the narcissist is your boss, he or she will make decisions to protect themselves with no regard for how it impacts you. When it is your friend, they will betray you without much thought. When a narcissist is your spouse, any issues you bring up about your pain will be switched and turned into a story that is all about their pain.

So how do you heal when you have been under this toxic influence?

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[RedRubyStones]

When the parents are narcissists, they genuinely are not concerned about your well-being. Only how you are reflecting onto them. I've had to put tremendous distance between myself and mine, and it is not easy when they're not understanding. They are truly baffled by their own grandioseness.

[darcyd]

I would like a video on "how to forgive a narcissist". Because they do not appolagies and do not see ANYthing wrong in their own actions. Or I suppose a video on how to forgive anyone who never apologies or recognize the harm they made you.

[Jesussaves.]

I'm trying to break from codependency and be more graceful to myself instead of putting myself down it's hard though

[ethanplacella]

I’ll never forget one time going to my mom to try and explain what I was dealing with regarding anxiety. As soon as I started talking she started making it about her. I watched the clock and she talked for a half hour about herself. When she finished I said I’m going back upstairs and she never said anything.

Mark you said some things in here that made me realize why as an adult I sometimes sabotage my own ambitions and desires because I feel like I don’t matter or how I feel and what I want doesn’t matter. Why? Because that’s what narcissists tend to make you feel.

[CC-oqts]

I am so tired of people trying to take someone whose been through a relationship with a person who is religiously self centered and has consistent patterns of emotionally abusive behavior and turn the tables on them and say everyone has narcissistic behavior. Simply because everyone has flaws and sin Does not mean there is a 50/50 split in responsibility in a relationship.
I am so glad you are teaching on this subject! You are a safe place. I appreciate it. You give those a voice who've experienced this.
This often gets Christianezed and flipped on the victims.
I can share your videos with friends and it helps them sort.
This gives discernment as well.

[angiekayquintal]

Spinning about what they think ❤ I thank God for you and Melissa 💗 God bless you and your family 💟

[Jesussaves.]

I must admit it was hard being raised by a narcissist but

Broken pieces of the puzzle but it helps when you help others put it back together . Encouragement helps others a lot . Healing is coming.

[Nightwalker-mu]

Hello, Pastor Mark dejesus, Just wanting to let you know I been praying for you and your household.❤🙏❤

[Nightwalker-mu]

1 minute in and I'm already hooked brother Mark.

[lynndarla]

Thank you, Mark. You explained well the relationship dynamics that I had experienced in a long term marriage. I needed to hear the specifics that you mentioned. Thank you for the immensely instrumental role that your videos and books have played in my healing process. God is restoring me; He is so good, and faithful.

[Hollyfilly]

I got so much out of this. I suffered from neglect and I can sure use this type of guidance. Very eye opening. Thank you.

[yanim.]

My ex-childhood friend was narcissistic. We reunited back in 2003 and parted ways in 2007 because I moved out of Cali with my parents. He used say that I get butt hurt and mad easily. There was a lot of truth to that, but if he cared about me as a friend and human being, he would give me advice on how to handle my issues in a healthy way. But no, he just pointed out my flaws with cold hearted facts. I used to have feelings for him too, but that was not intentional. He just happened to be tall, handsome and charming.

[margaretgrosskreuz]

Mark. A million thank yous.
So relevant and once again was sitting here.saying YES out.loud!
So sad when it's family
But a healthy boundary needs to be set to preserve my sanity ♥️

[stylist]

Please pray for me🙏🥰My stomach is turning spent my whole life with narcs, then to be finished off by one who married me just to kill steal and destroy 😭🥵🙏healing is happening 7 months alone, Thank you Lord for the healing work you are doing😭😭teach me to love myself Lord, I am learning to have a relationship with me, the Lord, position my self in Christ

[katiesanders]

WOW. I wanted to sit up and shout, “YES!” to a couple of the ways narcs will treat you!!! They’re not new revelations per se, but hearing them explained and confirmed as narcissistic behaviors is SO Sorry for yelling. 😂 I also relate to every symptom you shared. I’m so grateful you’re doing this series!

[Lessiebelle]

My husband apologizes, but I feel that it’s only to make himself feel better. I say this because if he doesn’t get the response he’s looking for-he gets angry and will start manipulating me and blame shifting. He will tell me that he came to apologize and if I have such a big problem with him, to just divorce him. Then the cycle continues. The only way I have peace in my life around him is if I give him what he wants and agree with him. It’s hurtful that we can’t talk about how his behavior effects me. He’s always the victim. He can do the most hurtful things to me but then he gives excuses as to why he did it. And usually that excuse/reasoning is because of me. Had I not done x, y, or z ; he wouldn’t have acted the way he did. Please pray for my marriage.

[heyclippyyy]

Thank you so much, you're such a blessing to me❤️!

[pettervaxjo]

Hi mark! I just ordered your book about the rejection mindset :)
/Petter, Sweden

[rolandsalas]

Self pity is narcissistic. Am I right? I need to encourage myself like King David.

[jewishbride]

Praise God whom sets all in one's right place! I bind to hell my needs being dismissed while I need freedom from every narcissist/psychopath, in accordance with this word and philippians 4:19 in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah! ❤