How To Recover After Narcissistic Abuse?

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[lucijavolcansek]

Love is not forgiving ppl who dont care. Love is truth. Love is not what it looks like Love is what it feels like.

[elsh]

My ex literally told me love is incoherent, and hate makes sense.

How I didn't run away at that is mind-boggling!!

[midnightpaperparty]

The very first thought I have - kindness. Love is kindness, and it all flows from there. Unkind things, meanness, are straight up not love, and the two don't belong in the same space in any shape or form, so don't let anyone tell you anything different.

[anngranit]

I could never concentrate having such a good looking

[eps]

1 Corinthians 13:4–8a (ESV) Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.

[alextomlinson]

Love is positive emotions towards another.
Love is seeking understanding.
Love is non judgemental.
Love is caring, helping, sharing.
Love is sometimes selfless.
Love is NOT lust.
Love is NOT nervous butterflies.
Love is NOT having similar interests.
Love is NOT heightened hormones.
Love is NOT selfishness.

[BigBrolls]

If you're currently struggling with recovering from an abusive friend/partner/parent, here's my advice:

You have to become a bit of a narcissist yourself in order to effectively set boundaries in the future. You need to allow yourself to be grandiose without going overboard with it. Detach your perceived sense of self-worth that was given to you by the narcissist and "narcissistically" impose your own on yourself. Clear your mind of whatever the narcissist made you believe about yourself, destroy those walls and build back up again from the rubble. It will be difficult at first, but you'll be free eventually.

Don't worry too much about being seen as a bad person for standing up for yourself. You have to act like a narcissist sometimes to protect yourself, but don't worry too much about feeling bad about it when it happens, because that's the very thing that separates you from an actual narcissist: you can feel remorse for your actions, they cannot.

[Tee]

Every time I got in the car I spoke out loud in the present tense (this was often multiple times a day) and did just what Richard suggests.
My partner is passionate about life and about me and about us, he is honest, respectful, loyal, honourable, kind, talks to me for hours and is interested in my opinions, he likes to talk about problems and how we can overcome them. We can have a good fight and clear the air like adults, he never ignores me, he’s empathetic when I’m sick. He wants to do things with me. We laugh. We can be quiet in each others company and there’s nothing wrong.
Love is not saying ‘I love you’ every few months…. it’s ACTING like you do all the time

[organizefocusrelax]

At this point I don’t want to be loved only respected.

[davidlarkin]

Brother I just wanted to say thank you for all your videos. When I first saw you this year I really didn’t feel like I wanted to listen or receive your advice probably because you have such a strong alpha personality. But after researching lots of your videos I have been able to see your all round genuine desire to really help us and I have seen you at your lighter side taking the piss out of yourself and I have the greatest respect for you and all you do for us . Thanks for my life back and showing me the road I need to build myself back up again. Truly appreciated.

[PokinStaR]

My definition:
Love is choosing to bring value while expecting nothing in return. (No ownership, no merits or thank you. Nothing.)

[ginny]

Thank you so much for all of your help! I’m working hard on myself, on my healing and setting healthy boundaries etc. I hope to be able to help others as well one day. That all I’ve survived is worth something, because in reality I shouldn’t have lived. I’m so grateful for people like you that have made me feel understood and know I wasn’t just crazy. Thank you with all my heart!❤🙏🏼

[CroisMoi]

I love your new book, Richard. I especially liked the bit about praying 5 times a day. I found an app that notifies you and shows you your prayer list. It is nice to be reminded.

[alexchudilovski]

It takes two to create conversation. To accuse somebody of narcissism is vast generalisation!

[izawaniek]

Absolutely the case! We must redefine what love is! And when we change our internal understanding what love is, we will recover. Thank you so much.

[inserter]

After discard, you have to live with it all eating you up . 💔

[RedEarthAA]

I've been saying all of me needs to change for a very long time.
You just said ...more eloquently...total transcendent philosophical change.
Since finding you, I now know why and a path of how. Thank you

[MaryRich-kuqm]

It broke me like a horse and isolation was all I wanted... this was not a husband or a boyfriend someone very close to me so bedazzled by their love and charm I didn't see it all!! I thought it was all me this was a knockout punch for me!
When I withdrew myself from this situation then God showed me who was residing in this dangerous mind... they are capable of much evil and there's nothing we can do until something terrible happens!
Again my sincere gratitude

[MaryRich-kuqm]

I never knew this really existed just on the news! This knowledge just gave me a breath of fresh hope!

[aurora]

Thank you for the light you share with those of us that live with this pattern. It is so hard to break out...and stay out.