Dealing with difficult people (Unit 1)

Dealing with difficult people Unit 1 ( Video Program) Passages 1 Third Edition

[eugeniodominguezrua]

well, I think that dealing with difficult people could be a challenge, but you decide how to play it. "the bully" they love making you feel bad all time, you just have to be strong and don't let yourself be affected by them. About the "know-it-all", I hate dealing with this kind of person because they don't accept another opinion, so you only have to not discuss with them because you're not going to win anyway. "Mr. Negative" they always see bad things even in good opportunities. It could be a good idea to show them that having a better attitude will make them feel much better. I consider the best way to deal with these kind of people is by not avoiding them, conversely we should talk to them to try finding a way of solving the problem or the situation. if it doesn't work the best idea is to ignore them so that you don't worry about it, someday they will realize that they are wrong with their attitude by themselves.

[KarenCh]

Hello everyone! I want to start by letting you know how much I feel identified with some of this personality types. We get to know so many people throughout our lives. However, it is very easy and common to find people who are difficult to deal with. I find the information given in this video very useful as I have to deal with family, friends, coworkers and different kind of people out there. I have found myself in some stressful situations but I did not know how to confront them. I used to get involved in endless arguments with not a win/win situation. Now instead of given them more reasons to argue, I will try by speaking in a reasonable way so they will be able to understand. Yet if the problem persists as well as the person does not want to hear what I have to say, I will leave them alone by walking away.

[Shayonotalok]

Throughout our life it is normal to meet difficult people. In our school, university, work, our family, even some friends can have this type of personality that can lead us to frustrating and even frightening situations. Although, as the video says, the best way to deal with these types of people is to avoid them, sometimes this is not possible, so it is best to learn how to deal with them. The video shows us two steps approach, very useful, to deal with these difficult personalities: To find and stop the reward they feel being that way. For example; to deal with "The Bully", (normally is someone with low self-esteem and insecure) It is important to avoid shouting, getting nervous or reacting in a frightened way. Avoid falling into his or her provocations and avoid get being emotional. Keep calm and listen to what they tell us, but set certain limits so that they do not get out of line. Always respond with education and calm.
With "The exploder" (I have a friend like that) The better way of treat with them is keep calm and do not react negatively. Be clear and tell them that you do not want to argue and that you will not talk with her/him until calm down. Ask what the problem is and propose some solutions.
A negative person or "Mr. negative" usually needs love. To deal with them it is better to listen to them and try to find the positive of the situation, but without trying to convince them. Do not let their negativity affect us!
And last, "The know it all" (They bother me a little) They want to dominate and control situations. Expose their ideas (and believe they are the best) but do not have time to listen to the ideas of others.
Personally it is a bit difficult for me to deal with this kind of people, but I think it is important to be calm and ignore them and not to enter into an argument with them.
Well, we do not all react same against a situation, so I think it is not good to judge these people because we have no idea why their behavior or if they have any problems in their personal life. However it is good to know how to treat them and keep in mind that we must move away from them when they exceed the limits.

[anyvianafang]

The best way to take advantage of the two - step process to deal with difficult personality types it's in the first place loving ourselves, because it is the only one reason to decide you will not let to that kind of people make you feel bad about yourself, so if we love us it will be easy to ignore those bad comments from them.
Usually these behavior have been the result to suffer abuse in the past, so they find the way to outsource it.
Following the line of ideas, another important thing is avoid getting emotional, because they only want to take attention, it's better to talk with them and said that you can undertand their angry, but if they keep being rude, the best that we can do is ignore and avoid interacting with them.

[osvaldoarrieta]

Hello, good morning everyone, I think that it is important to recognize that nobody is perfect, we all make mistakes. We must bear in mind how to deal with these types of people. However, sometimes it is difficult dealing with persons who are exploding or negative because we do not have patience and we cannot behave as best as possible. I consider we have to improve our behaviour with those persons because we will never know if we can make these mistakes. In addition, it is our duty to help this type of persons to improve and also we should not accept those people influence our life in a negative way. We have to find and appreciate everyone's values and qualities knowing they are not perfect and that they also have defects. As for people who are bully, I think we should avoid this kind of people that make us feel bad, also we can talk to this persons in order to know the real situation because we don't know the reason why they are acting this way.

