Avoid this BIG red flag, when choosing a partner! You'll thank me for sure.

I’m Shridhar, a Counselling Psychologist. I share with you a red flag you should avoid before marrying your partner, which is the trap of a mama's boy.

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0:00 Intro
1:02 Signs to look out for when it comes to mama's boys
1:29 Ways to avoid the trap #1 Do not be impressed by the devotion
2:20 Ways to avoid the trap #2 Do not put anybody on a pedestal
2:58 Ways to avoid the trap #3 Family decisions are finalized by the couple
4:02 Questions to ask your partner
5:49 Answers to validate the questions
7:10 Survey responses on this problem
10:49 Do your thoughts need air ventilation?

[aditi.chaudhary]

After watching this video.. I really don't want to get married 😂

[mswr]

I agree this. No matter how good the boy is with you but if he shut ups in front of parents.. it’s hopeless.. stay away from boy who is too emotionally attached to his mom

[pushpalatamohan]

I am 66 now . Got married at the age 37 and my hubby a doctor 44. Lived in a joint family with his younger bro family and my ma in law . Both boys were mama s boy . Suffered a lot everything was decided by ma in law . Not allowed to go out . But those days we put up with the nonsense because thought of parents and the child . Decision to leave was not that easy those days . My ma law and hubby no more . I am alone with my daughter. She has completed MS OBSTETRIC AND GYNECOLOGY and working as SR. RESIDENT DOCTOR IN A renowned hospital . Lookng out for grooms now . Your videos help in guiding as a single parent. Thank you Sridhar . Your style of talking and conveying is impressive . Marriage is a indeed a gamble, risks are involved . God and karma helps us

[ravinamazumdaar]

Absolutely right! This is specifically true for the Indian culture . Thanks for being so direct . I think both men and women need to hear this .

[PittyPixels]

That's why being single is more safe and satisfing

[PragatiVyas-pu]

Sometime it's not only mama's boy but Papa's boy, sister' boy, brother's boy also.😂

[anaghaunnikrishnan]

You are so right sir.Went through a similar mess and ended up in divorce.He is so devoted to them that he rationalises them insulting me over my colour, job, education etc.And also refused to move out with me when I refused to live with his abusive parents.

[kavitabhojwani]

Yes, my daughter is in such trap, and now she is regretting and contemplating divorce

[vaishalisontakke]

This problem is very traumatising. Very prevalent in India. You can never guess anyone from just the set of questions. Also one more eye opener for girls who want to marry a child of single parent mother. and If the guy is mumma's boy. Because of sympathy that mom did not have stable partner through out her life. You will have to adjust to any changed decision for her. your needs won't be prioritised. you will have to come back home early as she is lonely. Will have to skip couple's vacation. Some days you will have to stay alone because she want to have alone time with her son. So if the mom is not having any hobbies, doesn't know how to spend her own time. Will be always a third wheel in the relationship. Girls go into details about this topic before marriage. As children of single parent may or may not stand up for you.

[musical_]

I recently said NO to a guy because he was exactly like this, and everything that has shown in this video. Now I can proudly say that I had
made the right

[SMRITIPATHAK]

Then why do these type of guy's marry live with ur parents simple ..save a girl's life ..lord ...such men are so dependent ...😅

[shyamalidasgupta]

Thank you . This is so true for India . Thank you for talking about it. Women face a lot of criticism for pointing it out.

[sobiaali]

I wish I knew this before getting married.. having said that, there was no way I would know about his behavior before living with him!!

[tithi]

Thank you for this content. Since it feels more real or let's say justified, having an Indian talk about these red flags. I dodged a bullet (a spineless ex-boyfriend who couldn't even mention about us to his parents in our 10 years long relationship and ended up marrying by his parents choice within 10months from the separation) and here I am continuing with my higher studies. Sadly, I am hearing such things happening with my elder cousin (married) and feel for her but deep down I know she lacks the courage to stand-up for herself. We have a complicated past as in, among her parents and mine, so I rather not instigate her too much with my ideas but it makes my blood boil to see her yet awestruck by her husband who treats her like nothing in front of his other family members. Some people just can't be helped I guess.

[YashR.]

What do you do if you're married to a mama's boy and the situation is not improving? How do we navigate our relationship with our partner then? Coz I think our love for our partner will slowly die with every such unfair incident and treatment.

[selfimprovement]

Please release a video about red flags in women we need to look out for.

[manishkhedkar]

I am a Man, and believe me I listened it throughout. Only bcz I am very much balanced out.

[problemsolution]

Small children n old aged people get a lot of sympathy in our society. They have innocent faces n r dependent. But they can have evil minds too. Don't just judge the kids n old aged people with their dependence n innocent faces. People make biased opinions against the young people because they think the kids n old aged people can't be wrong. If a 60 yr old woman slaps her dil, it's her right. But if she slaps her back then she will be considered evil. Respect has nothing to do with age. Only cuz someone's born before u that doesn't give him/her to disrespect u. Respect has to be mutual irrespective of the age. It's not called good culture to let an older evil do anything she/he wants in the name of respect n culture.

[kafir]

I have been married for 18 years now, but my husband was a mama's boy . Mine was an arranged marriage. We lived with his parents and un married elder brother . Every time they will all team up and talk against me . I was like some person they hired to do housework. My husband would discuss everything with his mother. I felt so lonely in their house . They never wanted to know me, including my husband. They just wanted a lady to understand them and just be a part of their family. I was allowed to wear only a saree. I even tried to run away . Then someone suggested having a kid will help . But nothing changed . Finally, We moved to the US after my husband got a job here, but I could never forgive him . I am in this relationship for my kids . It's sad how I feel about this. Please make a wise decision. It's a lifelong struggle. He may be a good guy, but he is not the one for me . and I am sure I am not the one for him .

[problemsolution]

My husband says that "halwa hai kya ki bas shaadi ho gayi toh tujhe priority dunga? Mere parents ne mere liye sab kiya hai. Tune kya kiya hai? Agar achhi dowry milti ya tu mujhse jyada kamati toh mai consider bhi karta. Tujhe priority sacrifices aur kaam karne ke baad milegi, after 30 yrs. Basically, he prioritises the ones who has more contribution in his life. And blood relations r more important in his community n wives are considered an outsider unless he has spent 30 yrs with him n slogged n sacrificed for his family. Thats his n his community's idea of a wife or gfs like Luv Ranjan's films. Moms are angels n wives/gfs r cruel. My question is the wives starts prioritising her husband right from the day one of her marriage over her parents without the man sacrificing, slogging for her n her family or giving her a large sum of dowry? And the middle men who say that the girls see their salary before marriage is cuz she wants a stable life. Atleast she doesn't have to beg to her parents if u r in a financial crises or have an health issue. Otherwise, how much really does a man spend on his wife in a middle class family? The salary is mostly spent initially on his parents n siblings n then on the children. A middle class wife never spends the husband's money on herself, instead saves it for the time of crises. Just cuz the girls inquire ur salary before marriage doesn't justify ur demand for the dowry. And u spend ur income on ur parents cuz they raised u. Does ur wife do the household chores of her own parents cuz they raised her? A daughter never contributes anything to her own parents. Thats the reason sons r still more desirable. And if ur husband says that u do the household chores cuz u stay in my house n i feed u then a wife must answer that u r the one who has kept me in ur house n I'm feeding on ur salary, ur parents don't feed me. Why should I work for them? Do u earn for my parents cuz I work for u? U only feed me, not my parents. I too will only work for u, not ur parents. If marriage is business then so be it. Itne me itna hi milega.