5 Stoic Ways of Dealing With Difficult People - Marcus Aurelius (Stoicism)

In this video, we will be talking about 5 ways to start your day from the morning routine of Marcus Aurelius. how to deal with difficult people from the wisdom of Marcus Aurelius. Marcus Aurelius was the emperor of Rome from 161 to 180 AD and is considered as the last of the Five Good Emperors. Marcus worked to embody the philosophy of Stoicism through careful action, self-restraint, and respect throughout his life. During his rule, he found the time to construct a series of autobiographical writing known as the Meditations, and thanks to his prolific journaling, we have a fair idea about how he dealt with his share of difficult people on a daily basis and in this video we will be diving into 5 ways Marcus Aurelius dealt with difficult people and how we can use these lessons to deal with such people in our modern day lives.

So here are 5 ways to deal with difficult people from the wisdom of Marcus Aurelius -
01. Set your expectations straight
02. Let it go
03. Remember our common humanity
04. Take action
05. Overcome envy
I hope you enjoyed watching these 5 ways to deal with difficult people from the wisdom of Marcus Aurelius and find them helpful in your life.

Even though Marcus Aurelius wrote it 2,000 years ago — his insights on Stoicism still carry strong weight today. Stoicism is a school of Hellenistic philosophy founded by Zeno of Citium in Athens in the early 3rd century BC. Even though it is over 2000 years old, more and more people are discovering how Stoicism is not only relevant to modern times, but can be applied in very simple, yet strong ways.

[PhilosophiesforLife]

Marcus Aurelius says “When you wake up in the morning, tell yourself: The people I deal with today will be meddling, ungrateful, arrogant, dishonest, jealous and surly”

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[ICEcoldJT]

“Before you argue with someone, think to yourself is that person even mentally mature enough to grasp the concept of different perspectives. Because if not, there’s absolutely no point.” 🙏🏽

[Apple_Teck]

“DO NOT CORRECT A FOOL, OR HE WILL HATE YOU; CORRECT A WISE MAN, AND HE WILL APPRECIATE YOU.”

[Charlie-iirr]

"Don't compare yourself to others. Instead, compare yourself with the person you were yesterday." That's the thought for the day.

[smartymcfly]

The older I get, the more stoicism makes perfect sense as a lifestyle to avoid pain and suffering. Thank you for the invaluable videos.

[klloh]

Here are the actionable points summarise from the video:
1. Recognize that people have different perspectives and opinions, and it's natural to encounter difficult people in life.
2. Practice empathy by putting yourself in the other person's shoes to understand their motivations and intentions.
3. Focus on what you can control in the situation, such as your own reactions and emotions, and don't waste energy on things outside of your control.
4, Respond with kindness and respect, even if the other person is behaving badly, as this can defuse the situation and set a positive tone for future interactions.
5, Avoid reacting impulsively or emotionally, and take time to reflect on your thoughts and feelings before responding.
6. Recognize that negative people or situations can be opportunities for personal growth and learning, and use them as a chance to practice patience, resilience, and self-control.
7. Practice gratitude and mindfulness to cultivate a positive mindset and reduce stress.
8. Stay true to your own values and principles, even when dealing with difficult people, and don't compromise your integrity or moral compass.
9. Use setbacks or failures as opportunities to learn and improve, rather than as reasons to give up or become discouraged.
I hope this helps!

[katarratube]

I understand this, but as someone who grew up constantly bullied and tormented, I did all of these things (stayed quiet, ignored them) and was bullied even more and/worse than before. I am a strong advocate of choosing your battles, but there are times when you MUST state your boundaries and SPEAK UP for yourself. Not stoop to their level or engage in their energy, but standing up for yourself. Some people see "kindness" and "being the bigger person" as an invitation to continue their abuse. Stoicism in this sense isn't realistic, because abuse is mentally and physically deteriorating, and can become life threatening. Alot of victim blaming too.

[sunlion]

“You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.”

-Marcus Aurelius

[somethingyousaid]

Theoretically I will have been the most difficult person that I will have had to deal with.

[josuealvarado]

Stoicism:
- Careful Action - Self Restrain - Respect
5 ways to deal with difficult people:
1. Set your expectations
2. Let it go (you can't control it)
3. Remember our common humanity (we could also be difficult people, be graceful)
4. Take Action (confront wirh humility and confidence)
5. Overcome Envy (distress, fear, lust, delight) - Don't put your happiness in the hands of others.

*I think these things reflect Christian principles, even though the Bible is not their source. But this would be some of the things you would find in the Bible. Just add the salvation of your soul in the eternity, through the merit of somebody else - the Grace of God by faith.

[elmalanmalan]

You can't control others
But we can control how we react

[romeodenis]

A great reminder to be relaxed and calmed. When i'm angry my reasoning is compromised; it even affects my health. So, i learned to become more sociable and believe He's always there for us. Have a fruitful day ahead

[vivienwilliams]

Marcus Aurelius asks a lot. The desire for revenge is innate in everyone. Denying it is indeed desirable. However, absorbing every jibe, insult and unfairness is surely giving licence to those handing out the medicine! If we were all 'Too Sweet To Be Wholesome', i.e. never losing our temper, never questioning the behaviour of others, I doubt if there would be any progress, good or bad, in the human race.

[Dacademeca]

"Hard Times Create Strong Men, Strong Men Create Good Times, Good Times Create Weak Men, And Weak Men Create Hard Times."

[aleenayoung]

I live by you can not change the world or other people actions but you can change the way you respond and who you are as a person.

[Diana-gtrv]

I like this philosophy very much and actually I am intuitively living according to these very simple principles. It makes life so easy.

[tdhawk]

These are great in general... With basic run if the mill difficult people... But totally does not apply when dealing with narcissists. Learned the hard way. Very different techniques are needed

[MsFunology]

Once I had a session with a psychologist. I asked her opinion about whether I should discuss my situation with the guy that left me hanging with my feeling. She said that it could be a solution for my peace, but I need to rethink first if this guy is a person I can have a discussion with. If he's not the mature one or someone you can have a mature conversation with, then I should just let it go and may be consider another man who is more deserving. I was like, "this is so true!" After a lot of thinking, I decided to not talk to the guy. Best decision! Don't waste your energy for people who will not match your effort or not as mature.

[trinawalkerspeaks]

I have been a stoic since 2015 and did not know it. I thought I was just following the tenants of emotional intelligence. When you love yourself enough, No bully can provoke you to fight in public. Your abuser at home cannot upset you because you left them when they showed they wouldn't stop. Keeping your life peaceful is something you must build and maintain.

[margaretnewton]

Thank you . The reader is so clear . All of Marcus Aurelius concepts are scriptural in the Gospels. And, , is therefore, infallible truth.