How to Set Boundaries in Relationships with Toxic People

How to Set Boundaries in Relationships with Toxic People
Setting boundaries in relationships can be challenging but with a toxic person you need to take extra steps to protect yourself. People who violate boundaries need you to be SUPER clear - so learn how here in this video.#boundaries #toxicrelationships #settingboundaries

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Time stamps
00:00 Introduction
00:18 What are boundaries?
00:42 Toxic people don't respect boundaries because...
01:33 The first step in setting boundaries with toxic people
01:50 Identify toxic behaviors
02:28 Setting boundaries with toxic people
02:59 If it's a behavior that you both do...
03:44 Don't describe the toxic behavior in a way they will react to
04:16 The third step in setting boundaries with toxic people
05:09 In order for a boundary to work you need to...
05:45 This gets the narcissist's attention
06:25 You can minimize abusive behavior by doing this

Here are a few ways to get extra support: 

✅ FREE 30 Minute Training on Better Boundaries ( mentioned in the video )

✅ FREE Relationship Checklist to assess your relationships!

📗 Healing Narcissistic Abuse with Self-trust E-workbook

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Michelle is a psychotherapist, codependency expert, and anger management, specialist. She’s been featured in The Daily Positive, BossMom, Psych Central, The Good Men Project, and Your Tango just to name a few. Her relationship recovery helps people go from relationships that don’t serve them, to learning how to trust themselves and create mutually satisfying connections that work. Michelle loves creating online products and courses on relationship skills, codependency recovery, anger management, conflict resolution, self-esteem, and self-trust.

[Conscious]

Sooo helpful!! Saying "When We..." while setting boundaries!! So much better! It's accepting/taking your share of the responsibility of your own behavior when w/the toxic person and they get less defensive. Brilliantly said Michelle! Thank you Again!!

[ZFabia]

Yes.

My boundaries Are :
1) name calling absolutely
2) Accusing me of enjoying it when they loose it.
3) when we raise our voices
4) bringing up death as a weapon

I'll write a note

Then in her presence
I'll leave if she starts it.

I will say
Im not participating in this.

I have worked on myself
You need to also work on yourself. And your age is not an excuse.

[dianeshoemaker]

This is very pragmatic simple but profound advice. I was just thinking “I don’t know what to do when I am being gaslighted” and this video gave me a practical answer and made me realize what I am doing currently isn’t working. Thank you!!

[Katinka]

M problem is more so that whenever I actually set my boundaries he persives it as a blackmail or threat rather than something I'm doing for myself to protect (he has borderline personality disorder). And when I finally try to stick with it and try to remain calm he suddently looses all the interest, hates me, leaves and blames it on my while being cold and even laughing or threatening me and thats when my Codependency and abandonment issues kick in and I start to beg him and apologies. Works every time.

[sfozardmccall]

Thank you for sharing this information especially for people who are in a dangerous situation with a toxic person. ❤

[Final_Turn]

The day you set up boundries, relationships fall apart.

Its more easier to stay alone rather getting into this battle field. Life is short ..
Regards,

[kekndreamz-pxrr]

Thank you, this video helped a lot on managing my relationships with toxic people at school 😁

[AA-cbdz]

3I Defense = Ignore, Indifferent, Irrelevant

[lynnebucher]

My last BF totally bulldozed through my attempts to have boundaries. He even held my wrists and blocked the exit from the room to force me to endure yet another one of his crazy tirades over some made up thing he was accusing me of doing. That's when I accepted the relationship was toast. Looking back, I wish I'd called the police once I got free. I considered that at the time but was afraid they wouldn't actually do anything about it, and then he'd really take his wrath out on me. My leaving wasn't seen as an option as it was my owned home and I had a dozen horses to care for. So glad he's gone.

[Meruffy]

Do you have any videos on dealing with individuals that use emotions to manipulate you? In part it’s a guilt trip, but it’s also a flawed coping strategy to avoid dealing with whatever is making them uncomfortable or unwilling to take responsibility for their actions.

[learningandgaining]

Yes, my husband shames me on my color and my looks

[PascaleMarin]

Excellent advice but does it ever get less uncomfortable? Why am I feeling so guilty when setting a boundary (especially with my time, I struggle with turning people down when I can't give more time to a person and of course, many abuse it 😓?

[SaminaKausar-yl]

What can you do if the toxic person is harming you verbally?

[Lifestudent-]

Okay, what if I’m the one violating the boundaries in my relationships, I’m the angry one, the yelling one, how do I realise boundaries? Does that mean I’m a narcissist? Genuine question.

[thluyfn]

what if the person is gonna hurt you if you pursue your boundary and you live with that person and don't have any other house to live in

[TORQMONSTER]

Yes. But what do you do when you’re wife disrespects boundaries. Also she specifically does things I hate like smoking drinking and the latest one is a large tattoo. She was well aware my feelings on this before we got married. She promised to quit smoking limit drinking and tattoos I did not see this coming. I know it’s her body but we are married and I always ask her how she feels about any decisions that would impact our relationship and her 2 children. These are just a few.

[alisontill]

Relationships happy Jessica till thanks family boyfriend