How To Handle Difficult People & Take Back Your Peace and Power

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Today, you are getting research-backed strategies for handling difficult people.

In this episode, you will dive deep into how to respond to disrespect, gaslighting, and exactly what to say when someone tries to brush off their behavior with, “I was just joking.”

You and Mel are both learning from trial lawyer Jefferson Fisher, who is known for his straightforward advice, tips, and tricks on how to communicate better.

Jefferson is here to teach you exactly what to say (and what not to say) when you're dealing with a difficult person:

If you’re tired of being talked over, dismissed, or made to feel less than, it’s time to learn the techniques that will help you walk into any conversation with confidence—and walk away with your power intact.

You’ll learn how to:
Stand up for yourself without being unlikable.
Handle disrespect without losing your cool.
Stop arguments before they start.
Set boundaries without feeling guilty
Reclaim your confidence in seconds
Handle fake apologies and toxic conversations like a pro

After today, you’ll have the exact tools to protect your peace, reclaim your confidence, and navigate any difficult conversation with ease.

I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode.

In this episode:
0:00 Welcome
4:38 Understanding Difficult Personalities
9:10 Techniques for Dealing with Conflict
23:27 Handling Belittlement and Disrespect
28:36 Dealing with Rude Behavior in Public
31:05 Responding to Difficult Personalities
35:09 Understanding Gaslighting
42:15 Communicating with Narcissists
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[ginger.that.]

The first thing about standing up for yourself is knowing when to do it, because not everyone is worth getting out of your chair for.” - Jefferson Fisher

[dejanetherealtorla]

“That’s below my standard for a response”. ❤

[caws]

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

[LifeandTravels]

I’ve written no more than five comments in social media my entire life. I had to comment on this podcast and say Mel, please bring him back. I could not get enough of him. He is brilliant!

[jenniferfowler]

" Let your first word be your breath! " Perfect!

[HeatherBosshardtMusic]

Confidence is very quiet, insecurity is LOUD!!. 🤯

[txspacemom]

Can we add in that this will never work with narcissists? They will not respond in any positive way, with any technique I have tried. After years of mental abuse by an emotionally void, mentally immature man, I just had to leave. I was always calm and I was told I was being crazy and demanding and that I never listened. This only works with people who want to better their relationships.

[CourtneyFrantz-crwv]

This man is brilliant. I need to listen to him in my sleep and retrain my brain so his approach to situations become instinctual to me like the are to him. Thank you for hosting Jefferson! i can’t wait to get his new book.

[maureenjacobsen]

I’m 73, this podcast was just what I needed. Thank you.
Quiet is confident 👍 loud is insecurity.

[DeanReynoldsMusic]

They delight in your anger the same way they delight in your praise! This guy!! ❤

[aries]

This man is 100% dedicated and invested into helping people truly make changes that will last a lifetime. I am so grateful that you chose to schedule him as a guest. He leads by example and we can all learn something from him. I have been nice my entire life, and I can't tell you how many people have drained me and tried to make me bitter. I always choose to rise above, but what he has demonstrated will make me even stronger. ❤🙌💪

[mairaurena]

Mr Fisher is made out of kindness and that’s what this world is in need of. Thank you

[ginger.that.]

“There are people in this world who are truly hurting, and they came into this world hurting long before they met me.” - Jefferson Fisher

[HorizonSearch]

Fascinating how much of conflict is really just misdirected fear or insecurity. It’s almost like emotional aikido (redirecting the energy rather than absorbing or resisting it).

[mixanderfigueroa]

In a world full of negativity and people who encourage others to indulge in negativity and hurting others, this is refreshing. Spread positivity and love, not hate or animosity. We need positivity more than ever

[allentubman]

How often you take things personally is how much grace you choose to give other people. Wow, that's deep. I needed to hear this. Thanks.

[sakinariquidevereaux]

This was GOLD! I saw MYSELF as the difficult person AND saw how i could handle difficult people or topics better!!!! I’m definitely going to watch this over and over!!! I need this in my SPIRIT!!!

[MustangCely]

I recently had to let go of a friendship with someone who repeatedly disrespected, gaslit and would give silent treatment (all self absorbed narcissistic behaviors) - I used some tactics like this but with no resolution so I had to distance myself- peaceful since then. ❤

[benedictlam]

Two of my favourites in the same room talking about conversation hacks - this is gold.

[sherristevens]

Jefferson communicates with such WINSOME WISDOM! I have never heard a man communicate with such a gentle kind tone! He is strategic without being manipulative! What he teaches is TOTALLY PROFOUND!!!!😍😍😍