[lorenavega]

Hello everybody! At first, I think that nobody should make you feel bad if we really know who we are. So, the best way to deal with this kind of poeple is being patient, calm and strong. In order to know how to deal with this different kind of people, we have to know why their behaviour is. For example, "the bully" is the kind of people who is not agree with themselves and in most of cases they have been bullied before by their parents or sibling. So they act like this because they want to feel strong and secure but the reality is they hide their fears behind the violence and use this to increase their damaged self-esteem. That's why we should be stronger than them, trust in our self, love us so much that nobody have the chance to destroy our personality. On the other hand, "Mr negative" is the kind of people who have been in the worst situation (a familiar loss or lack of money, terrible sickness, etc) so, they think that everything is wrong. We have to avoid this kind of thoughts. Also, we can talk with them, show how beautiful life is and teach them better ways to find a solution for problems. Change the bad thougs into positive is one of the key to live happier, because life is always smiling us.

[Saryf]

Hello everyone, in my opinion the first step to evade these types of people is to have self esteem. Because if you love yourself, you will make everything to protect you from this personalities. Now, I think that we have to try to make this people aware about how they are destroying other people with their attitude, but if it doesn't work, then we have to ignore them and this people will learn how to treat others

[lauraolarte]

Always there are people that you can't stand, for many reasons good or not but your reasons, nobody can like to everyone.
In the video mentioned a word that sounded interesting for me, 'enjoy', most of the time those kind of people enjoy when you feel bad and don't care about it! There is a phrase that say: if something doesn't plase you, take away the only power it has, your attention.
I think that you have to learn how you can deal whit the different personalities because you always will find some person doesn't like you.
Other point that I considered important about 'The Bully'. I think that maybe you're not necessary a bully but your words and the way that you say them can concern or make feel bad to the other person.
You can have a strong personality but sometime you need to hear a good word about whatever thing that you do, it's a human necesity, I'm talking about a long letter or a newspaper but you feel better if someone else notices your good things.

[leonelsotelo]

Hello everyone, I think there are people like this because they weren’t educated well, by that I mean they’ve always had what they’ve wanted and this is one of the reasons why it is difficult to deal with them, as said in the video they want to obtain something or feel superior, for example in the case of the know-it-all people and the bullies we have to understand that there are different opinions and attitudes and we must be open minded but without allowing them to get trampled and if this happens we should stop them and tell them that it isn’t correct, and if they don’t accept that, we have to leave, my recommendation is to be respectful and patient with this kind of people because it is inevitable to find them.

[melissamg]

Goodnight everyone,

These two-steps that the video mention are very useful and are applicable to every personality types. First, we must ask ourselves what they want to GET with their behavior and after, discover how to avoid them achieve their OBJECTIVE. In my case, it is difficult to deal with the 'Bully' type. They think they are superior and They have the authority to mistreat others and according to the video, I consider that we should avoid this kind of people and never celebrate their mockery and humiliations, that would give them more "power" to keep doing it and we want that they don’t achieve their goal and don’t find satisfaction with their behavior. In that way, with the other kind of personalities. However, it is important to try to help them, for that reason is necessary to look for the moment and even the most appropriate place to make them realize their mistake, of course, we must tell them in calm tone and not only highlighting the bad also we can highlight the good they have to give to others, but as we are imperfect, that will not be easy and although the person wants to change, it will take some time to get it, so we should have patience with them, too. But if those people definitely don’t want to change, we should avoid them anyway, because they could influence in some way in our lives.

[aarrieta]

Well... I consider, the most difficult kind of people are "Mr Negative" because treat with them could comsume your energy and it makes you feel enraged, and I think that this kind of people aren't happy with themself, with their life, they always see "the dark side" of the life, "the dark side" the everything, then this kind of behavior is annoying for the rest of people. I remember that in my last job I coexisted with a co-worker who were a "Mr Negative", it was stressing, and I didn't know but I used the steps that the video teach us.
In brief I can say the best way to treat with this people is let they complain about what they want, keep calm and show them that they don't win anything of being negative person and show them how enjoy the life.
About "The Bully" the best is ignore them, let know them that you don't care what they say about you that they don't have power over you.
About "The Exploder", I treated with those people before and I really hate this kind of people, I can't stand being close of those people and what I do is be direct and say "the world doesn't orbit around you".
About "The Know-it-all" I consider with this kind of people can exist a mutual learnig because even if they think that they have the reason about how do something, we can show that they are wrong and learn together.

