7 Relationship RED FLAGS You Should NEVER Ignore

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[sixfeetunder]

If they never have time for you but for everything else 🚩

[noah.hamrick]

My favorite term recently was calling things “deal breakers” instead of red flags, it helps you clarify what you actually want in a relationship

[Rae-euzb]

Often people with childhood trauma attract narcissists. I also acknowledge that a lot of people throw that term around.

[Theresa-Lottodo]

Attracting one toxic person after another is a thing. Learning self respect will turn that around.

[PeytonHelmProductions]

Dude if they’ve EVER cheated for any reason I’m out.

[Healing_Oaks]

Never takes accountability and always puts the blame on everyone else

[tjbohmier]

Your 7 red flags presented here are just golden! Yes, sadly many of us have all been guilty of not grasping them until the relationship ended. Learn those lessons.

[discopotato]

My last relationship. Recent break up. Covert Narc. And I ignored so many red flags. Because they seem to realize them when they appear and act "extra" to cover them. Pulled the wool over my eyes. I don't take the year as a waste. It was definitely a learning experience.

[onecrazytruckinfarmer]

She said she wasn’t by her phone whenever I’d call or text but when we were spending time together she was always on her phone.

[maggieborek]

Peoples core values can also change as they grow older. Couples need to grow together in a relationship

[wagenna]

Great video.
An addition to Red Flag 4: People who take ownership for their own past toxic behaviors might just be telling the truth about claiming their exes were toxic. That is because toxic people attract each other. I have been in a few relationships with toxic women and I now know it's because I suffer from borderline personality disorder and was the other side of the coin. I had extremely low self-esteem, they had extremely high self-esteem and were entitled. But the truth is that I was toxic as well in all my victimhood and by letting them run all over me.
Now that I have been in therapy for several years and am enjoying the process very much I would again date women with a troubling track record, if they were self-reflexive and would show that they are working on themselves with the help of professionals.
What I have really learned in my process is this: Growth is hard, but it's possible and it's possible for toxic people as well. And they need help! I for sure did. I wouldn't be where I am now if it wasn't for people that helped me.

[sven_the_giant]

Something that a lot of guys fail to do early in the relationship is they don't set healthy boundaries with their girlfriends. No boundaries. No respect. Also, if you don't stick to those boundaries. No respect. Let your woman know that contemptuous verbal assaults will not be tolerated. If they cross that boundary, take space and don't give them the gift of your time. They'll get the picture real quick.

[caseywatson]

I just got out of a relationship with a guy who recently told me he cheated on me. Red Flag 4 really hit me because he would constantly demonize his exes...but after we broke up it made me realize that he very well had to be a large part of the problem as well. Proof you don't actually know someone fully in the first year or so of dating.

It hurts, but I am letting go of the idea of the relationship and moving forward with that knowledge for the future.

[atommindproject]

Learn where they live, with who and make sure to visit their place at least once.
You will be surprised how you may be dating someone who is already in a serious relationship or married, but hiding it from you. So, make sure you also keep track of their main story of where and with who they live also about their family. Those are the areas where they will have the lie and where you need to have the most clarity.

[disha_shetty]

Please do a video about red flags in friendships and how to identify fake friends because your videos are so accurate and I love your advices. I want to learn more about friendships and how to save them if they're going to crash.

[andersnielsen]

To me one BIG red flag in a woman is if she promise me something and then forget it or ignore that she promised it... And then makes defensive arguments like "I did not think that you remembered or that it was such a big thing"..

[Tarantulisimo]

i was so in love with this woman (& so f*cked up in the head over it), & the sh*t was so dysfunctional that it got to a point where i actually thought that getting her pregnant & marrying her would "finally" solve all of our issues --- THANK GOD neither happened.

[borrisdillan]

ALL OF A SUDDEN I WOKE UP LOSING INTEREST ON SOCIAL MEDIA APPS LIKE FACEBOOK, INSTAGRAM ETC.... I JUST REALIZE THAT MY HAPPIEST YEARS ARE THOSE FROM THE TIMES THAT SOCIAL MEDIA NEVER EXISTED YET..
THIS IS TRUE.. LESS STRESS LESS TOXIC PEOPLE AND NO ONE WOULD EVER KNOW ABOUT YOUR LIFE AT ALL..

[brooksroth]

I've come to realize that you cannot expect someone to change to suit you. If you explain what the problem you have with them is and they ignore it or try to gaslight you leave. One of my rec flags is if they think they are always right even if confronted with evidence to the contrary.

[elainevogel]

Great video. Dated someone for 9 months, ignored so many 🚩🚩🚩and always made excuses for his behavior. Two months ago he breaks it off and immediately goes back to his ex-girlfriend. I was totally blindsided and angry, mostly at myself for not ending it sooner… He’s 65 and I’m 60. Apparently emotional maturity doesn’t necessarily come with age 😢