8 Struggles of Being Too Nice

Has anyone ever told you that you’re too nice? Being too nice can hurt you in a lot of ways you may not even realize. When people say you’re too nice, it most likely means you’re too much of a pushover. Are you too selfless, too trusting, and too self-sacrificing? If you’re not careful, you can be easily fooled and manipulated, blinded by your own good nature.

People who are “too nice” tend to have a hard time standing up for themselves or doing what’s best for them because they’re so preoccupied with being agreeable and easy to get along with. To help you become more aware of your tendencies, we've created this video to help you identify the struggles you'll probably face when you're being too nice.

Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor: Morgan Franz
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Lily Hu
Animator: Naphia
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

[Psychgo]

Raise your hand if you’re guilty of this ;)

[pineapplehead]

1. You don't know how to say no
2. You attract the wrong kinds of people
3. Everyone keeps asking you for favors
4. Some people are suspicious of you
5. You're afraid to speak your mind
6. You forgive people too easily
7. You feel guilty putting yourself first
8. You forget to be nice to yourself

[PlanetPsych]

Encouraging quote for nice ppl:
"Don't give everything to people who give you nothing"

[bladefox]

I hate answering "No" to questions, because I don't want anyone to feel bad.

[itsliz]

The worst moment is that when you're trying to be mean but you're too nice to do so. 😅

[treznopresto]

It so sad nicest people hurt the most but if they mad a little people think they're rude :(

[rubberduckie]

Then the worst part is when you are trying to be mean but you just can’t because you don’t know how to and when you do get mad they think it is a joke and you can’t ever tell anyone your problems because you are the happy kid and everyone can tell up you their problems assuming the their life is terrible

[QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“Don't mistake my kindness for weakness. I am kind to everyone, but when someone is unkind to me, weak is not what you are going to remember about me.”
― Al Capone

[imagine]

They take you for granted. And it’s so frustrating!!

[gieologyx]

*When this video knows my struggles than my own parents a h a*

[JoamG]

Being too nice is hard.

You don't know how to say no when you need to. People takes you for granted. Thinking other's problems will affect you as well. And not all people deserve second chances. Sometimes, it's better to just forget. I know this because I get bullied and get picked on for being too nice. I always follow my "friends" but they don't even think of me the same way. Now I'm devoured by my depression because I barely have any love left for myself.

[hayaorfali]

When the whole video explains ur life...

[jsarenefilms]

I hate saying "no" because I'm a afraid that people will think bad things about me like : "ugh she's so lazy" or "it's just a small thing why can't she do it for me?".

[dailydoseofmedicinee]

People-pleasing always backfires and is a weakness that can hurt one personally and professionally. Nice is a weakness when you set yourself up to be taken advantage of, you do the lion's share of the work, and you come in early or stay late to compensate for the slackers at the detriment of your own needs.👍

[wisdom-for-all]

Givers have to set limits because takers rarely do. Do not give everything to people who give you nothing to anyone. Being too nice is dangerous sometimes 🖖

[NenaLavonne]

This is SO relatable. It took me forever to break this habit without guilt 💕

[sockie_sock]

I relate to this so much. My mom always say to me that I'm too kind for my own good, she's worried that people will take advantage of me. My friend is helping me to set boundaries for other people who'd control me.

[QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.”
― Ernest Hemingway

[stephgalaburri]

I trust people so so so easily. It’s like stranger danger doesn’t go off in my head. I’m this way because I want everyone to feel accepted and heard since I didn’t and still don’t always feel that way. In the end, I always end up with a broken heart. But then I see the next stranger and I do it all again.

[xoxo-gossipgirl]

*8 Struggles of Being too Nice*
1. you don’t know how to say no 0:55
2. you attract the wrong kids of people 1:21
3. everyone keeps asking you for favors 1:48
4. some people are suspicious of you 2:17
5. you’re afraid to speak your mind 2:44
6. you forgive people too easily 3:08
7. you feel guilty putting yourself first 3:42
8. you forget to be nice to yourself 4:10
*thanks for the video! 💛*