Don’t Ignore This Red Flag in Men 🚩

[FriskyTendervittles]

You just summed up my seven year relationship. Ugh

[Lottedbruyn]

I love it when a man knows what he wants. THAT is very sexy to me. A man who makes decisions.

[Ana-rbws]

These type of men will push the woman out of her feminine role and into her masculine role, and pretty soon she will come to resent him for having to do all the ‘work’ in the relationship. It’s better to leave them be and figure themselves out first. These kind of men basically haven’t spent time reflecting on who they are, what’s their life goal, and what they’re building in their lives, so they don’t know what kind of woman is right for them. That’s why they let the woman lead.

[GirlieMouse]

I dealt with this once. Never again. That relationship stole my peace

[thecuratedfeminine]

Love this ♡ men who struggle being in their healthy masculine are the ones who struggle to be decisive

[naysmne]

Been there for 4 years ! It was so unfulfilled and emotionally draining. I felt like have to step up and suggests things to make things work. If I never mention, we never meet up/ progress. It was major lesson learned. Never again initiate with man.

[JTheSharklady]

As someone who dated my “i don’t know” men let me tell you one thing. Most of these are not only indecisive but afraid to take responsibility. They would rather let the woman lead than do what they really want because they can’t take blame. But be assures the moment shit hits the fan they WILL blame you for making the wrong decision and push the whole relationship on you saying they never wanted any of this. Major red flag. Funny addition, I also dated a woman like that, it was even worse. I don’t believe in leading anymore, both should be at the steering wheel. If it is not like that I am not interested. Co-lead or leave.

[sofiahasoshyn]

Literally me with my ex. Hated the fact that I had to do all the thinking and making plans for the future for both of us because he wasn't initiative and would just "go with the flow"

[DewyMoonlight]

My poor husband used to be an IDK man, turns out he was just the son of a woman with narcissistic tendencies 😂 before judging someone by a phrase try to know them a little more. He's now someone that I could never imagined he was if I didn't take the chance to know him a little bit more.

[ReignofAragon]

Yes very much so then after 21yrs of dealing with HIM. he'll get sick of it and decide YOU ARE TOO CONTROLLING and he wants a divorce. Welcome to my life. Not worth it.

[manoflegacy]

I would argue she's not describing men but boys. A man must have vision and be intentional with his life leading himself first before he can lead in a relationship.

[chezzaluna]

I don't mind leading as long as we are on our way to my goals.

[NadaAlawadhi]

Guys who give you unsolicited advice and try to change you based on their standards and what they see as good vs bad and tell you they’re actually doing you a favor without listening to you and your needs and act like the good angels. Screw that. They’re just manipulating you to be what they want and do what they say.

[Amira-zk]

I‘m in a relationship with someone like this. We‘re both 18 so I‘m patient and hope he will find himself but it can be exhausting to feel like I have to always take the lead. I feel like it doesn’t come natural to him at all.

[harithasubramanian]

Another version of this is the “whatever you want” all the time men.

[TheFallenGamer]

I don't know what I want but I know I want a successful relationship and job. A family that I can support. I don't know my goles yet but that's what I want in a relationship

[Esprite]

So true! It can get echausting at multiple levels, especially if a woman wants joint leadership or partnership with them. The woman who finds this leading all the time, for those rare women he may be the right one.

[redefinedliving]

i am so so in the right track. lol, i have a deep knowing of the right person. i hate guys who dont know their type what they want in a woman lol. it means they only like who likes them back

[AM-utdg]

Here’s the problem with the I don’t know man: sometimes he can pretend that he does know. And then you find out he was just agreeing to go along with whatever you wanted to placate you because that’s easier than figuring out what he wants and taking charge on it himself. This is how I stayed in a relationship with my wishy washy ex for 6 years— breadcrumbing!!!

[NotEvenOverThere]

Sometimes people might not wanna share their innermost thoughts with you but you should be able to make decisions