7 Signs You're Not Actually 'I'm Fine'

When someone asks you how you are, what do you say? Do you brush off your emotions and simply say: “I’m fine”? It may feel difficult to talk to others about what you’re going through because you’re tired, nervous, or don’t know quite how to explain what you’re feeling.

In this video, we want you to know that it’s okay to say: “I’m not fine” when you’re feeling low. For some, it may be hard to recognize they feel this way. So, to help you recognize what you’re feeling, here are seven signs you’re not actually ‘fine’. If you or someone you know is struggling, please reach out to a mental health professional!

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Writer: Michal Mitchell
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[ShortHax]

“It’s all because of your phone!”
- My mom, probably

[chriswalrath]

"You aren't living your life, you're surviving"

That cut deeper than I expected.

[AshSegura-fsvq]

My schedule rn:
Wake up,
Look at my teary swelled eyes,
Get ready,
Go to school,
Work,
Cry from some stress,
Get headaches,
Sudden wave of sadness,
Go home,
Cry,
Look at my phone,
Take a walk,
Chores/ work,
Go to sleep,
Contemplate either I should commit or not,
Quietly sob,
Pass out while crying,
Repeat

[emilia_hanna]

I have all of these, I just won't talk to anyone about it because I don't trust anyone. I don't even trust my own self.

[HumanPsychology]

People can be so
quiet about their pain,
that you forget they
are hurting That is
why it is so important
to always be kind.

[ahmadmahmud]

"if your feeling lonely, try and call a friend up"
me: *has no friends whatsoever"

[MariahCieloCabia]

If im ever a mother i will always comfort my child and be the best mom the child can have..

[linlinkunahanako]

I always said that “I’m fine” because whenever I said I’m not okay, my mom, my friends or other people always said that I have nothing to feel not okay. My mom always said to me that “all the things that you feel not okay is just your imagination so stop being childish who seek for attention.” and that always hurt me, but when I not telling her anything, she start complaining me for keep everything up to myself. I tired. No one can help me, so I tried my best to be with myself to help myself, but all they do is criticizing me.

I always lied to myself that “I’m still okay. I’m still fine, so let’s cheer up to start a new day.”, but all they do were to discourage me, to make me feel useless. I often felt like I had no reason left to live, but I was too cowardly to die and I still had a lot of things to worry about. All the things that I still worry about are like a piece of wood that was holding me back from sinking into the lake of suicidal and trying to stay alive, but now that piece of wood is no longer able to hold me up.

I’m not sure if the burden on my shoulders was actually too much that the piece of wood failed to support me or if it was came who was starting to let go. It was all overwhelming to the point where I was too tired of finding reasons to live and to keep fighting everyday.

[SebastianDahn]

Going to be honest... I just hate talking to people. Saying, "I'm fine" is a great way to end any conversation, at least from my experience. Talking doesn't help, if anything... just makes it worse. They act like they care, think they're being helpful... when they're not. Trying to make my issues seem puny, just by that... I want nothing to do with them. "It's in the past, " exactly. The past is when I was most satisfied with my life, hence why I live in the past. The present and future, they're miserable.

[lunabrr]

What I really hate about having suicidal thoughts is that either you can't talk to it because people will take it too seriously or not at all

[Oreothecat]

“You aren’t living your life, your surviving”
That was deeper than the cuts on my arm

[BlackPriest]

7 months departed from wife, seeing my Son is wonderful. the moment he’s gone I don’t feel much. The last 4 months, not even my closest friends text or anything. I know I’m away from my family because of things I’ve done but 7 months sober and away from all them is hard. I’ve only been invited out 4 times total

[criticalplurality]

Unlike most people here, I do like someone talking to me. I don't like openly talking about how I feel, but I enjoy company with people I feel comfort in, like friends or whatever. Even if I'm in a bad mood and never really show it, just being around them lets me forget the stuff back home even for just a bit.

[graeae]

in my case, releasing emotions makes my mental health even worse. when I share something with someone, i overthink about it all day and feel embarrassed. Keeping it to myself is much easier.

[jd]

For someone who's struggling. Everyone has a map of reality which isn't actual reality including ourselves. Some people can't process or don't actually understand. When feeling stuck we haven't looked at all the options. We are programmed from birth by parents, siblings, society, school etc. First step is knowing the subconscious experiences all ages we have been in real time, no break, as it's all happening at once. Go easy on yourself. Take Time. Think of all the options even the hard ones!

[SairePickens]

As a young teenager struggling to keep on the surface, this helps a lot, and the other videos too. I've always been a highly sensitive person, and also a very anxious person, but it got worse around two years ago. There is one person who knows the whole story and how rough it's made simple tasks like doing homework or getting work done. She's the one who just kept her mouth shut and listened and only interrupted for clarification. She's one of my teachers. I was in a class that she hosted back in March where I did a project on my trauma from elementary school. I will never be able to thank her enough for listening and helping me get that done and through it, especially the day after a migraine, which I only get when I experience high levels of anxiety.

[italwayglows]

“Why are you so rude now a days? It’s because of your phone isn’t it?”
- my mom

[shnoops]

0:56 you withdraw yourself from most situations and isolate
1:51 you sleep too much or not enough
2:35 you don’t enjoy happy events
3:15 you often have suicidal thoughts that can come out of nowhere
3:58 you tell yourself you’re fine even when you’re not
5:02 you don’t like who you are and let your insecurities get the best of you
6:11 you aren’t living your life, you’re surviving

[Carrot_tree.]

These videos are helping me help my friend, I'm autistic and I find it hard to know what to do. Thank you for helping my friend! ❤

[tiagofaria]

Its sad to see how many people saw this video, and hearing u describe basically my hole year makes me see that im not alone. Even now, as i write this, i thought of not doing it, because people would judge me. Thank you for your help. Hope everyone else who saw this video makes out of it. Good luck guys.