The tremendous growth that comes from surviving a narcissistic relationship

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[ABHISHEKMHT]

The strength I got from leaving a narssict relationship
- Never to trust people blindly
- Identify the red flags early on in the relationship before its too late
- self reflection
- I became much more resilient
- finding myself again I was lost in a narssict relationship
- learning to let go of toxic people

[stefannikola]

Alone is better than toxic, nonsensical, abusive, or insane.

[elrc]

I am my own bestfriend. And i realized i am a good bestfriend. Thank you Dr. Ramani. ❤️

[hattieanthony]

"Trust your own honest eye and not their lying mouth."

[doublelibra]

Now that I’m out of my narcissistic relationship, I realize how envious he was of my wholeness and empathic abilities. So envious that he tried to destroy them.

[sarahodom]

This is what I have written down in my journal for the three biggest lessons I learned last month:
1. Just because someone has traits you can sympathize with does not mean you owe them to be their therapist. That is, if a narcissist had a difficult childhood and maybe was abused themselves, it is not my job to work them through their trauma--especially if they don't care to do so.
2. Not everyone has good intentions. There are people who do--connect with those people. Follow your intuition and let the others go.
3. Being "picked" is not something to strive for. It's nice to feel liked, but being picked by the wrong person can be a hurtful, damaging, and even traumatic experience. Aim to attract the right sort of people, not every person.

[nicklo]

Please do more of these type of positive reinforcement for narcissistic abuse survivors! This truly makes me feel more empowered and happy. You're a life savior, and an amazing, intelligent woman that I and the rest of this community love! Thank you for everything. Your teachings will will stick with me for the rest of my life 🙂

[jasminej]

“Your child-like view of toxic people…” That one hit home for me. I realize that I have been projecting my goodness onto other people. I was naïve in believing that just because I wouldn’t do something, a narc wouldn’t do it to me. My mind had a hard time conceiving that someone who claimed to love me and wanted to marry me would intentionally gaslight, manipulate and abuse me. Now that I’ve accepted the reality, I can heal and discern peoples character better. I TRUST my intuition now. While I was with the narcissist, it’s like I had to unplug my connection with my own intuition to keep tolerating their presence. Now that I’m free, I feel like I got my soul back.

[masumayasmin]

There was a time when I could not even read 5 pages of a book, without being distracted. I was always on edge and stressed out because of the miserable relationship I was in. Two years back, I broke off all contact with the narcissist and finally I'm back to being a voracious reader again. I prefer being alone and happy. I'm here to express my love and gratitude to Dr. Ramani and all the other survivors..

[Navenanthen]

“There's a place in the soul where you've never been wounded.”

Find it. Protect it.

[Psyched.Substance]

Strength gained: The ability to see myself clearly. Even before the narcissist I could never see who I truly was, or what I could truly offer. Once she was removed from my life I could finally see that I was always too good for her. That I have more to offer than I ever realized. It was like the fog had finally lifted. It gave me a new sense of confidence and charisma.

[rabbihossain]

The benefits are:

1) Increased Patience
2) Increased Resilience
3) You suffer less
4) Willing to cut out toxic people with ease
5) No Longer be an enabler
6) Much more comfortable being alone
7) Learn to take ownership of yourself

[drlarrymitchell]

Once I got rid of all the toxic people in my life, there was hardly anyone left.

[sharlenemeakinsbsnrn]

Great Closure to the Series. Through the series I've come to understand that I was married to a covert narcissistic. I told him that I didn't think I could handle another 30 years of trying to make him happy. He responded "Well, so do you want a divorce?" For the first time of hearing this statement for years whenever I brought up something I wasn't happy about, I said YES!. You could have heard a pin drop. A friend told me last night that the word "divorce" was his form of a handcuff to keep me shackled because he didn't think I would ever agree to a divorce. I moved out yesterday! Thank you Dr. Ramani for your informative youtube videos.

[anelbasic]

I survived a covert narcissist, did a 18 year I recognized early on that these behaviors were bizarre, just didn't know it was an actual personality disorder. I knew I wasn't crazy. Her behavior checked all the boxes. While researching, it struck me like a my situation was scientifically explained. Since the divorce last year, I've put over 6000 miles on my bicycle and ran over 450 miles. Life is good once the cosmic pressure dissipates. 😌

[liambraithewaite]

The strength I got is definitely being able to read people and social situations a lot better

[Nitya-r]

Cheers to all the survivors who refused to break, who rose from their ashes time and time again! You guys are all some of the most badass people on the planet. So am I. It is not easy to rise and shine after all the mindf**kery that a narcissist puts you through. But we are striving to, and that's commendable.

[janebond]

After 35 years of marriage and on my 58th birthday, I finally got the courage to pack a suitcase and walk out the front door. ( I had just been told that I was getting older but his girlfriends were getting younger). I have turned my life around, I managed to reestablish myself and I like who I am. It was tough but this feeling of contentment and happiness is unbelievable. Thanks for the amazing videos.

[marquitawatkins]

Your series helped me realize that my ex is a covert narcissist suffering from combat related PTSD and childhood PTSD. He broke up with me and I moved out 1 month ago. As soon as I moved out, the migraines and GI issues I was experiencing ceased, I sleep a full continuous 8 hours nightly, and I can actually string a coherent thought together. I am rediscovering who I am while sitting in my mumu drinking wine singing as loud as I want. God made me built to last.

[TheMakeupFascination]

Biggest thing I've learned since walking out of my marriage with a narcissist is absolutely trusting myself to be my own defender, advocate, and friend.