[valeriestefanellvalderrama]

Hello everybody, well personally I don't like at all the "know- it -all", they have to understeand that each person has different opinions, but they think they're always right. To deal with this kind of personality I think that try to explain the other your opinions and thoughts it's a good option but if they don't want to listen to you you always can talk or work with someone else. In the case of "The Bully", this kind of personality it is very difficult to treat because they enjoy being mean with the other, but if you are confident about yourself and avoid this kind of people in your life you dont have nothing to worry about. Well now the "Mr negative" it is very complicated, for them everything is bad, always, nothing positive at all, you can try to talk with them, maybe they can listen an other point of view and change his mind, if they don't, don't let them change yours, always stay positive. "The exploder", the best thing you can do with this kind of people is avoid them, when they are angry this people can be very rude and agressive and they can hurt you, my advice? avoid them.

[rosaromero]

Nowadays is common to meet people with these personalities types and this video could be useful to prepare us.
Identify "the reward" help us to stop their behavior and we learn how to proceed in each situation. Would be a good idea keep calm down and avoid getting emotional.
We always have to understand the reason why people is like that.

[mafepertuz]

Hello Gays!
I think that the essence of the life is when you know and share with different types of persons, in some cases I think that it is necessary have, know and work with persons who have different personalities. Particularly at job you have a few skills and others have others that complement you, I think that if everyone were the same live would be a blank to me, if all the cultures and religions were the same, and if all were thinking the same, the life simply would not be called a life. It`s clear that each one is different but for me has it`s advantages.

[manueljose_]

Hello everybody.
Those kind of personalities are very common in our daily life. I consider is very hard to deal with people that don't contribute to create a comfortable environment in our study or job. I think that its easier to deal with the bully people than the negative people, due to when you are patient and sensible, you will make good decisions about to deal or ignore the bully people. On the other hand, the negative people usually are stubborn like the "know-it-all" people, often they generate tensions between people who share with them and the environment of work or study become very unpleasant.
Finally, we know that all of people are different and we should be tolerant and try to stablish good relationship with the other people in a respectful way.

[danielaurzolaoyola]

Hello everyone .
The two-step are very useful, especially the second one, that talk about figure out how we can stop the reward. Personally, I have to deal daily with difficult people, for example “the exploders”, it upsets me when someone is screaming all the time and making tantrums. A good advice mentioned in the video is refusing to talk with them until they calm down and if they cannot calm down the best option is ignore them or leave the room, this will avoid discussions and fights.

[mariajosesilva]

Hello guys! Everybody has friends like Mr.Negative, the bully, the exploder or the know-it-all.In fact, in our families there are persons like that.The best way of dealing with this kind of people is being patient with them.Personally, it's bothers me when the people are like "the know-it-all", because they think that they are right all the time.Sometimes, I can deal with them, but in some of cases I can't stand their behavior.In order, to know how to deal with the rest of kind of the people it's necessary that we understand why they behave that way.So, we can understand their impatience, ungry or negativism.Usually, this persons don't act like that without reason, they do it due to a lack of love, attention or because of the bad experiences in their past.

[aarrieta]

I totaly agree with Camilo about his commentary of "The Bully" particularly with having a mentally strong because if you have a strong mind and you self-confidence you shouldn't have problem with this kind of people, even though they try and try and try again, they couldn't with you. On the other hand be a person with a strong mind could help you to solve others problem easier, maybe help to people who aren't strong and who knows help to the person who do the bullying I want to add that if you don't pay attention to this kind of people they'll lose interest in you.

[AdrianaNosaG]

Hello everyone. In my personal opinion this video is very good. I consider it so, because it gives us the necessary solutions that should be used when meeting people characterized as bully, negative, the know it all and the exploder. In the case that they are only two steps to deal with these types of people, I would consider first listening and taking things calmly, from there I would derive what would be deterred by these difficult situations, not lose peace, think about what is going to say and from there talk, this will help to have a better relationship with this type of people, since what he will say is not product of an impulse for as the other person spoke, but are thoughtful words, full of tranquility to answer him . On the other hand you can find a way to tell a joke to remove a little weight from the tensioning moment, dedicate more time to these types of people and make us their friends to help them little by little to change, because when we started to know this type of people we realize that they are like this is because of the history that they carry and because many times they do not have any person next to them that helps them and shares special moments with them.

[LM_Arch]

Good night everybody!
First, you don't have to pay attention to those persons that are always trying to make you bad, you are the only owner of your life, if you don't want to life stressful, is time to make change in the way you are living. I mean, my opinion about those 2 steps to live better, is that you'll find all kinds of different personalities, but its your decision to life really bad about them, or completely free and happy. Don't pay attention as i mentioned before, that's the key to go forward them.