7 Signs You're Too Kind For Your Own Good

Are you a people pleaser who constantly putting others' needs before your own? Do you find it difficult to say no or set boundaries? From being a chronic people pleaser to experiencing the people pleaser syndrome, in this video, we'll explore the signs that indicate you're too nice.

If you've ever wondered if you're too nice for your own good or if you're struggling with people-pleasing tendencies, this video is for you. Let's embrace kindness without losing sight of our own needs!

#peoplepleaser #toonice

Writer: Morgan Swift
Script Editor: Rida Batool
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

References

[trinaq]

Yes, this video is absolutely calling me out right now! I'm slowly but surely learning to set boundaries with certain people without feeling guilty, as my mental health ultimately comes first.

[Ads_]

Timestamps ~

0:28 - People Pleaser
1:10 - Always Saying "I'm Sorry"
1:44 - It's always "Yes"
2:13 - Not Everyone's Opinion Matters
2:56 - It's Not Your Responsibility, You're Not Responsible For Other People's Experiences
3:44 - Conflict Terrifies You
4:28 - What About You?

Hope this helps & have a gud day!

[FemboyKaiSaku]

being a bit too kind is my worst trait, trying to help everyone's struggles to whee it ruins my mental health, not standing up for myself against people who are rude to me, hiding my sad emotions to avoid ruining someone's mood. Trying to work on it but its, instinctss

[Januaryhuntingdogs]

Oh look, a video made for me. Could be a sign, let’s find out :D

[TheSelfCenter]

It hurts being so kind! Others taking advantage causes one to retreat into themself... And it can definitely lead into developing resentment or other negative things. Love the video! 💖☀️

[vintxge_taetae]

It’s like these videos always come at the exact right time😭😭😭


And yes I relate to all the signs💁‍♀️💗

[timinator]

As a person who struggles with being too nice, I feel like this video has helped quite a lot. It's not easy feeling rejected by those who have smiling faces but don't consider or even thank you for being kind to them. It's like what I do isn't enough for people, and it results to feeling left out, abandoned, not having friends, and even affecting my mentality.

[buttonmashgamer]

I like being kind to avoid conflict but I think it's also because I think life is mostly about suffering and want to soothe others or don't want to add suffering.

[Aan]

Timestamps
1). People pleaser 0:28
2). Always saying, "I'm sorry" 1:09
3). It's always "yes" 1:44
4). Not everyone's opinion matters 2:12
5). It's not your responsibility 2:56
6). Conflict terrifies you 3:41
7). What about you 4:27

Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[metarunner]

I used to be this person, then it clicked in my head that I was naïve and being used. I don’t know what it was but something in me snapped. Now im more drawn back, and am a borderline introvert around people that aren’t my friends. On the upside though, my friendships are stronger, and have pushed to cut out toxic relationships. It has helped me in the long run, but learning it was not fun.

[SnasDeSnas]

it hurts even more when you're too nice to someone and then they stop hanging around you, but then they still have the *audacity* to still ask you for things

[socheata]

I felt the same way, but I tried my hardest even when I’m negative.

[AbhishekSoni-ggny]

This video really was an eye opener for me🥺🥲😭. For so many yrs I've been a people pleaser and overly kind that I got treated like shit by a lotta people😭. Damn, I needed this one, although I've stopped people pleasing and being kind to people who will always return it back negatively to me. So, yeah💯. Keep up the great work as always Psych 2 Go💖💯. Love u guys to death💖💯

[Kaimeno]

For anyone who apologizes all the time “say excuse me” instead. Helps greatly with getting a better gauge on people and wether or not you really need to apologize.

[AKingInYellow]

This one hit terribly close to home, one might even say it knocked on my front door.

Thanks for affirming this feeling. It isn't easy, but trying to make boundaries can be a hard thing to gauge and learn.

Thanks.

[Wolvious]

Surviving abuse taught me to be a people pleaser

Working with a therapist can help you to stop being a people pleaser, NO is okay! It’s okay if saying NO is uncomfortable, the reason it is uncomfortable is because you subconsciously believe you have to say yes.. or at least that’s what it was for me

I don’t have great advice here, but I do know you should set boundaries and stand your ground when you say NO. It’s not rude, it’s not mean; it’s actually polite because the other party cannot tell what your boundaries are, even if you think they can.

Also remember, that if you’re boundaries are not respected no matter what you try, it’s always okay to cut contact with the person

Also happy pride month, stay safe ❤

[atbo]

I think this is me, I will go out of my way to help people but as soon as some one is nice to me or gets me a gift it makes me uncomfortable. I definitely need to be kinder to myself ❤

[AdefastusMiarelle]

Isn't it a bit sad that we need videos like these? 😢 it's almost a given that, if we're "too" kind, we're going to be taken advantage of...

[piegirl]

YES thank you!!! I'm a people pleaser and if anything it's only causes damage to my relationships, because it's hard for people to know if I am beings sincere when I agree with everything even if I don't actually agree. So I'm working on it 😊

[ORProductionss]

Despite the signs being there, it’s just too hard to not be a “people pleasure”