Dealing with Difficult People

Dealing with difficult people isn't always easy, but with this helpful advice from Dr. Irene Strauss Cohen, you can find ways to help manage your emotions around difficult people.

Script: Nick Urbonas
Voice Over: Lily

Feedback Editor: Risha Maes
Project Manager: Erin Bogo
Producer: Psych2Go

[ContinualImprovement]

There’s only so many times you can fake a smile with really difficult people.

[RainOnSunnyDay]

So how do you deal with it if you're the difficult person?

[nigelismael]

I've been seen as the difficult person simply for not smiling, even though I'm not doing anything. I've actually had strangers become hostile towards me for not smiling like they expect me to. If this person simply wants me to be happy they have a weird way of showing it. Smh

[hottie]

This especially sucks when the person you deal with is your mother

[scarletletter]

Today, someone in my neighborhood asked me what to do with a clinically depressed person who's off their meds, and had expressed thoughts of suicide. They want him to get help, but they don't know how to get him to trust the doctor. The best I was able to do for them was to point them to your website (you've helped me with good advice on dealing with my own problems after all). I hope I did what was best in this situation.

[ang]

they spelled psychologist wrong. cute :p

[RoleplayHost]

The most difficult people are the people that tell you you're bad because you're not happy. That's kind of narrow-minded, if you ask me.

[lloyddragon]

Being positive isn't pretending bad things are good, it's focusing on what good _is_ there, no matter how small. Everywhere in life there is both good and bad, otherwise the universe couldn't exist. Positivity involves thinking more about positive things, gratitude, and taking in the little things in life. If you really spend time thinking about the little things, you begin to realize how they can become symbolic of bigger things, things that are often positive. The big positive things many of us don't think about or appreciate enough. Like the very fact you are alive, for example. Or, if you are any type of theist, the fact that there is a God/Gods and why you love them. If you are an atheist, than the fact that you are such an astounding coincidence. No matter who you are, there is at least one huge good thing in life, and you can find it by focusing on the small things.

[davidredford]

As I smile, I want nothing more than to cry
As I weep, I crave an eternal sleep
I live in a fog of confusion
I seek an clear and sunlit vision

I sometimes want to just die
To create a better world and a new life
For the other hurting souls in a self dug hole
Yet I want to think alive
But here I am, scratching myself with knives

Then I think and again think
To achieve anything, my conscious must sink
As I think of infinite universes,
I see life as a meaningless repeated verse

What is wrong with me, I ponder,
Am I really anything more than a bother
To every other being
Who in this universe is still seeing

As I think all alone
The seed of death is sown
For all of us
As my selfish lust for life endures

I should die, but want to live
I want to perish through a sieve
Why am I still here
Because our own destiny we cannot steer.

(this is what my imaginary friend said to me as her subconscious connected momentarily to my existence, two universes out of an infinite amount communicating and contradicting yet again, through a phenomenon we refer to as dreaming)

She is my only friend. I think you can see why. Is this loneliness or just me?
Yep, it's just me.
Either way, I say good night and may you dream happily as any of the infinite versions of you seek your conscious in a parallel existence.

[crassenmlgscopez]

Sooo my bf is a depressive intelligent introvert who despises beeing helped but also in a deep need for help. Yea that summs it up pretty well. Wth am i gonna do tho :<

[oumimin]

Moody and difficult person are my nightmares since im a fragil person rjeglrtkru

[shelly-annharriott]

I was once told by a former partner that I will not be happy as long as we are together because he is difficult to deal with. Those words shuck me to the core.

[Nerdvillette]

I thought my notifications were two months late.

And then my brain turned on and realized they aren't actually two months late.

[geeznuttstutorials]

I wanna keep this person company, he’s so mean to me and keep trying to push me away, but at the same time ik that he needs it.

[lovepeacedoubt]

What about when the difficult person blames you for their bad moods? Everything is always my fault.. I'm highly sensitive

[elusivhunafnir]

This is quite relatable because I/m one of those difficult people, especially towards my family.

[vynaslol]

There will always be people that do the opposite of what you want. And some of that cannot be changed, i believe its just how some people are. Best thing is to not take everything personally and have likeminded people around.

[gec]

The worst thing is when someone who you don't get on with befriends all of your friends (whether intentionally or unintentionally) and then manipulates you, leaving you nobody to go to.

[juancorashidahfiella]

I like how this address the problem objectively rather than subjectively...this actually helps me so much. I've been doing most of this things actually before I've watch this video.

[rokikidsfun]

I have 5 children. All raised generally the same. The two that are the most difficult have been that way since we could remember. Some people just feed off of the happiness of others, without any real way of generating their own.